Tuesday, 22 June 2010
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Does Your SO Know About Your "Secret" Online Journal?
Have you ever met that one person that you just connect with, that you can tell EVERYTHING to, that's not necessarily a best friend but someone you want to be with eventually and that it might get there some day?
I think I've finally met him. We talk about practically everything to each other.I'm very tempted to tell him about my online blog even though I know I write some stuff about him on there...hopefully it won't freak him out too much. That's how open I am with him and I've never been able to be like that with any other guy.Have you ever shared your online journal/diary with someone you really like, if so, what was their reaction?
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Nope. There are some things you just need to keep to yourself because it's your own private thoughts.
No... I can share everything with my S.O. and if you need to hide things from him, you have issues with your relationship, and you shouldn't be looking to ANYONE else to substitute for them, online or otherwise.
no, i haven't. i've told him i have a blog, but that it's personal and he doesn't usually question it. the guy before him came really close to reading one. i deleted every post and put up a really long one just for him, but i never sent him the link. i don't really know all the stuff i've written on this, but if i were to share it with my boyfriend, i would definitely have to go through every post to see what i have written.
Yes, I've shared with my SO... he checks from time to time, but he prefers hearing about my life and my thoughts from me instead of a blog, so he's not too keen on keeping up everyday. :)
I kept a blog the year before my SO and I started dating--at this time he was simply a good friend. Though I didn't use any names, the stuff I put on there was personal and only for me and my good friends to read. I didn't think anyone would find out / care if they did because they wouldn't know who I was. However, months after we started dating, my SO told me that he had found my old blog a while back. I was embaressed, because much of what I put on there was from a year in which I went through a lot of heartache and wasn't in a place I wanted to be. Nothing bad came of it, but I deleted my blogs after that,
He knows I have a blog and a paper journal but I only share if something is interesting. Overall I don't really write about him and I try to write only good stuff in my paper journal cause I have 4 years of garbage in previous journals. Also he's not that interested because if I write something in my blog or paper journal I've probably already told him or will tell him.
why?
My fiance is free to visit my blog any time he wants. Should I have something I feel is excessively personal, then I'm not posting it online anyway.
I was willing to share my blog with a guy and almost did.
This used to be "secret," until I posted something that I wanted him to read. Now he checks it every so often, and I check his every so often as well. He had a real secret one, and I eventually found it. But I let it be his secret, and never check it. It's his personal space.
It's actually beneficial to our relationship though. There's just some stuff that I can't say out loud- I either become too angry, or too upset to speak, so blogging makes it easier. I'm pretty different with my writing and a speaking style too, so even if I can speak what I wanted, sometimes putting into physical words is just easier to do.
He knows about it..and reads it because I have a hard time telling him about everything...though I'm learning to open up more and more about it. So yeah, though he still reads it...it's still a place for me to vent and whatnot, which i normally still can't vent to him because I feel like I'm hurting feelings here.
this is entirely secret. this is where i vent all my deepest darkest secrets without fear of too much judgement. i know if i told him about it, he would want to read it. i wouldn't let him of course, but if he was really determined he could probably get on here. he knows the passwords i typically use, and i'm bound to forget to log out at some point.
so i choose not to tell him at all. also, i'm sure me having a secret online journal that he's not allowed to read would only breed insecurity in his mind. its better this way.
I told him I have a blog and then I said he was welcome to try and find it. So he did. But he doesn't like snooping around my personal posts. He just reads the stuff I say about him.
It's gone so terribly in the past I'm surprised I did it again. Although he's much better than my ex about it, and doesn't really read it anyways.
I had an online "journal" that my ex knew about but never asked to see it or asked me to share it with him. He seemed fine with the fact that I wrote in it every day until we started having some problems.. then he decided to read it without me knowing because he didn't trust me. Never again will I let someone know that I write things online.
He knows it exists, but not my username, and hasn't ever actively tried to seek it out.
My SO knows about it but doesn't read it. He knows its my own outlet.
no, none of the guys i've dated know about my blog. and that's how i like it. :)
I found my boyfriend's old online blog from when he was fifteen. I read it all and laughed for hours before I finally told him. He wasn't exactly psyched about me having found it, but it renewed my interest in Xanga. When I started blogging on my tumblr and Xanga and knew that he'd see it, I edited myself a little and thought about creating a "secret" journal, but I didn't. Relationships are supposed to be about trust. I know that you should keep some things to yourself, but if you're putting it online for strangers, then you should be ok for putting it online for your SO.
My ex knew. Then when we broke up, he became a obsessed stalker. Reading every entry, questioning every guy who appeared in my life. He would contact me about certain events/entries. After I got tired of his act, he would make account after account to read my blog. He eventually hacked into my email address and got completely control of all my online accounts and assets. Being a very technological person and a science major, I got everything back, changed my passwords and all the information. I didn't stoop as low as to hack him back... but I learned my lesson.
My current SO knows about my xanga and tumblr. He reads the latter because it is connected to my facebook and I show him some entries on my xanga, but he doesn't know the link and stuff. It is not that I don't trust him. I love and trust my boyfriend a lot, a million times more than my ex (we were in high school, I was naive)... but he would rather hear what happened during my day and about my personal thoughts from me (: so everything works out.
no when i get a bf i will not share my xanga with him. at least, that's the plan.
I've met my girlfriend on here. So..... yes, she does.
I would share Xanga, assuming I started writing again, but I have a blogspot set to private that acts as a diary. The kind of thing I might let my someday husband see but I don't see the purpose of giving it up as a personal thing anytime soon.
My boyfriend reads my Xanga and claims he likes the insight into my mind.