Sunday, 06 June 2010
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Too Young for Foreplay?
So, I know this couple (let's call them Tom and Betty), and they have been going out in high school for a couple months now. Tom is 18 years old, Betty is 17 years old, and both like to engage in very sexual activities with each other in their free-time.They haven't actually had intercourse, and they will most likely continue foreplay without having sex. Yes they do everything you can imagine in foreplay: oral sex, masturbation, biting each other, kissing each other's body, etc. And I can't help but think...aren't they a little young for that?
Now, as high school kids, I think it's too young to be engaging in activities such as these. Even my long-term girlfriend and I have yet to do any foreplay. However, at the same time I would like to try it soon, but who wouldn't?
In high school, we're all hormonal high school students and sexual thoughts such as these can't help but trickle into our minds every once in awhile. This is why so many high school students have sex. But I figure, as long as I'm not having sex, foreplay should be okay right?
When do you think is the right age to begin fooling around with your SO? And is foreplay okay as long as you don't engage in intercourse?
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Well personally I feel that once you have reached the age of consent you can undertake any sexual activity as long as you know what your doing.
Ummm..... 17 and 18? I don't see an issue with it (unless we're talking about a moral issue here). I would say it'd be too much if they were 14 years old, but close to high school graduation, etc.? I don't see an issue with maturity there.
Nowadays kids are having sex after barely entering their teenage years. It happens. I think that if all they're doing is fooling around, isn't that better than the home run?
Granted, at eighteen years old, this couple knows what they're doing. I'd be willing to suggest anybody thinking they're too young is a prude.
The right age to fool around with your SO is an age where you both have the emotional and intellectual maturity to realize what's going on and what has the potential to happen. That happens at a different point for everyone, and there are many people who don't have either of those qualities developed before getting into a sexual relationship. Basically, that means that there is no right age, although the age of consent (which varies from country to country, as well as state to state if you're in the US) can be a sort of marker as to when such behavior is a bit more acceptable.
Of course, the biggest thing to take into consideration before engaging in any foreplay/fooling around is whether or not you AND your partner are both ready and willing to engage in such acts. It may not be sex, but sometimes it can have just as much, if not more, impact on a person. There is no shame in deciding to remain abstinent, just as there is no shame in deciding to have a sexual relationship.
I'm seventeen and I see nothing wrong with sexual activity at that age, as long as you use protection and no one is pressured into it.
Sex will happen eventually, it depends when you personally are ready.
um.... who are you? and why are you writing for datingish? Honestly, when I saw "too young," I thought it was going to be 12 year olds or something. I think high school is a pretty reasonable age to expect kids to start experimenting sexually. I think foreplay AND sexual intercourse (as if they're really two different categories, HA) is fine for even someone as young as 15, so long as they understand what they are doing and how to protect themselves (and of course, are fully willing/ready participants).
But eyah. No age is automatically "perfect for having sex." It depends on the individual. Stop judging the young people, you uprighteous old person.
this is stupid imo. they're not too young for that.
I don't think that's too young, but that's only my opinion. There's no real set age to "begin" this sort of thing, and to me it's mostly about personal comfort level. If you don't want to do it, then don't....but they're old enough to make those decisions.
uh. there's nothing wrong with engaging in intercourse. welcome to the real world.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - Perfect answer.I say perfect age is 17 in my opinon
how is this too young.... everyone this age does that, basically, even if you're just hooking up and not actually significant others with each other. it would be weird not to, if you had a bf/gf.
if their intentions are strictly foreplay and not sex, then they might not be prepared with condoms, so if the foreplay gets carried away and they want to have sex in that moment and can't resist, then there isn't protection. if they're okay with eventually having sex with each other then foreplay is okay but if they intend to do everything but sex then foreplay is likely to lead to sex and if they don't want sex remorse, then don't do foreplay.
hey freshmen in highschool have sex. i think they're pretty good for today's society.
when your married yaaaaayyyy =D
Haha, why are people getting worked up about this? I understand what this person means when they ask if the couple is too young. 17/18 is still young. I guess nowadays, considering kids that are probably around 10 years old are having sex, these ages wouldn't seem too young. But I still think 17 and 18 year-olds are young. They do understand sexual things though, of course. So, I believe it's fine. It really depends on their maturity and education, and if they are mature and they know what they're doing, then it's perfectly fine.
I was 14 when I started doing sexual things. There is nothing wrong with it.
@xjadersx@xanga - I think there is something wrong with that. 14 is fukkin young for sexual shit. I didn't start doin "sexual" shit till my junior year in HS [17]. It wasn't on my mind. I didn't need it. I was just happy kicking it at the movies with friends. Sex at 14 was the last thing on my mind.
Oh and dude too yound is middle school kids. I know a girl thats 12 and shes a school slut already, at 12 write about that not 17 and 18.
17 and 18 doesn't seem too young for me but I know when I was that age, I still wasn't ready to do those things. I think it's outrageous to be hearing about 14-year-olds having sex or other sexual acts. I was curious and horny at that age too but I'm glad I waited until I was an adult. From my perspective, 14-years-olds are still kids and the thought of them having sex or being very sexual is nasty. Maybe when they grow up, they'll realize that too.
@IntheGoldenWest@xanga - I think you made a very good point. When you consider that kids as young as 12 are doing sexual things, 17-18 might not seem so young. At 18, we are legally adults but I still felt like a kid then.
I firmly believe that we need more sex education out there. I remember that one day in 5th grade when the nurse would come talk to all the girls about puberty and then she would talk to all the boys about puberty. She only discussed physical changes and how babies are made. And from then on up through high school, we never received anymore counseling. No one ever talked to us about the emotional and psychological changes that occur during puberty. No one ever talked to us about STDs and birth control. No one ever talked to us about rape and sexual abuse or how to get help. (If you've been paying attention to the other posts here, you know what I mean.) I know parents have to play a huge part in this, too, because even they need guidance about how to talk to their kids or some of them may be simply ignorant about the problems.
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wow, that was sort of a first date thing for me.
what is there if you're not going to touch each other?........i would just be lost
im seventeen and i feel very mature in my place and in a very reasonable relationship with amazing communication and amazing sex at this point in time.
where you're coming from is defiantly the culture i was brought up in, that's probably it.
Whatever you're comfortable with... Is what is appropriate... o__O" Each to their own, right? I mean, everyone has different opinions/views/thoughts/etc.
I don't think that's too long. That age isn't as bad as middle school ages. As long as they're mature and safe and clean about it.
I definitely think that high school is the time that people start foreplay and I think it's appropriate if they stay safe, clean, and feel comfortable with it.
@mszstef@xanga - lol no one asked for your criticism