During a social gathering, one girl is retelling her tale of how she met her SO. Problem is, some of us know that's not how they met.
Her story has them meeting at a work function where they ended up working on some projects and developing feelings for one another. One thing led to another and they started dating and the rest is history.
The real story is that she met him through his wife (ex-wife now) at a work function.
They started talking and eventually became friends. The wife did not like how close they got and told him to choose staying married to her and to cut ties and contact with the other girl OR become single again and he can do whatever he wants. For a period of time, he did cut ties with the girl but that didn't last long and the wife eventually left him. So now, him and the girl are together.
I guess knowing the full story on how they met, I can sort of understand why she wouldn't want to tell people she met her man by stealing him from another woman. Another example is my girlfriend who's married now with 2 kids. She constantly tells people that she met her husband through mutual friends when the truth is they were set up by both their parents.
So my question to you is, have you ever lied or embellished on how you met your SO? Any particular reason why?
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I dunno, I'm pretty blunt when I say I met my boyfriend through mutual friends at a get together (to watch a movie) and he was quiet and rather dumbfounded when introduced, lol. And that we didn't really speak for years cause we were never friends until the months before we got together.
I know a couple who continuously insist that they met at a coffee house they both frequented in their highschool days; love at first sight. I know for a fact that it was an online dating site their freshman year of college. Whatever floats their boat.
I'll talk about how we met and got to know each other, but I cannot really tell my family how we got together because it involved alcohol. Maybe one day down the line I will be able to admit it, but I fear the wrath of my mother.
Nahh I've never embellished or lied.
My boyfriend came over my house one night and one thing led to another... We have been together ever since and very, very happy. However, we tend to leave out the sleeping together on the first date part. Sometimes, its just better to leave that out.
no, i've met all my boyfriends through school, so there's nothing terrible exciting to tell.
i met my current boyfriend in a painting class in college. last boyfriend in a french class in college..boyfriend before that went to my high school, we never really hung out during high school but we randomly bumped into each other in college and started dating after that.
If you're going to be embarrassed about how you met, you should make up something completely outlandish and unbelievable. I once told someone I met my then S.O. on a subway because I was the one that came up with the idea of making those speeches begging for money. I told them I made the speech, she took pity on me, and the rest was history. Of course no one believed me but that was the end of the questioning.
Jesus, you'd think people would know how to deflect a question.
Nope. I met my husband online. It's a bit more complicated than that though because I knew someone who knew someone who knew someone. But whatevs. lol.
i haven't, i understand why she would.
I met my husband on Match.com, but we also went to the same college, so if I think someone won't get the whole meeting-online-thing, I'll just say we went to the same college and let people assume that's how we met. Most of the time, I fess up to the online thing 'cause it's kind of a cute story, but sometimes I just don't feel like the judgement.
I never lied how I met the person when asked. I'd just tell them and if they want to make judgments, go ahead.. like I care.
I've left some of the truth out. I'm just not sure how appropriate how I actually met him was - and I'd like to save the misunderstandings and potential hassle. We did meet at school - so I'm not lying...it's just the how we met that is somewhat sketchy, I guess.
I don't... I mean... unless it really is one of those crazy once in a lifetime experiences, then who cares. Does it really matter how you met? I think it is much more important what came after that.
ahahahaha.... we met at a 4h event. both of us actually hated 4h and were in it to look good for college. its horrifically dorky so i try to prevent him from telling that story each time. haha. but we usually do anyway.
My SO and I met 2 years before we started dating. One night we were at a party and got very drunk. I told a ex-friend I wanted to hook-up with him. She ended up sleeping with him cause I got too drunk and she apparently did not like me for some reason. Then later that night he slept with me (I didn't know he slept with the other girl cause they had just met that night. But, I found out weeks later) Anyway I ended up moving in with him not even a week later. Now 2 years later we're engaged and have a kid but I always lie and tell people that we met through a mutual friend cause that is how we met. :) How we started dating is a whole other horribly embarrassing story I'd rather not tell at all to people I meet. Plus I get enough odd looks because of our 10 yr age gap lol
Hmm..never lied. Why would I have too? Well I met my current boyfriend on my first day of vacation 3 hours away and he happened to live 5 minutes away from me. The day we met I happened to have cut it off with an ex-boyfriend ironically. And then we clicked. 2 weeks later after the day we met we started dating. I wish I could tell you a fabulous ending but this all started at the beginning of the month haha.
@beaniesurf@xanga - thats kind of an awsome story
I sometimes fib about how my boyfriend and I met. We met online on this really random website on total accident. We were just talking and didn't know it would actually go anywhere. Some people think we met at a concert and very few people know we actually met online and they all think we met on facebook by a mutual friend. Which also isn't true, but it just seems really awkward to tell everyone how we met. I'm sure I'll start being more open about it, but when it first happened it was still like taboo to meet someone online. Now I know a lot of people who met online and so it feels less awkward then it did in 2007.
my parents never lied about how they met, she was pregnant, he was engaged to someone else and they met a bar where his band was planning... classy. i guess sometimes if the truth is interesting enough to be almost funny then you share it... even if its crazy.
Well, how we met isn't so interesting, but how we "got together" well, it's just, kind of.. wrong.
(His name is Chris.) We were friends throughout high school, but his sister was my best friend, so I always just looked at him as "my best friend's brother". A year after I graduated I found out he was in love with me, but I was already with someone else (which is why he never pursued me, he said I was always dating someone). One day (after we had both graduated) I was with one of my good friends, trying on swimsuits, and Chris was off at college. The friend that I was with was dating Chris's best friend and she was texting him while we were shopping, as I was texting my current boyfriend (I don't remember what was said, but we were fighting about something, as always, he was a total jackass). While I was texting my boyfriend I get a text from Chris saying, "Send me a picture. :)" Apparently he knew we were trying on swimsuits because my best friend told her boyfriend, who, in turn, told Chris. We texted the rest of the night and I completely forgot about the fight I was having with my current boyfriend. A few weeks later, my boyfriend and Chris were both fighting over me, it was ridiculous, but I liked the attention, so I kept it going. One would take me out to eat, the other would take me to the lake, and this is where my mom said, "Well now all you need is another one who can take you shopping!" (I love my mom for making me not feel like a bad person, even though I knew what I was doing was wrong, lol.) The thing is, I was honest with both of them, I told them what was going on, I told them that I couldn't choose, and they still fought over me! Insane! Anyway, I chose Chris. I'd known the guy since 3rd grade and he was legit, not to mention totally hot and way smarter than the guy that was my boyfriend at the time. And in about a month, we will have been together a year, and I love him more than anything. :)
i met my boyfriend through his ex-girlfriend. she (and the other girl he was dating on the side) are his ex's because of me. it's not a story i'm proud of, but it's the truth :)
Ahahaha .... that story isn't a fallacy, it's just not the complete truth.
We met at German Club. Simple as pie.
Nothing bad really; We met at work and then became best friends and it wasn't until I got back from Kansas that I realized I had feelings for him and that I didn't love my ex(bf back then) anymore and so I broke it off.
And we started dating and we're happy now =)
yes I have done that once... I even lied to my ex girlfriend about it. I told everyone it was by coincidence that we met - but I kind of planned that coincidence...
Hmm I always tell people how I met my SO truthfully. I guess it's never been embarrassing or bad the ways that I've met them.
Lying by omission.. by I can see her point of view :)