Sunday, 04 July 2010
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Work Affairs: Tell Me I'm Not Alone
My manager and I have recently taken a work relationship to the next level. This is not allowed at my job; between coworkers yes, but not with managers.
I'm mostly just curious, as to not feel alone out there, how many of you have have some type of affair, either with a boss or teacher, or someone you weren't supposed to be with?
How long did it last? Was it easy keeping it a secret? What happened after it was over?
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Well, my mom did it. The were both married to other people. When it ended badly, she had to quit her job because he was going to fire her for unprofessional conduct. Then he told her husband. Her former manager/lover slandered her to all prospective employers, and it took her six months to get another job, 30 miles away where no one had heard about her relationship with her former boss.
Subordinate/Manager affairs simply cannot end well unless you're extraordinarily lucky. Find a way out of it or quit your job and find another. That's it.
I've never had an affair.I've never been involved in a relationship like that.. but it really isn't a good idea. If you break up and your manager wants revenge, they have it. It's never a good idea to have an affair with someone who has any sort of power over you in the working world.
It didn't last long. We kept it a secret until it ended. Then he told everyone at work and resulting in me finding another job. That's my first and last office romance situation.
Do I know you? I feel like this happens a lot at my work place.
Be careful. Is he married, have kids? You're risking a lot for more than just the two of you.
i don't think it's worth it. i know so many people who have lost their job or been badly hurt because they were in relationship with a manager at their work place. i have been in relationships with co-workers but that's it.
So here is the scoop: it really isn't THAT big of a deal. Fraternization among employees and managers at my job is against company policy, but I have been in a relationship with one of my managers. He had to transfer stores and that was it. We lasted for a little over a year and by the time we split up he had all ready quit. Currently I am dating/living with one of my employees. We started working together first, then hung out a few times after work, and the next thing you know, here we are. Two other employees know that we're living together and in a relationship, some know that we've had sex, the rest just suspect it and no one has the cajones to confirm it. It is scary at first, don't get me wrong. Especially because you worry about slipping up at work, but it does get easier and you'll figure out your own way to keep work/personal seperate.
I've done it twice, the first time I dated the guy for a two years, he was my manager, and he quit the job about four months into our relationship, me closely following. Currently, I'm in a less committed relationship with my current manager, although I was recently promoted so I'm a manager as well. No one knows about our relationship but there's been speculation, which we've carefully squashed. We're not official, but we hook up multiple times a week. I don't think there's anything wrong with office romances, as long as you plan ahead and are well aware of the consequences.
hahaha you give me hopeeeeeeee! i would love to have an affair with my manager. it's not allowed at my job, either, though.
Yeah I had a kinda thing with one of the managers at my old job. It didn't last long and as far as I know, nobody else knew; but then gossip happens at work XD That was one of my mistakes, one of the few I might consider taking back if I could... just be careful, make sure you're prepared for any potential consequences.
I am my boyfriend's boss at work, but we were dating before he started working with me.
I've never done this...xD