Monday, 07 June 2010

• Trouble In Paradise? It's Complicated

  

  Social media mavericks have created a new way to convey trouble in paradise. All one must do is select the drop down bar and scroll down to "It's Complicated". But what does that mean exactly? Every relationship is complicated. Even as a single woman, I have grounds to list "It's Complicated" on my relationship status. After all, sometimes walking into a restaurant and only asking for a "Table for One" is complicated. Right? What constitutes a "complicated" relationship? If there is trouble in your paradise, does the world really need to know?

  Dating is inherently complicated. In a perfect world, it wouldn't be this way but it is. What are some of the cumbersome and classic mishaps of seeing someone? Oh, I have a plethora. Let's talk about complicated shall we?

  Our generation has misplaced an appreciation for face-to-face contact. I have had courtships where the entire bad romance was based around im's and text messages. Welcome to the biggest failure of Generation X. Conveniently, your partner doesn't have to see your anguish via abbreviated communication mediums. S/he is let off the hook from ever feeling truly remorseful for hurting you. Behind a computer or cell phone screen, you aren't exposed to the pain you inflict on another person. In essence, social media is wiping away the sense of "conscience" from Generation X. This is indeed complicating things.

  Personally, I don't think that social media has a place in an intimate dating relationship. Contrary to increasingly popular opinion, some things are still best kept in private. Posting pictures of your beau and blasting status' of your happiness is exhilarating during the good times. But what about when things crumble? I have seen some passive-aggressive antics at ex's on social media forums. It ain't pretty. If anything, cases of the ex in cyber space are the ultimate form of "complicated". Unfortunately, people are no longer allowed to grieve in private. As soon as you're listed as "Single" again, Tweeters and FFriends and good ole' nosy people will immediate message you on details of the saga. You're first instinct might be to say "Mind your own business." But actually, they are. You made it their business a long time ago.

  There's something appealing about keeping things complicated wouldn't you agree? If there was no appeal, it would be a straight up "NO DEAL". I think we like complicated because it keeps us from feeling alone. Better to roam around in chaos and complication than to loom in isolation right? After all, everyone else is tweeting their sweetie. Why shouldn't you? But I guess....it's complicated. Right?

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