What? Not interested? Maybe I'm in need of a new flirting technique...
I am a huge flirt. I can't help it, sometimes I don't even know I'm doing it (which seems to be my excuse for everything, re:
sexsomnia.) So it's hard for me to pin-point exactly what my style is. But looking back on my history, I can tell there is definitely a pattern. First, I play coy, but with a hint of "bedroom eyes." Make them think, "who is this elusive lady? And why is she looking at me like a sex object, but she won't she engage me?" Then, after I've reeled them in with my mystery, I use my wit (some may call it a rapist wit.) Sarcastic remarks, that aren't mean or at the guy's expense, but biting nonetheless. Maybe some verbal sparring so they know I have a brain as well. So now they're thinking, "First she was a shy girl, now she's got jokes? Is there more? I must find out!"
At least, that's what I
attempt to do.... but I figured I should research some of my peers' techniques as well. Just in case mine backfires....
Fiona (FionaMay): I like to challenge guys. I'll subtly compete with them - who's smarter, who's funnier, etc (nothing loud though). No one picks up on competition like a male. Then I let them "win", and completely lay off. This may be surprising - but it has, thus far, been absolutely fail-proof.
Alexa (TheCatinTheCradle): For an introvert, I become extremely forward. I make sexy eyes, suggestive and raunchy jokes, and show them I am a force to be reckoned with-- it separates the boys from the men pretty fast.
Madeleine (stateofhart): I tend to be a somewhat flirtatious, bubbly person by nature, but when I'm in it to win it, so to speak, I definitely use my sense of humor to my advantage. Usually, I'll pair a couple well placed jokes with the classic "hey, you're kinda cute .. yeah I'm looking at you" eyes, and see what kind of reaction I get. If I'm lucky enough to get a phone number, then texting cute, usually witty messages is the next step.
Michelle (MichelleNose): I would have to say a little give and tug, though not physically. I'll give the guy a little, laughing or giggling at something he says, making him feel a teeny bit important and then retreat just when he thinks he's got me, leaving him wanting more of what I have to say or what I think, or just... me.
What is your flirting style?
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wow my flirting style is super minimal:
i sit there until someone approaches and they chat me up and i nod and smile on occasion and then they give me their number.. but they make sure im gunna text/call by taking my fone and calling their fone... thats the only part i need to fix about my flirting style
other than that my lazy flirting style coincides with my laziness in reality
Hah, Fiona's and Alexa's would work on me very quickly.
I smile constantly and laugh easily.
remembering to shower and wearing clean clothes
i would usually joke around like Madeleine (stateofhart).
I flirt like Fiona. the competition thing is something that guys aren't used to.
I don't think I absolutely do anything, but I've heard people say I'm very flirty. I might be hanging out with a lot of socially deprived people.