Monday, 24 May 2010
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Homosexuality and Happiness
After reading so many inspirational blogs on homosexuality, I've decided to write one of my own.I've grown up in a very racist, homophobic family for one, and I was taken to church at an early age by some family friends. In that church I was supposed to learn that homosexuality was wrong. It's ungodly. From other people I was told that homosexuality is disgusting. It's nasty. It's dirty.
When I look at two men, or two women together and they're in love, I see happiness. I see beauty. I don't see an ungodly mess, nor do I see the sinfulness of it. To me, I think it takes alot of courage to do what some of those people do. They go out into the world and face the comments thrown at them. They face the social injustice everyday.
One thing that irks me would be the topic of gay marriage. What's wrong with it? Why can't two people in love be together? To me, it's no different than a man and a woman getting married. I hear all the time, "If we let gay marriage happen, people will start to marry trees, and cars." No. No, we wont. People often treat homosexuals as if they're not people. Does a woman attracted to other women make her not human?
I've had times when I've questioned my sexuality before. I know now that I'm attracted to both, but I don't necessarily want to be with a woman. I don't consider myself "bisexual", but I do have an attraction to female bodies.
I have many, many friends who are gay, lesbian or bisexual. I also have one who is pan-sexual (Google it). Also in my mix of friends I have some homophobic people. In my opinion, that's a sad thing to be.
Sexuality shouldn't change the way you view someone.
For me, I admire greatly the out-of-the-closet homosexuals. Those people are some of the bravest people I know.
Thoughts? Does sexuality change the way you view someone?
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Homosexuality, heterosexuality, pansexuality, anotherprefixsexuality ... it is all sexuality. If we hadn't given names to these ideas, homophobia would not be so rampant. And if we hadn't so arrogantly insisted for hundreds of years that man+woman+child=normal family, maybe there would be no closet to come out of. Sex would be sex and love would be love, no politics involved.
Hey, I can dream, can't I?
No, someone's sexuality doesn't change the way that I view them. And the way you described your sexuality sounds just like me. :)
Some people are afraid of "the other." I think that everyone deserves to love and be loved.
Well, in the obious way. Like if I'm attracted to a guy, and have sexual thoughts of him, only to learn he's gay, I'll not be able to think of him that way again lol cuz I'd rather think of someone who I know might be attracted to me. But it's not a turn-off for me, knowing someone's gay or pansexual or whatever. We're all people here, whatever labels we give to ourselves.
I've questioned my sexuality before, too. I knew I was attracted to men (that was never a question in my mind, haha) but there were times when I wondered how I felt about women. There have been women who I have been attracted to. I'm straight, though. Or so I think o.0 haha... No, seriously, I'm straight--love men, can't imagine myself with a woman--but I have no problem with other sexualities. I can't say it has never seemed strange to me, but as I've gotten older I don't see anything wrong with homosexuality. Love is love. Let them love, dammit!
I agree! When I went to the "Gay, fine by me" discussion at my college a few months ago, one of our professors was talking about how she and her wife got married several times; any time it was legal in the US, they'd go and get married. It would get annulled; so they'd go again. At one point there was some guy running around saying "What if I want to marry this tree? What if I want to marry this tree?" And she said, "Can someone help this guy marry the tree already so he can be happy and shut up? I don't think the tree will mind."
Ugh, I love this. I really do. It encompasses exactly how I feel about homophobia. My cousin and his boyfriend are one the most in love couples I've ever seen and it makes me sad, depressed, disgusted, that more than 50% of my state don't consider them human enough to have equal rights.
@ScarletMoth@xanga - The funniest and most ridiculous argument is the beastiality one. If we let gays have marriage, then farmers will want to marry (and fuck) their cows. So why are comparing gays to cows again?
Nah, I don't. I treat everyone the same really. We are all humans ..and i loved your posts because i have many Bi, gay, and pan-sexual friends too..I think I'm more open-minded than most people around.
Their sexuality means nothing to me. They are people. What I don't understand about homophobia is why what goes on in one's bedroom should be up for public ridicule.
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Sexuality is only useful for starting conversations of love and life. Words like gay and straight simply give us an idea of the type of person someone looks for. It doesn't mean anything good or bad. It's just information about people. : )
@elusivefriends@xanga - Umm, hello, if we hadn't have "arrogantly" (arrogant? those going homo-sexual are arrogant!) have had insisted (we don't "insist", God does, and nature, culture, society and morality confirms) that Man/Husband+Woman/Wife+Child=Family...then there may not be an us left to even discuss this now! There may be no families at all!
IF homo-sexuality were all "okay" THEN from year dot it would have been allowed, it is NOT okay, it serves NO purpose, it IS destructive, it has always been forbidden...for good reason!
Your arrogant dream, is actually a nightmare...wake up!
How bizarre that a vain girl, seemingly intent on following the current trend to go 'lesbian', posts a picture of two males together as a symbol of how "happy" homo-sexuality makes people!
Yeah, sure, all these people arrogantly going homo-sexual, be it 'gay' or 'lesbian', are "happy"...point being, they don't deserve to be!
I can only imagine the INSULTS that would be let loose if a male spoke about being "attracted to female bodies"! What a 'superficial pig' he'd be!
Females are NOT supposed to "attracted" to female bodies! You really need to snap out of this self-obsessed conceit.
So-called "homophobia", which is NOT a "sad" way to be...IS the natural reaction to such homophilia, and such rank heterophobia that all these 'happy homo-sexuals' are indulging in.
Those going homo-sexual may be superficially very "happy"...but there is NO genuine JOY there!
@S_K_O_T@xanga - Funny, that was what was once said about cross-racial marriage...
@S_K_O_T@xanga - "Yeah, sure, all these people arrogantly going homo-sexual, be it 'gay' or 'lesbian', are "happy"...point being, they don't deserve to be!"
Let's try to not be ignorant and full of bigotry here. People fear what is overly different or what they don't understand.
Homosexuality is a "sexual orientation" and not a sexual preference.
Great post
like the tagline of brokeback mountain, LOVE IS A FORCE OF NATURE!
dammit. SKOT is back...with his extremely long, yet pointless comments...
No, it doesn't change how I view someone. Though I do believe that homosexual living is sinful, we are all guilty of various sins. I don't judge them any more than I would anyone else. The truth is we're all sinners. For these people, it seems that same-sex-attraction is the issue they struggle most with. I think most of us can recognize such a prominent struggle in our lives.
@jenigrins@xanga - yeah, beastiality and everything else is so completely not similar to being gay in terms of consent and BEING HUMAN and everything. But even if they WERE totally comparable, it's like, so what? You can't just deny people basic rights because someone else down the line MIGHT ask for rights that you don't agree with. Rights don't work that way.
@S_K_O_T@xanga - Oh, here we go. The 'God' excuse. When will you accept that the Bible was written by men? Bigotted, small-minded, evil, delusional men, at that. Kind of like you. The rules of the Bible are not rules of morality, and if the rules from the Bible dictate your morality, then you are a weak-minded individual, and a very sad case. For hundreds of years, we have had a culture that was built around Christianity and as a result condemned homosexuals as defective, thereby pushing those with homosexual tendencies to live heterosexual lives. People - not by morality, not by God, but by HABIT - have enforced this by telling every young boy that he will grow up and get married to a WOMAN, and have children, etc. If he had feelings to the contrary, he would suppress them. This still happens today, but on a slightly lower scale. Thankfully. Now, am I saying that if we hadn't arrogantly insisted on this heteronormative way of life that EVERYONE would be homosexual? No. So please don't misinterpret what I say, it only makes you look like more of an idiot. Chances are, the majority of the population is, by nature, heterosexual, and will go on living heterosexual lives. Only difference is, in my dream, the stigma would be lifted off of homosexuality, and people would go with who they want to go with, whether it is a man or a woman.
Now, I have a challenge to you. Using flawless reasoning - without distorting history, using religion or the Bible as a shield, or twisting my words - prove to me that homosexuality is immoral and/or destructive. Any fallacy you commit will be called out. Good luck.
If a man is in love with a child does it make him not a human? Think about it kiddy. Liberals are opening Pandora's box and don't even give a damn. Sodom and Gomorrah here we come!
P.S. Im not religious so you have nothing to fear. LoL!
@JBrocks87@xanga - If you're trying to juxtapose pedophilia to homosexuality, I think you should remember that homosexuality = 2 consenting (same sex) adults in a relationship. Pedophilia is nothing like that.
@the_kcar@xanga - Oh don't worry, he's racist too.