Saturday, 22 May 2010
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Collegiate Summer of Love
Many of you are like myself (or have been like me in your past at least) and have met someone in college who you are romantically attracted to enough so as to begin a relationship.
Yippee!! Pat yourself on your back - chances are, you're not going to be single forever!!!!
But alas, as we all feared, we have been taken from our lovers at the turning of the loved, and yet dreaded,....SUMMER!!! *gasp!*
What happens now? Things were going so well when we were able to see our significant others every day. Now it's an across the country phone call a day, text message a minute, LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.This tortuous fact of college relationships is a known killer. It carelessly breaks the hearts of many, changing love lives of the future on a daily basis.
But there ARE exceptions: THE FEW! THE PROUD! ...THE ONES WHO ARE DETERMINED TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK!...But how, right?
Well that's exactly my question for you: What do you do to survive your time apart from your significant other? What is it that you do to keep that spark alive?
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i could never maintain a college relationship over the summer break. it just never happened for me. and it was always extremely weird coming back and not knowing what would happen between us. therefore, i can give no advice on this topic haha. im a bad example. im not one of the few, the proud, the determined haha
I've done it, I mean we lived a few hours apart and got to see each other maybe 4 or 5 times over the summer. Haha the real problems began when we got back to school and spent way too much time around each other. So a good indicator that things may not work out is if you can actually stand a summer with out him or her.
It's actually helping the spark because when I do get to see him, we miss each other so much that just being with each other is enough!! I know everyone says this, but i truly believe now that absence does make the heart grow fonder.
We keep in touch through text and a call a day mostly, but too much of that could actually make things boring because it becomes so routine! Go with the flow and don't forget to live up your summer as well!
I was always in the reverse situation - I never got to see my boyfriend during the school year, but got to spend all summer with him. I survived by texting, calling, IMing, etc. To keep the spark alive, we'd always plan to do something special one night a week when I was home.
I agree with AnonymousBlonde, my situation was reversed from yours. We text a lot lol and set a schedule to make time to talk to one another everyday, any additional was just a nice surprise. Oh and Skype! that makes things alot easier, and plus webcam dates are fun!
Right after I started dating my boyfriend, he left for Asia, and when he came back, I left for Paris. Now we're all over the place from Boston, New York, and New Jersey, but I know so well that long distance is HARD. The biggest thing I've learned is the importance of communication... if you don't have that down, so many problems will arise... from insecurities, doubts, etc. Now that we live in such a technological world, it's so easy to stay connected even when you're thousands of miles apart... skype, email, instant messaging, texting, calling. My boyfriend made a lot of effort to talk to me, even if it meant that he had to run across campus right after class or skip out on lunch with friends just to video chat with me.
If he's invested in you enough to do long distance (which really means a lot because not a lot of guys can faithfully do that), then you don't have to worry about the spark being lost. It's almost like all the times that you talk while you're apart feeds the anticipation of seeing each other again. And it's always amazing when you do :)
Good luck!!
Ohhhhhh I remember the days. I had a boyfriend freshman year of college, when summer vacation came we went back to our homes, he lived over an hour away. An hour may not seem like much, but when you're from the smallest state in the country, it seems like an eternity.
Long story short, the summer went relatively well, but as soon as we got back to school it all fell apart. I just regret putting so much time into something that didn't work out anyways.
OMG STORY OF MY LIFE.
he and i had a dispute right before the semester ended about the conflict of long distance. he was afraid there wouldn't be enough communication and we'd get bad feelings for each other. he wanted to end it and so i let him. then he came back to me the next day and was like jk let's try it. xDD
This is why I think it's dumb that some people judge me for having a relationship with a guy from HOME while I go to school four hours away. Isn't it harder to have a relationship with someone who you are seriously apart from - no excuse to go see them - three months out of the year? At least I get to go home for other reasons at least once or twice a month during the school year. And summer is all ours.
I don't know what I would do if I couldn't see my boyfriend in person for three solid months.
just keep in touch over the summer, and if possible, meet up! just don't pester your significant other, so that he/she gets annoyed and wants to break up with you or "see other people". haha
Phone calls, texts, love letters sent via Facebook, and the occasional visit.
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I did this for two summers in college. It suuucked! We sent each other care packages and also cute emails and notes. I would suggest getting skype and webcamming.
During my 1.3 years of long distance, we flew back and forth to see each other every other month or so and we talked on the phone/webcammed every day.
Okay, the summers were all right, but the long distance really killed my relationship. I blame our breakup on it. It make me fall out of love because there was really no way we could grow together because there was so little we could share. Summer is definitely bearable though.
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I couldn't make one survive long either but I did make it work for the first few weeks. We talked on a regular basis. That didn't change. We videochatted whenever we could. We both had summer jobs so we had our time occupied. We did take a trip to see each other at least a few times, that way we never lost the spark. It think it can work if you try. Yes, it's hard but nothing is ever easy.
I have this in reverse.
I know there are a lot of "things" you can do to be close, but in the end, if it works it works, and if it doesn't, it doesn't.My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Â The first 11 months we lived in the same state, but I went halfway across the country for college and because my family moved. Â We are still together, and I know that's because we talk almost every day. Â We tell eachother how we feel, how are doing, we talk. It's not the same, and sometimes it's really hard, but we know that we'll stay together. Â We told eachother we'd wait for eachother. Â He's waiting for me to come back and he is going to try and visit me for Christmas. Â Truth be told, I think the reason we work is because we're meant for eachother. Â I don't think I could have made it in a relationship with anyone else.
OHHH BOY.
I go to college in Florida but my family lives in Korea. So I come to Korea over the summer and visit my family. I call my boyfriend one to two times a day, sometimes we can't talk on the phone so we chat once or twice online. It's tough, but I know he cares about me and I care about him. It kills me, but it's worth it.
I also recently got an apartment in Florida so I stay in Korea half the summer and I got back to America for the rest. It's all good.
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