When I think of first dates, I generally think coffee shop, movies, dinner, cocktails... not a church service. But I was recently presented with that very idea. The logic was this..
It was a blind date, therefore he could be a psycho murder, so Church would be the safest date locale, just in case he tried to pull anything funny. But also, for a religious person, it proves that religion is also important and respected by the other person.
I, personally, have never heard of dating at Church before.. but maybe some of you have...
What do you think? Church on a first date -- Hot or Not?
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Seems about the same as a dungeons and dragons role playing event. Just a bunch of fantasy bullshit.
hmm i think in yorur case,since you've never seen him before and you are a church-goer, it isn't a bad idea. But I know that at some churches some people seem to leave the romantic connection they ave for one another behind because they do not want to be judged. It is a bit two faced...but that's not the point haha. Just saying it might be a different connection from say going to a coffee shop, or something like that.
I prefer coffee shops and dinner for first dates because youcan say things without feeling like other people are judging you.
there wouldn't be any first date if he suggested going to church...
Hahaha. I met my current SO online, and knew my parents would not approve of me meeting him in person because they are very strict and protective. (I live at home so have to follow their rules still). So, I decided to be sneaky about it and get him to meet me at church. Then when my parents asked where I met him, I said church-- not online. He lived an hour away so my parents were suspicious about why he ended up at my church to begin with. They ended up finding out, and it was a messy situation but we're still together! And I met him a year and 3 months ago. It seems like a silly way to meet someone but it was the safest route, and worked. haha.
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Ew. Not.
@babymeatball@xanga - I agree.
Not hot for me, but I could see it being cute for a religious couple.
NOT
I met one or two person from online at a regional church event, but they were just friends. If you are meeting someone that could be a potential partner in a relationship at church, I find nothing wrong with that if you never met him/her before and decided to meet at church.
no thanks. instant turn off.
I am a youth minister and I say NOT!
I mean.. seriously???
Not exactly hot for a first date. But maybe later. And it could bring up great conversation-afterwards ... Depends on how important your church is for you.
I wouldn't consider that as a date
Aren't you supposed to be quiet at church? How would you get to know anything about each other if you can't talk?
eh i dont date. i mean like, i dont really see the point you know? my idea of dating is more like hanging out with friends. its alot more fun that way =]
plus i think it would be cool if your bf'gf kinda person was like, you come to church with me =D hahahahaha idk for a date though.
Ew, no. If someone suggested meeting me in a church, there would be no date. Sorry.
NO. NONONONONO.
PRO-SCIENCE/LOGIC/SKEPTICISM ATHEIST SAYS NO.
no
Because this is a blind date, I would have to say no. If it were a church group hangout of some sort, that would be different - then you could actually get to know each other somewhat. A church SERVICE is not exactly the place to "get to know" someone.
If it weren't a blind date, I might give it more thought.
That is a ridiculous question. Hot? Seriously? No. Church isn't even MEANT to be hot, and I don't see why on earth it ever would be.
I feel like the only thing you'll get out of this is either 'no' or 'I'M NOT CHRISTIAN OMG' with a few exceptions.I'm an agnostic who hates having religion shoved down her throat. So no.
I'm going to go against popular opinion and say that a church is NOT a bad place to have a first date when you really, really think about it -- and yes it really is a safe place. I'm actually *not* a religious person and I too hate having religious statements shoved down my throat too so it would have to be when no service or event is going on at said church.
Remember that you are meeting a stranger and it's a first date where you two just talk for a little while to get to know each other.
Besides, it doesn't really matter what you do or where you go; it just matters who you are with. The bottomline is:
**You can have a great conversation anywhere -- even in a place like a church.**
uhm.... look at the people you're asking the question to. Are they in much of the same mindset and coming from the same background as you? if not, take their responses with a grain of salt! If they are, then have at!
I think it depends on the person/couple.
Personally, at my church, that would be hilarious, 'cause the guy would have to be really brave and solid to do that... but other situations are way different!
The question "hot or not" used in a church setting is a little weird. It's just asking for a secular answer in a sacred context. kinda sketchy!
@nodnarbassoon@xanga - Unless of course someone answering is religious. And still says "Not". Church is not "hot" and I really don't think it should be considered a place to "pick up" people or do dates. Church functions like picnics or something like that? Sure, but an actual church service, you don't even get to talk to the person!
@mcmeister89@mancouch - yes, for sure!