Wednesday, 30 June 2010
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Confessions of a Makeout Whore
I didn’t get my first kiss till I was a freshman in high school. It was a very innocent kiss on the lips at my 15th birthday party. People cheered and watched as it happened, because I really didn’t kiss that many guys during my high school years.
Little did I know, I was destined to become a hookup machine.
By the end of my first semester of college, make-out whoring was the name of my game. At first I kept count, and I was proud of myself for all of the hookups I had. It was constantly my goal to add one more to the list.
When Christmas rolled around, I was already in the double digits. Making out gave me a high, a temporary thrill that I didn’t want to end. Every weekend was the same.
It went something like this: I would spend a while getting ready, while pregaming and listening to the latest jams with my best friends. We would take a few shots before leaving, to make sure we had a buzz. (Heaven forbid we rode "the drunk bus" sober!)
Then we would walk to the front of the lines into fraternity parties, and flirt with the cute frat boys until they would let us in. Once inside the party, we would find the bar and load up on drinks.
Since we didn’t like beer too much, we would look for the guys we knew in the frat houses and get them to feed us shots. This is about the point in the night where I would start to lose my bearings.
As soon as my buzz turned to tipsy, I took out my phone and the drunk texting would begin. My friends would ask me who I was texting, and then tell me to put my phone away because they knew this ritual always ended messily.
But I wouldn't ever listen. I would search through my contacts and text a handful of my recent hookups, hoping for a repeat. And when the boys didn’t respond, I cried. I cried like a sad, lonely, pathetic stupid little girl.
I hated feeling sad, and in my mind there was only one way to make it better —to find a new nightly hook-up.
So, I would leave my girls and “accidentally” bump into a hot guy. I would lure him in with seductive eyes and he would (usually) smile back at me. We'd then probably flirt a little, sometimes exchange numbers; then I would follow him to his room. This is where the kissing would begin (or, more accurately, would evolve from the hallway PDA).
This would eventually also turn into where the kissing ended.
I soon began to get in bed with these guys that I had just met, and things would get more intimate. The kissing would evolve into other sexual acts. I didn’t mind though. I genuinely thought that every random hookup would turn into a relationship.
Week after week I kept my hopes high and thought, “This one is different. He cares about me beyond the bedroom. Maybe we’ll date and fall madly in love.” This obviously never happened.
Always the same—the drinking, the texting, the flirting, the look, the boy, the hookup, the end. And this is the life of the makeout whore.
How do you feel about one-night stands? Have you ever had one?
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Ok, well, this is a repost from June 23rd, so I guess I'll just submit what I put the first time around. (Oddly enough I was the first poster on that one too...)
Yeah, see, I just never held any kind of delusion that any hooking up leads to a relationship. Then again, I also didn't want a relationship at the time.
PS- you were the girls that I would laugh at while drinking my beer most of the time. I don't mean that as a personal insult, but the antics of girls who pull that kind of stuff are rather amusing. Ahhhh... good times.
A. Frat parties suck.
B. Beer rocks.
C. No offense, but you're the kind of college girl my friends and I make fun of.
I'd never have a hookup but if that's what someone is into, fine with me. But usually as a rule a thumb I wouldn't assume relationships to follow. Though, it does happen. If you're looking for a relationship, that's not the best way to look.
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - haha i was just thinking that and had a group of college girls I was thinking of!
There's a time for that in college but if you don't grow out of it within a semester or two you're either going to need: years of therapy, mommy -to be books, or an std test
@sweet_imperfectionz@xanga - Hopefully not the STD tests. Or, I should say yes to the STD tests, no to a need for treatment.
I like these girls (when they like me). ;)
This made me laugh. I think most college girls go through this a lot. I can def relate. Just not as often. Oddly enough though, I'M the one that DOESN'T want a relationship with most of them, and they end up trying to pursue me. In my opinion, I don't want to waste my time on a relationship in college. I'm pretty sure many other college students feel the same way. Just have fun (without being a slut).
I've never had the urge to eve rhave a one night stand >< I'd have to have an emotional connection to the person. Plus, I don't really think I'd like to kiss people haha :P Kissing to me is very intimate and i think i'd get bored doing that for too long HAHA
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So I don't have anything against people who like them/have them at all, I personally don't think i'll ever have one
I was never a make out whore. I would flirt with every guy I saw though and give him a fake number though. It was to compensate for what a prude I was.
I've had a one night stand, and it's a waste of time. Never again. Only real relationships from here on.
LOL. what a joke. maybe it's cause you're so easy. get rid of "makeout" in the title. you just sound like a straight up whore.
"you were the girls that I would laugh at while drinking my beer most of the time"
"No offense, but you're the kind of college girl my friends and I make fun of."
Lawl.
Sleeping with a guy you just met isn't a good thing to be proud of. You are putting yourself at risk for soul-tides and STD. If you cannot stop, you may be what's considered being a sexaholic. Seek help!
is it bad that i can totally relate? not in college yet and i don't go all the way with them, but weekly random hookups are my thing right now. it's fine as long as you don't get too attached..but it's a vicious cycle to break.
No, I wouldn't even talk to someone that approached me for sex.
I have seen this cycle a billion times-and it isn't easy for a girl to break. The funny thing is most guys won't take you seriously-in other words you won't be relationship material in their eyes by hooking up all the time-hence the term "hit and quit" (unless you didn't go all the way with some of these guys)
making out with guys is so un-fulfilling. i want real relationships. i think i learned a little too late that if you want a real relationship, you have to make them want it... why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free...
I think that a lot of girls go through this stage. They don't really know what they're looking for and just don't want to be alone so they just hook up with guys, maybe hoping that it will go farther then it actually will, and keep on following the pattern. Most grow out of it though, and it might not be a bad thing... just a learning process.
I've never had a one night stand though simply for the fact that I really need to be in love with someone to do something physical with them and give my body to them.
I've had kissing episodes with boys that I had only met a few times but I wasn't expecting anything more from them then the kissing, because that's all I wanted at the time. Just someone to be close and kiss.
My best friend is EXACTLY like that, which means I end up being the person that has to look after the friends-of-the-guy while she's off dry humping in a corner somewhere.
I have had a couple of one-night-stands, and I'm not ashamed. & I tend to end up talking to guys most of the time I go out, but it's only because I get on better with them. It's weird how I'm notoriously flirty but hard to get, and my friend is the complete opposite. I love her though, and it's completely up to her!-s@mcmeister89@mancouch - Now that you mention it..Yeah it is *facepalm*
dang, i cant stand making out with ppl... therefore i have stopped.. which prolly sucks for those guys that get up in my face wanting to. But oh well something about kissing is not fun. But you sound like my friend haha i think its funny, its just fun you CAN have while youre young just be safe. && no i dont like one night stands, because its unhygienic
One night stands = ick and No.
I suggest you get therapy and help before you get any more hurt from these actions. Good luck.
I think you're more than a make out whore.. but I don't think you've realized. Potential relationships don't come from making out and doing sexual acts with a random stranger. Just think how many girls have done that before.. and those guys that you have hooked up with.. just think how many girls they have done that to.. It's all just for the fun and thrill at the moment.
I have had a one night stand before whom he initiated that he wanted something more (afterward), but I declined. There is nothing wrong with having a one night stand if you found someone whom you are attractive to and wanted to bang them (lol). Just make sure you know what you're getting yourself into and always use protection.
Ugh, the double standards in some of these replies is disgusting! I don't hear anyone calling the fratboys she's hit on sluts or whores.
I think either witnessing or experiencing this phase of college life is actually healthy for both sexes, as long as you're safe and don't have unrealistic expectations (as the OP unfortunately does). You're young, beautiful, healthy and so are your potential partners, and you're just starting to understand and accept your own sexuality. You don't have many responsibilities aside from school and maybe a part-time job. Live it to the hilt while you can!
It's something you'll grow out of eventually... and when you're 45, juggling a husband, three kids, a job and have put on an extra 40-60lbs, maybe you WON'T have that mid-life crisis because you've already experienced the wild life - and I doubt you'll pine for it. Accept who you are now and you'll be more likely to accept who you are when you're an adult, too.
If you're looking for a relationship and ultimately someone to fall in love with, you're doing it all wrong!! Not to be judgmental or cruel but do you honestly believe that by going to these kinds of parties, getting drunk and hooking up with random guys will eventually lead you into finding a guy who will love and respect you for who you are? I don't think so. These guys that attend these parties are looking for nothing but ass, not all but most, and they prey on girls like you because they know that you're gullible enough to go along with it.
Whether or not you're not proud to have a reputation of a make-out whore, you put yourself in that situation already, and itt is honestly going to make it 10x difficult for you to find a guy that'll take you seriously especially if you're just going around making out with any guy you see. You must have the looks if these guys are hooking up with you so finding a decent guy shouldn't be so difficult that's unless you're willing to give up this type of lifestyle. Until you change your habit, you'll continue to find yourself stuck in these types of situations.
wow thats really really sad. get out of those parties and find something beautifulx thats a toxic environment for a girl with dreams or high hopes
The perks of the hook up game: By the end of the night, misery is your only company.
@dasmeer@xanga - I think it's because the frat guys aren't the ones posting about it on Xanga.
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I 've never had a one night stand, or been a serial flirt. I don't have a problem with other people doing it as long as neither party is cheating or spreading STD's (or other bodily fluids.. heh). It's not for me though.