Wednesday, 07 July 2010
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Life Without Romance: Better Or Worse?
Seriously, when God made this world why didn't God think "hmmm... perhaps asexual production would be the best bet...."
A huge amount of our time is spent on our committed relationships or if you're single how to get into a committed relationship, or if you're not ready for commitment, how to get some action...
What would the world be like without romantic love?
- There would be a lot less crappy movies. (*Clears throat*...... Dear John....)
- No more crappy romance novels.
- No divorce.
- No broken hearts or broken families.
- Less reasons to be so obsessed with looks.
- Less women starving themselves.
- Basically a goodbye to the objectification of women (and of men.)
- Less people complaining about being single.
- Less amount of time wasted trying to find the perfect someone. (Perhaps more energy spent on solving global poverty... though that might be too idealistic on my part!
) - Less reasons to be jealous.
- Less reasons to be selfish.
- Less reasons to feel lonely or left out.
Just my general pondering... but what do you think?
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I guess these are true, but I'd suffer all of that for the feeling you get when you love someone and they love you. It's the best feeling in the world.
I actually agree. I've never had a boyfriend, and it honestly kills me because all of society ever pressures is the "perfect relationship," through sappy films like The Notebook, Dear John, Remember Me, and the Twilight Saga. I declared celibacy and I'm not even Catholic
Those are all symptoms of false loves and romances. The solution isn't to condition ourselves to feel we don't need committed exclusive relationships. It is to learn how to read whether someone is compatible with ourselves for a committed exclusive relationship before any "action" takes place, in order to know that it's the real deal when it happens.
worse.
Different strokes.
I think there would also be less depression, less seperation anxiety, less body image issues, less homosexual hate crimes and descrimination, no hate crimes committed against interracial couples, and less feeling dependent upon others for happiness.
Meaningless.
Romantic love does not result into any of those at all (Okay, maybe the movies and novels), but the other stuff, nah. Some of them, sure, but romantic love is definitely not the cause.
Really? Come on, there are way too many variables.
For example:
1) No Divorce
----> Divorce happens because there is no romantic love, just an illusion. OR someone cheats on someone else, and probably doesn't believe in love in the first place.
2) Less reason to be obsessed with looks
----> We are obsessed with looks when we're little kids. Not because of romantic love, but because we want to be accepted by peers. "Romantic love" comes later on in life (so yes, again, romantic love does some damage, but not all of it)
Surely, I can probably go down the list (no hate crimes? seriously, that has nothing to do with romantic love, that's race).
Rather than say romantic love, say something like sexual reproduction or sex in and of itself. Romantic love seems way off target. Or maybe the idea of love, I don't know.
I am extremely sorry. i reread my post and I felt I sounded a little too harsh (or like a complete jerk).
I just felt these were huge assumptions. I could see some humor in the post though.
I would say that is because God doesn't exist and sexual reproduction allows for only the better genes to be passed to future generations via sexual selection unlike asexual reproduction. But I'm sure most people don't want the truth. So I'll just say that God made sexual selection so we could experience the joy of love and romance and help us get closer to him.
interesting for sure
less reasons to buy her lots of romantic gifts and show her sweet gestures out of love
more sleeping around like animals and then get bored because there won't be the playing hard to get romantic chase when romance is dead so loosey gooseys will be the norm
@ToriCheske@xanga - I like to think of myself as an unofficial, self-proclaimed non-Catholic nun, so I get where you're coming from :D
@Nominatim@xanga - Bravo, i couldn't find the words to respond to the post, but you did it quite well.
I don't care..I'm willing to risk everything for love and whatever then have it not at all.
also less reproduction, less idealism, and less possible things to hope for.
anyway, if all pros and cons are equal in weight, so which ever side has more is the stronger position. let's look at the existence of humanity itself.if there were no humans there would be no:rape, extortion, murder, crimedepression or illnesssickness, deformity, or depravity(there would be no) hate, intolerance, or bastardization of justiceno more art, music, weapons, drugs, political power... et cetera
and the only things that a world without humans would 'miss' are:technology and selective bred flowers.cliche dramas; on camera, and off.irony, poetry, and other abstract thought (like 'missing'). and maybe the pets left behind.
simply we wouldn't be missed, cause we arn't missable.
this is not a straw man; thinking a variety of ideas have equal weight, will create biases in evaluation. it isn't always what makes us the same that makes us valuable. and the same with ideas. an infinate amount of evil is required for an eternal good. so with that limited evil, there is limited good. finding the good to be marvelous to the point of creating an ideal, which is 'just a little bit more', is the most human thing to do.
there are bits about being human that i hate, but i wouldn't change those in humanity, just myself. you don't have to believe in love (rational, unconditional, romantic, w/e), most people don't, but notice it doesn't fit the requirements for rational and logical evaluation. we arn't dealing with a god, which can be discussed and disproven/invalidated logically, but an idea which is entirely subjective. to me romantic love is the result of unconditional love to the point of mutual comfort, so big brash passionate things are invigorating.
you can say that romantic love is stemmed from eloquent pickup lines; maybe cause the fear drives the passion hotter. these two ideas are so completely disharmonious that discussion is impossible, even moreso if you prefer being dominated or similar; and i don't exist remotely in that mentality to the degree it is possible to discuss.
conflicted feelings are (humorously) at the heart of both the discussion of love, and flirting. and it is this conflict of experience/expectations which make human interaction interesting. without love, would life be worth while?
Romantic love is great while it lasts, but once you get heart broken it's the worst thing in the world and you wish it didn't exist. I'd have to say at this moment that I am glad to be in romantic love, but when I get my heart broken I will feel differently.
it definitely would be lonely.
I like it the way it is, and even when single, never would have wanted romance to stop existing.
I wouldn't want to live in such a world.
@Kara_K - I was thinking the exact same thing. Most of these aren't a result of "romance" at all. Romance itself is a result of our need to procreate (it is advantageous for us to create positive romantic experiences in order to keep a mate). And our need to procreate and advance the species is cause of most everything here. If we removed romantic love from the equation, people would still feel the need for companionship and procreation. They'd still desire not to be single; there would still be emphases on appearance of women. The only things from the list that would really be impacted are the first two, in my opinion.
it'd be boring as fuck though.
I think it would be freaking great! I would do just find with the platonic love of my close friends and the agape love of my family. And maybe then I wouldn't have to abide by this pesky moral code and just go out at get laid. har.
I agree heavily with number 11. It's so ironic how love and relationships, something that is supposed to be completely selfless makes people their most selfish.
Um, no families at all. :(
And 11 is completely backwards.