Tuesday, 22 June 2010
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Who Do You Think You Are?
And why as women do we feed into their bullshit?! Seriously...
Apparently men think they have this power over women. I'm not talking about all of you. You know exactly who you are, you hot messes you, and on behalf of all women, I am calling you out. I'm not saying all women are perfect, God knows that isn't true. There's just a few things I feel the need to say. These are repeat offenses guys and girls do and I'm so over them:
1) Ask for a girl's number, disappear, come back eons later.
What in hell makes you think we are still waiting around for you? You have some nerve. You had your chance, if you blow it, deal with it. Yes, there is an expiration date to show interest. No girl wants to feel like their your back-up plan.
2) Nice guy/Bad guy "Facade"
For all you genuine good guys don't get offended because this isn't about you. I'm talking about you good guys. The guys who like to hide their ugly beneath and pretend to actually be good people. You are the worst type. At least with "the bad guy" women are forewarned. In other words, "what ya see is what we get". If a woman knowingly goes out with a dude who is a mess and likes to treat her like dirt, that's a personal decision, but when some of you go around and fake the nice bit, it's just wrong.
3) "It's Not You, It's Me..."
Damn right it's you. Any guy who says that is most likely on target with that comment. They are doing you a favor. Take this red flag as a gift. Consider it your metaphoric Tiffany's.
4) Chances and Excuses
Why the hell do girls do this?! WHY?! The guy could blatantly be an ass right to your face and there you are making an excuse and giving him a second chance. I'm guilty of this as well, I'll admit it. The reason I have done it in the past is I always try to see the best in people and sometimes it's hard to be the bad guy and be the one to cut the strings loose. As a result, some women put themselves through unhealthy relationships, even if it solely means they won't end up alone.
At 23, I'm finally starting to see the light: If a guy really likes you, he WILL makes time for you. Screw waiting around and giving them 500 chances. If someone really cares, genuinely, they will more heaven and earth to make you happy and be with you, period.
What are your thoughts?
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I recently saw the light. The way I see it is that I had a life before him and damn straight, I will have a life after him.
i hold girls to the same regard (with regards to the last sentence).
Yeah, I think it takes a while to come to the realization that guys who really like girls will treat them really well. It's just how it is. I thought I was quick at picking things up and it isn't until my current relationship that I realize how crappy every other guy treated me, and how, clearly, they just weren't into me.
Amen! I wish I had that clarity at 23 years old!
*M*
HAHAHAHAH number one is so true. this guy got MY number and then he told me he'd txt and never did but i forgot about it then i just happened to bump into him in Hollywood and i asked him what was up with that jokingly... i got a text from him every single day after that -_-. by then i was through.
I really don't care whether they call or not. Preferrably not. lol
God doesn't exist
I love this.
lol that's why i love myself. fuck dating hahah
I love this!!! I wish more girls saw the light...then guys would have to stop being douchebags
1) guys and girls often do this (let's see who can get more #s that night) as an ego booster. Whether or not they will follow up into calling you,...well that's another story.
2) Well they put up the good face to trick you. Surprise we didn't learn that at a young age after listening to all those fairy tales. Isn't it always the bad/ugly character that tricks the sweet/innocent character with candies, flattery and gifts? Beware of the silver tongue baring gifts...
3) That is a classic line. I've heard it many times and also used it myself many times. I don't know why it's human nature to soften the blow especially when they're trying to get rid of you. Oh wait,...I know why. That way, you'll think that person is sincere and won't go crazy breaking their windows or slashing their tires. "I can't be mean to him...he's going through a tough time figuring out school, his life, his finances, etc..." which leads to...
4) Defense mechanism. That's why anyone makes excuses. You want to be love, you don't want people looking at you like you're insane for staying with a guy who's not the best boyfriend. Deep down, everyone wants to think they are the ONE, special enough to change that bad boy/bad girl.
Kudos to you for seeing the light!
@saelee2008@xanga - alright then, what does that have to do with this post?! lol
You are so right! Esp that last thing.
For the last one, I read in a psychology magazine that the reason why girls tend to date jerks is because those jerks might be most like someone important who they may have unresolved problems with. They want to resolve their problems with that person by dating someone like him. Subconsciously they think they can resolve their problem with their father if they date someone like their father. So the phrase "daddy issues" may be perfectly right when people wonder why girls date jerks.
On a completely unrelated note, nice use and picture of Two-Face.
@iamjustamemory@xanga - First Paragraph* did you even read the blog? "I'm not saying all women are perfect, God knows that isn't true"
@saelee2008@xanga - Yeah but the overall post wasn't about "god" therefore your comment made no sense and was highly unecessary.
@iamjustamemory@xanga - but it caught ur attention haha
@saelee2008@xanga - yeah but cause it was asinine hah