Monday, 14 June 2010
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The L Dating Chronicles: I Can't Date You If Your Peen Has Been Somewhere Else
I've made the mistake of giving a no-good ex a second chance. Who hasn't? But for me, sleeping with someone else, especially when it's right in front of my face, is the ultimate end.
While Amy has been waiting for her knight in rusty armor to realize he was a jackass for leaving her high and dry, he's been fooling around with a chick he met while he an Amy were on a break. The plan is this: he gets to fool around with Emily until August, when he claims he will be ready for a relationship with Amy. In August, he and Amy get back together. My advice to Amy: RUN!
Besides the fact that waiting for a guy like this is completely ludicrous, which Amy is aware of, I could never bring myself to have sex with someone I once saw leave a party to go have sex with someone else. I've ended friendships because chicks break the ultimate girl rule: never get with your friend's ex. And when said ex comes back around, I've never been able to feel comfortable with them again. Not because of bad history, but because I know someone you've slept with after you slept with me.
I'm not saying I couldn't get physical with a guy who got another girlfriend when we broke up, as long as I didn't know her. But when I can say that she was a sorority sister, a former friend, even someone I got drinks with every once in a while, that crosses a whole other line for me. I don't look at a guy the same way.
So, for now, this guy gets to bang Emily until August, when he becomes Amy's boyfriend again. It eats Amy up, especially when she knows he's going home to see Emily after spending the whole day with her, but she's still willing to give it a go. Amy accepts him having sex with a girl she now knows, and has even been sleeping with him on the side.
I could never be with this guy after knowing what he has been doing and who he has been doing it with. The thought of him with this other girl would be in my head the whole time we were together. If I have seen you with someone else, you can't have me again. But if you've been with someone else, and I don't know them, that is something I can get over.
Is there a difference between his peen wandering other pastures, and wandering your neighbor's backyard?
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Sounds like a jerk either way.
god I love your posts and I'm subscribed to you but for whatever reason your xanga page doesn't update. blach!
anywho. yeeeeeah she needs to grow some balls and leave him.
There is no difference. One more reason why I find it pointless to be active in that way with someone who's trustability, love and commitment I haven't already verified.
Always keep in mind that the real deal never requires a leap of faith to trust the other person and is always acceptable to verify before going deep.
same difference meaning same thing. It's still bad either way.
I would not get with someone if I knew they were sleeping with other people at the same time to, too, regardless of whether or not I know the other woman. Don't they know, the more people you F, the more likely you'll catch a STD. I stick with one partner even if we aren't necessarily together. My current f-buddy I guess...well it's complicated anyway, he insists that since he's been seeing me he hasn't been with anyone else. It's funny because he keeps asking if I've been with anyone else first but I definitely never have and I told him why. I think he is telling the truth so I'm glad I don't have to deal with sharing someone. I would just feel nasty if I knew he was getting with a whole bunch of other people besides me regardless if I know x-y-z.
he's a jerk either way, but i frankly wouldn't care about the other girl. my SO is still friends with a girl he hooked up with once (long before i met him), and i spend time with her now and then. she's pretty cool, and it doesn't matter to me that they were once involved.
bottom line: you can't be mad at a guy for being with someone else when they aren't with you. it's not your place.
@chicken1672 - Thanks! Weird, I'll check it out
Dump his sorry ass..I would say to Amy.
what a retarded situation. not sure what goes through that girl's head.
Why the hell would anyone agree to be a girlfriend-in-waiting? There's even a set timetable for the whole thing! Tell your friend to break it off with this bag of douche before she gets an STD or something.
To answer your question, I don't think it makes a difference in this situation, but in some it may. I think it's the basis of what you call the "ultimate girl rule" in the first place.
I dont get this... almost everyone has had sex with someone else so unless you start out in a relationship both as virgins o.o
And if two people go on a "break", do they really expect their SO to wait for them and not see anyone else til they get back together (which is so unlikely)? Its just life.
Sounds like they're both little kids. Maybe they're perfect for each other.
I broke the ultimate girl rule. :/ I'm currently dating my old friend's ex. I feel guilty as hell about it, but at the same time I think the rule is unfair. My boyfriend and I are perfect for each other and we were best friends long before we dated. It's not like we planned on it happening, we just fell for each other out of nowhere. But I know that if I was her I would probably be mad at me for dating her ex. :/
@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - so what would you think about the situation if Amy was to still be with this A-hole after knowing hes slept with more than just one girl while they were together
@nannichick15@xanga - except... they weren't together:
"While Amy has been waiting for her knight in rusty armor to realize he
was a jackass for leaving her high and dry, he's been fooling around
with a chick he met while he an Amy were on a break."
there is no in between. either you are together or you aren't. nowhere does it say he cheated on her. it says they broke up, he met another girl, and then he and his ex decided a set time they were going to get back together. until that set time, he's free to sleep with whoever he likes. it's not cheating. if she doesn't like it, she shouldn't have agreed to some abstract timetable for dating. that was dumb on her part, and i don't really feel sorry for her at all.
that's repulsive.
@PseudoEuphoric@xanga - Amen!!
I could not be with someone who had put his 'peen' somewhere else, too much stress.