Nowadays, the question is not whether dating an older women is appropriate, fun or sexy. The real question has become whether this is a passing fancy, or will it surpass the ancient dynamic of older man/younger woman? Here we answer, definitively, which is better. We consider younger women to be between 18 and 25 years old. Older women are 33 to 45. Anything younger is illegal and any older is like doing your mom.
Should you date an older or younger woman? We have six criteria for you to consider.
Body: Let’s state the obvious, younger women tend to have better bodies. Their
metabolisms are still high, no stress lines have set in, and their skin is full of collagen and elasticity. However, let’s not completely rule out older women here. They have their own bank accounts with which they can pay for
personal trainers and Botox. Many men still sneer at the idea of any cosmetic surgery, but we’re entering a time when people can maintain their looks, not change them. Most women won’t turn into Joan Rivers. However, a young girl can pound beers and grab late-night nachos with you and not wear it on her ass the next day.
Winner: Younger women (due to late-night nacho clause)
Sex: The knee-jerk reaction here is to think college co-eds juxtapose sorority girls in
porn flicks. That’s not the case. The truth of the matter is most younger women don’t have much experience. "
The virgin" sounds great until you realize how awkward and nervous she becomes between the sheets. How many guys at 30 just want to make out for hours? Sure, younger women tend to have more energy than their older counterparts and there is something fun about being the person that teaches them new positions. For years, she’ll think you’re better in bed than you actually are just because she lacks comparison. However, older women know what they want; they’re more confident and more likely to get freaky. Hell, she’ll buy you a drink and she’ll expect something in return.
Winner: Older women
Income: Younger women don’t have a lot of options for
work at their age. Most are in college, working in the service industry or just starting their entry-level position. Strippers have cash, but that’s a whole other problem. As a man, you should pay for date night, but you don’t want her hitting you up when she misses rent. If she bartends, do you want to be the guy on the end of the bar every night waiting for her? Young 20-something’s aren’t going to be familiar with your strife to become middle management. Older women will appreciate talks about
career highs and lows. Plus, she’ll be more likely to pick up a few tabs, for women’s equality sake, and will surprise you with great gifts. She’s definitely had her share of boyfriends, so she knows men prefer a new
iPhone over a mix CD.
Winner: Older women
Relationship baggage: Any woman in her 30s or above has been treated poorly by a number of men. Unfortunately, that means you have to answer for all that mistreatment, and prove you’re not an asshole like the others, plus live up to the high water mark of being her last good boyfriend. That’s a lot of pressure. Younger women are blank slates. All you have to do is prove you’re better than her high school boyfriend. Easy, you drive a car worth more than $12,000. Older women are thinking serious commitments and babies. Younger women are in the moment. Just don’t get too hung up on the youthful ones, she’ll drop everything and follow her
yoga instructor to Belize tomorrow.
Winner: Younger women
Discovery factor: Inevitably, the first question that guys ask after you tell them you’re dating a woman 10 years younger is: “What the hell are you going to talk about?” With the internet and availability of information, the pop culture divide is not what it used to be. It’s easier for older people to stay current on music, fashion and trends, but younger women live to stay current on popular culture. She’ll update your clothes, music and lingo quicker than 50
Google searches. Also, her events calendar will likely be packed with fun things to do, which keeps the relationship fresh. DVDs of
Lost are fun sometimes, but not all the time.
Winner: Younger women
Power balance: This category isn’t even close. Younger women will look up to you and you’ll be the boss in the
relationship. A number of older women who are still single are career oriented. They are used to being the boss at work and her brain is set to her ways. The brain of a young woman is like a sponge and you can pretty much squeeze whatever you want into it.
Winner: Younger women
Guys, what do you think about these criteria?
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Comments (46)
I tend to date younger in both women and men
But you're right, that means I always pay for everything.
I was okay up until the last point. What the hell, young women are like sponges, you can squeeze whatever you want into it?? For your information, you never squeeze anything into a sponge. You can squeeze stuff out, and it can soak stuff up, but you don't squeeze things into sponges.
Moreover, women are not sponges, amoeba, or coral. We are women, and we are human. Are you indicating that younger women, being more susceptible to stupid males, and more impressionable and malleable, are better bets because of their gullibility? You do a disservice to older women, painting them all as frigid, self-serving bitches. Not that some aren't, but not that all are. Sponges. What the fuck.
@Kyren_SkyRyder@xanga - I see your point but your just one compared to the many impressionable young female minds that exist
If we are going to generalize part of this might be backwards. In my opinion younger women are the ones that want marriage and babies immediately. Older women are more realistic about assesing their options.
@Kyren_SkyRyder@xanga - I know, right? Seriously.
@FoliageDecay@xanga - that all of them,but i see your point
Dating older and younger women have their advantages or disadvantages as you've stated but there is probably more ..but it does depend on the person's preference. Most men I know, date younger women..and I'm like 5 years younger than my boyfriend..
But i think you stereotype both younger or older women too much in that list..it's much more complicated than that..but i'm just saying.
@FoliageDecay@xanga - Not true. I'm a younger woman and I don't want babies or marriage now..and I am friends with much much younger women than moi, and they don't want all that. Again, it depends on their maturity as a person really and what they value most in their lives. I'm in no hurry..
@Hinase@xanga -@Blanco_Curious@xanga - Well, I said "If we are going to generalize" Obviously there will be many exceptions.
I just know that when I was younger and dated younger women the discussion of marriage and babies was a regular thing. Since I've passed through my mid twenties when I date someone, the expression baby or marriage becomes a dirty word.
I actually discussed this briefly with an ex-girlfriend the other day. We both noted how when we were younger the idea of marriage seemed so much closer chronologically.
@Hinase@xanga - Its just a generalization
@FoliageDecay@xanga - Weird. Babies and marriage never pop up in my conversations with my girlfriends and they are way younger than me. xD I guess like I said, it depends on the person/woman whatever.
@Blanco_Curious@xanga - I know =)
@Hinase@xanga - Probably not. We're just all from different parts of the world.
@FoliageDecay@xanga - tis very true...
@Diva_Jyoti@xanga - Different name, same psychology degree, huh?
i suppose i see the utility of making a list, but when that list is based on so many brash generalizations, i don't believe it holds much value.
also, i pity the callow young man who thinks he can be my "boss" at any age.
one last point. i'm going to agree with @Kyren_SkyRyder@xanga. let's assume that you're right about the impressionable character of some women. do you win because you picked the weaker-minded one? so you can mold her before "her brain is set to her ways?" only weak men fear strong women. strong men see their partners' strength and assertiveness as an asset to their partnership.
hmm. thing is, all of these things are superficial. you've not
even covered that no matter how pretty, youthful, adventurous,
free-of-baggage a woman is, character, personality, chemistry, and
intelligence haven't even been discussed ... all of which are more
important to me (and many men) than the superficial things.
BUT,
on the issues you've covered:
- many older women have figured
their baggage out, while younger women are still packing their bags.
-
younger women have no idea what they will look like in twenty years,
which means much if one is looking for a life partner.
- you're
assuming that you know what is beautiful and attractive to the average
male, or you're assuming that the average male likes what's in the
magazines.
- you're assuming that sex is the most important part
of a relationship, or that sexual learning and discovery isn't a great
part of building one.
- the power balance thing seems to be a very
shallow and asinine category to me.
- you're assuming that money
is what people look for in a relationship, rather than simply someone
with whom they can have a meaningful relationship.
- again,
you're assuming that popular culture is what people want. that a man
wants his significant other to tell him how to dress and act, and what to listen
to. you're assuming that a man isn't comfortable in his own skin.
if
someone wants to date a woman with these criteria as the base motives,
it seems to me that they would be very shallow.
?
j.
I have always hooked up/date older guys. I'm much more attracted to them.
For some reason, my ex's and hookups have been all 3-4years senior.
@ofunlo@xanga - I could have chosen to explicate all of the above you listed but i didn't as i wanted to focus on these main ones, but its true, maybe you have just failed to come to the realization that thats hows it is
@Hinase@xanga - I agree, I'm 20 and am in no hurry to reproduce yet or get married. However, I can name at least a dozen girls my age who have 1 or more babies and some are married as well. As much as they love their children, they have said they wish they could have waited. Some of these girls also wanted to get pregnant and have a child.
@Ascesion_to_Clarity@xanga - I know maybe one or more girls older than me that have kids..but of course they weren't using birth control or anything for protection..so nothing was planned. Most of those kids came out of poor choices brought on by their mothers and partners. I don't know anyone my age that is married or have kids..that wanted kids in the first place.
I'm only 20 myself...going on 21 this year =) Maybe I just know girls that make poor choices? Could be..
@Hinase@xanga - Yeah well the girls I know didn't make good choices either. Insane drug abuse led to a lot of this. I look forward to being a parent one day, but drugs are not going to be a part of it. Some girls said that the day they found out they were pregnant, they quit drugs, yet they are back on them. Some kept doing drugs while they were pregnant. =/ Not fair by the kids. Wait and live your life so you can tell your kids what its like.
@Ascesion_to_Clarity@xanga - Same here with those same girls and I'm related to them! Which makes it even sadder. My cousin did the same when she found out she was pregnant but now her mother(my aunt) is raising her grandchild because my cousin couldn't stay off drugs and in particular meth O.o. What a shame. And not good when you're young either and have kids..I was born when my mother was 17. It seems like a vicious cycle.
It makes me sad =(
Exactly; there is all the time in the world to have kids and get married. You have a good point..I plan to do before having kids and settling. There's no hurry. I'm still so young myself..
@Hinase@xanga - Lol omgosh small world my cousin is pregnant too and only 20. I can see everyone but her raising the child. She was the last person I would have guessed with any maternal instincts.
is that victoria asher in the picture? older women pl0x