I have a friend who hopes she will never fall in love in the future. Why? Because she's scared of getting hurt, but deep inside she knows falling in love will give you happiness in the same time. I wonder, do we really need to avoid love just because of the fear of getting hurt?
All of us are scared of getting hurt. Who doesn't anyway? The question is ... Will you take the risk of getting hurt just to have a taste of happiness by falling in love?
I say go for it. Take the risk and put some trust, warmth, sweetness and everything that will make you both happy in it. Remember the feeling of love and put it in your heart. "Getting hurt" isn't something we should be afraid of. Though I admit it is hard to avoid getting hurt, let's just think of it as an experience. Not a bad experience, or a good one, but an experience we should remember. Getting hurt isn't something important, being happy is something that we should treasure.
I know lots of you may have been hurt by love or even scared of love.All I can say is life without hardship isn't life at all.Love isn't something we should be frightened of. It's something we should accept and fight for. To tell you the truth, I love being in love.
So tell me,should we take the risk?
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Of course we should! Love is about giving all you have, and maybe, just maybe, if the other person loves you, they will give you just as much back. :)
I am still debating this question myself... one say I say yes and the next day I am back to a no...
I think that it depends and when you meet a person that person will make the choice easier or harder...
Idk yet though...
Definitely. Otherwise you settle for being contended and that's just as bad as feeling nothing at all. You can't know what real happiness is until you've been properly sad, right?
i agree. finding love is worth the risk of getting hurt.
Definately take the risk. If you get hurt it is a great learning experience. Relationships are a great opportunity to learn and grow and you never know what the relationship could turn into :) There is nothing wrong with being careful with your heart but what is the point of living if you don't take risks?
I suppose I'm very much a hypocrite with this question.
When you're with someone you care deeply about, love is supposed to come naturally. It shouldn't be forced or even thought about much at all while in the process of developing. If you have expectations about love or come to believe saying "I'm not afraid to love" automatically makes you in love, you can end up very mistaken and very hurt.
Disregarding this, I really want to believe that no one should fear love enough to avoid it. If someone does find themselves unable to give everything they have for someone, they should figure out the reasons they are unable to do so. And they should commit themselves to slowly but surely "mending" the reasons and making them no longer apply to how they feel.
Trust goes a long way.
WHere's the excitemement in just watching love go out the window? We all need love in our lives.
Getting hurt is part of life. It helps you grow. You should never avoid a chance to grow as a person.
Yes.. it's worth it.
I know in my head love is worth the risk. Hell, living life itself is a risk. But translating it fully to my heart often proves to be a little more difficult...
Um, yeah. Not everybody lives, but everybody dies. Don't be one of the dorks that only ends up dying.
Like that quote: its better to have loved and have lost than never to have loved at all
I think that the hurt that you feel makes you grow as a person. Think about all the things in life that if you could never relate to if you didn't experience heartbreak of any kind. Those cheesy love movies, mushy poems, or how about all those love songs that meant nothing to you as a kid....but after your first heartbreak you understand what the meaning of the song is.
You should check out this book I read, I had the same reservations until I found this book, now I am confident that I can be in love and not get hurt because this book showed me what to look for. It's called Rage For The Justice Of Love and it's written by Tapiwa Chitembure. Click the book title to see the book page on the author's website, it talks more about it. I read it three times and have recommended to everyone. I was in the exact same situation, I had too many failed relationships that just left me sad, hurt, broken and confused and I let my heart grow cold to "love." But then I read this book and realized that what I thought was love, wasn't really love. It wasn't love that hurt me, it was just a person that hurt me. Love is something that cannot hurt someone, love is pure and love is a virtue and that is how it should be regarded. Anyways, just check it out! Haha.
nothing ventured, nothing gained. if you don't take the risk and put yourself out there, you won't find love. and even if love finds you, chances are you'll let it slip.
I wouldn't, I already have & I'm sorry but it isn't worth it when your heart gets broken.
you would think.
I took the risk with my best friend that I was in love with.
We're quite happy still today and we're comin' up on 6 months.
- John
It's always easier said than done.
sleeping > love
sleeping is warm and fuzzy, soft and gentle, accepting and hopeful, exciting and suprising, makes you grow (litterally), helps you out.... granted sometimes you get cold watter pourn on you while you are asleep and so you wake up ENRAGED. but the good things being stoped are what made you were angry.what of love? if love is a cute glowing relationship go for it. if lovers seem to tend to abuse you... maybe you shouldn't
@Shy___Away@xanga - . well said
I was in the same boat as your friend when I found out my ex used me for long-distance booty calls when his other sluts weren't around. Ridiculous, however, it hurts. Give her time, but don't let her hide from meeting new people. My friends wouldn't let me. When I finally met this one guy, he changed my life around and taught me that all men aren't disgraceful players who just want ass. He was kind and understanding when I told him how I felt, and helped me through, then told me his feelings for me. We'll be together one year in a few weeks. :3
Stuff works out pretty well after people get through that phase...I've had a bunch of friends go through it, too, and find wonderful guys after they calmed down. We all had pretty rotten luck with relationships before, haha.
thats retarded... of course you should!!! whats life without love, boring and catalogued and not worth living
love is all about taking chances and risks. if you don't take them, you'll never know what may happen. trust me, i've gotten my heart broken so many times already but i'm still optimistic that love is still out there if even i have to kiss a few more frogs and get my heart broken a few more times.
Sorry, nature says you have to.
Risks is all part of life, I'm afraid. You have to take them if you wanna get anywhere in life, even with love especially. But if your friend thinks it is worth it, then they will go for it. Everything in life is painful, take note of that. Nothing is ever easy, but sometimes you have to go through the heartache to get the sunshine at the end. It happens. If your friend thinks it is a waste of time, then life surely is for them, because they won't do anything.
I took risk and am happy with my best friend(dating =)) and I'm so in love with him.
no matter wat u do in life u will get hurt but sometimes letting urself fall in love will be a good thing bc that could be the one u are with the rest of ur life