Sunday, 20 June 2010
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Just a Quickie: What's Your Take On Promise Rings?
So, I've always been wondering how other people go about giving or receiving promise rings.A lot of people I have talked to about this have said they don't "believe" in promise rings. To me, they're a symbol of your love for another person when your not yet ready to get engaged. They are reassurance that the person cares for you and wants to be with you forever.
What's your opinion on promise rings? Have you ever given or received one?
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They're kind of a popular trend right now, so I wouldn't trust the meaning of one anyway. Yeah yeah, sure, you promise you'll end up replacing this with an engagement ring. Six months later the relationship's kaput and you have a stupid ring to remind you of it.
i had one once..but it scared the crap ot of me =[
and put too much pressure on everything
I'm fine with them. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 and a half years and we're still in high school. A promise ring is a good way to show love without being able to get engaged, which we definitely aren't going to do anytime soon, haha.
my boyfriend gave me a promise ring after two years of dating when i was a senior in high school. we've been together for over 3 years now. i think of it as a pre-engagement ring. when he gave it to me, he told me that he wanted to give it to me until he could afford the engagement ring i deserve :] and we've also decided not to get married until i am through with college, which isn't for another 3 years now.
so yes, i approve of promise rings. i think they are a great way to show the commitment of a relationship if you are too young or just not ready for engagement.
But promises can be broken. So I don't need a ring to commit myself to anyone.
i think they're cute. when you go to college, its a way to let people know your taken. you can avoid the getting hit on and such... unless your into that
I don't think I would want a promise ring. If the relationship didn't work out, I probably would be more devastated. I would rather have him give me a really nice bracelet or a necklace :)
I think they're kind of weird. Either get engaged or don't. Don't do the whole "Yeah... we're engaged ... to be engaged... to be married!" Why not have pre-promise-rings? For people who know they want to eventually be promised to be engaged to be married... but aren't quite ready? Where does the madness end? ;D
I don't really have an opinion either way. I think you should be able to give someone a ring without giving it a name or a meaning, you know? Why can't it just be a gift? A ring doesn't have to mean anything serious, I don't think.
I wouldn't complain if my SO gave me one, though. We've already talked about all of this stuff and we dated all through highschool. I wouldn't find it weird to receive either a "promise" ring or an engagement ring anytime soon
@sailwithmex3@xanga - I'm sort of in the same situation. I think that's when "promise" rings are okay - 2 or 3 years + of dating where everything has been great and you know you've talked about getting married or whatever. If you're 16 and have been dating a year, that's just stupid.
I think that promise rings work great in high school situations, or in ones where you are unable to get married for reasons like school and such. I had one in high school, but now being almost 25 i would be like seriously dude where is my ring... Plus if I had an engagement ring in high school my parents would have flipped out!
I think the promise part is nice, but all the rings are so cheap looking. I hate all the hearts, its so tacky...
honestly, i'm not fond of them. in theory, they are super swee, but in reality i think you give a promise ring because you think you are too young to get engaged? why get engaged twice? that said, my best friend has a metal ring that her boyfriend made her (and he wears a matching one) and are actively planning to get married and I have every confidence that they will.
i dont like them because my ex gave me 1 and after 3 yrs we ended it because he was cheating!!!
My opinion: Lame.
I received a promise ring as a Christmas gift some years back from my ex. It was a beautiful ring and very sweet, and I wore it everyday for the year and a half we dated.....until I found out he had been cheating on me. So, needless to say, I'm not too fond of the promise ring idea anymore!
Aww, I think they are cute. I kinda want one, it may seem silly.. but I don't care.
@TheL0ki@xanga - I completely agree with you. My brother and his girlfriend both wear promise rings [yes, we make fun of them lol] and I asked, "So you're planning on getting engaged?" and he said NO! It might happen "eventually" but he's not thinking about that right now. So.. WTF?! Basically, it's meaningless.
I've been with my boyfriend for five years. I don't need a promise ring to tide me over. I'll wait for the amazing engagement ring I've picked out :)
I wouldn't be against getting a nice-ish ring as a gift, but I think attaching the label "promise ring" puts too much pressure on the relationship.
i personally like them! :D
It's bad luck for me. Back then, every time I would get a promise ring, we would end up breaking up a few months later so I don't believe in them anymore. But there are some people who are totally into them so if it works for those peeps, then go for it.
fucking stupid.
but you know, I have bad experiences with them, so... generally, they seem cute, I suppose.
i think the "promise ring" label is tacky. i think its really a high school thing. i think in college it'd be a stretch and certainly after college it'd be weird. i'm 22 and if my boyfriend gave me a "promise ring" i'd be weirded out and would probably be like "really? either its an engagement ring or its just a ring"
that being said for our anniversary (2 years) my boyfriend got me a claddagh ring (with some hinting on my part). i like it cause its not a promise ring but there's some sentiment behind it--when you wear it with the heart facing towards you it means you're in a relationship. plus we're both irish...
I got a ring from my SO just cause he loved me... no strings attached. No cheesey hearts or any crap like that. It is aqua and had black diamonds. it is beautiful i love it, and i love him... but i don't think it is a promise ring at all, just a gift.
My boyfriend hates the idea of promise rings, but I think they have different meanings depending on where one grows up. Where I grew up, a promise ring would probably be a sign of a very serious commitment that would for sure end in an engagement within the following year or two. I originally planned on doing a promise ring the summer after my junior year of college with my high school sweetheart to indicate that we made it that far and were going to continue, followed by an engagement ring after my senior year. I didn't want/still don't want my engagement to be longer than a year because I like the idea of having a year to plan out the wedding and then getting married. Now that I'm older and I'm just starting a relationship going into my junior year, I just want an engagement ring because that would be a promise in and of itself. However, should my parents object to me getting married so young, it's possible I would want a promise ring.
I got one from my bf..and he says my promise ring represents his love for me and the engagement ring because he intends to marry me =)