Saturday, 22 May 2010
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DRAMA: How Do You Deal?
'DRAMA' and I have had an on-again/off-again relationship for as long as I can remember. DRAMA has always been a fickle bitch, it takes me months to get her to leave, and right when I got my shit back together she comes back and stirs up a hurricane. She's a dumb bitch, don't get me wrong, I hate her. Some people love her, but me, I'm too smart for that. DRAMA is a two-faced whore, and you're better off keeping your distance.
Miss DRAMA comes around at all different times. Sometimes she shows up when you get a new boyfriend. Sometimes she shows up when you get a new job. Sometimes she shows up when you look better than you always have. Sometimes she shows up after a fight with a good friend of ten years. Whatever the reason, we can attribute DRAMA to showing her face when other people are JEALOUS or ENVIOUS of us. Yep, I said it. DRAMA IS CAUSED BY JEALOUS BITCHES. End of story. Period. That is all she wrote.
My entire life people have been jealous of me for various reasons. I'm not bragging, trust me. I'd rather be off everyone's radar and doing my own thing. People tend to be jealous of my relationships, my looks, my smarts or my life. When people become jealous, drama starts. Jealousy makes bitches talk, and drama backs up the jealousy. You can't prevent drama coming your way, you can't. All you can do is embrace who you are as a person, stick to what you believe and hold your ground.
When drama comes around just hold your head up high. People are talking shit because they want to bring you down. Don't give them what they want. Don't let their words break you. You're so much stronger than their words, and you're a much better person than these jealous bitches are. Don't talk shit back, although revenge is sweet, is often makes drama worse and will end up making you look just as bad as the jealous bitches causing the drama initially. Don't give these girls what they want, you have to play the whole 'reverse psychology' game -- give them what they DON'T want. Ignore them. Pretend they don't exist. Laugh off the drama. Brush your shoulders off and KEEP DOING YOU.
Feeding DRAMA with words and emotions will only make her stronger. You're stupid if you're going to make drama worse. Some people like drama because it is the only attention they get from other people, some people cause it just to have something to do. Point is, nothing good can come from drama. People's feelings get hurt, relationships and friendships end... all this just because some jealous girl needed to run her mouth to make you look bad just cause she wishes she was you.
Call me conceited, I prefer the term confident. I don't give a f*** what anyone has to say about me. At the age of 23, I know who I am. I know lies and rumors have no bearing on who I am as a woman. Talk all the shit you want, I know whats true and I know whats bullshit. I don't care what other people think, I really never have. Don't let people bring you down. Keep your head up always. Know at the end of the day, no one does it like you and as long as you're true to yourself it shouldn't matter what other people think, believe, or say.
If you have drama in your life right now and you can't seem to get rid of it, take this approach. IGNORE IT. You know that bitch who keeps talking shit about you and won't quit? Yeah, her. Pretend she doesn't exist. When she ceases to get a rise out of you, she'll realize it is a waste of her time, and will move on to hating on someone else.
How do you deal with drama? Do you believe it is caused by something other than jealousy?
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i do not get involved in drama. i don't associate with it. if someone tries to drag me into it, sorry. i'm out.
I avoid drama like the plague.
I punch a bitch. Just kidding, unless she involves me in her drama for no reason. But I avoid drama by being friends with 95% males.
Well this was rather long for saying what could have been said in 2 paragraphs.
I understand the line of thought behind this, but more often than not, if "drama" keeps showing her ugly jealous face to the same person time after time, it musn't always be down to the pure jealousy of others. Safe to say there are real problems with the one at the centre of this constant drama as well, at least sometimes, especially when they tend to discount every criticism as some bit of jealousy without any self-observations to see if one's behaviour/attitude is a factor in causing drama as well. Just my take on it.
@punkrocker40@xanga - Agreed. Females are too hard to associate with.
Drama is a hard pill to swallow. Yet, that is what I do. People will sometimes dislike you or me, yet the best thing to do is keep your head held high and refuse to comment. Swallow your pride and live your life. I try to act above it, even if it affects me.
@WordsandThoughts@xanga - I think that's just because you're a female. For me, it's easier to associate with women because I feel as if there's less judgment.
As far as drama goes, it's crap. I've personally cut ties with all the people who cause me unnecessary stress. I'd agree that jealousy is a big factor, but ignorance also plays a huge role. Someone I know became anti-religious and spent all his time bashing people for their beliefs, and when I defended them, his ignorance led to a falling out.
The funny thing is, when all is said and done people ALWAYS realize who the true problem in the situation is. Girls who bring drama ALWAYS bring drama and ppl will grow to realize it and start to keep their distance.
smashing fists over my skull [is how i deal].
It depends on the situation.
any catty hos wanna start drama with me, I just refer them to this music video to let them know how fabulous I am and how they ain't so fresh nor clean like me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mp2hvM2LL_4
I think it's all caused by someone else feeling not good enough.
So they have to make you feel like shit, too.
It takes two people to keep drama alive, so as long as you don't add to it, it's done.
I find that drama is caused by
competitiveness
(which can be caused by jealousy)
or
simple miscommunication.
But yes,
sometimes
plain old jealousy is the culprit.
The causes: Jealousy, competitiveness, mentally unstable, or a troubled childhood.
I try to stay away from people who instigate drama in life. Even though sometimes in life you go through dramas, I hate dramas. I'm one of those people who can't focus if a problem is not resolved. Does that make me a bad person if I don't want to involve myself in others dramas? I have enough going on in my life. Nobody's perfect. Even though I try to listen to my friends when they have a dilemma.
The drama around me is usually caused by people who are insecure, irrational, and/or overly judgmental. I do my best to stay out of it, but it's often directed at me. I wish I were in your situation and have it be due to jealousy. People hate on me because I'm a liberal, nonviolent, vegetarian, teetotaling, dirt poor, mentally ill, bisexual agnostic with a very strong sense of morality and an inability to work a regular job. That combination of traits is apparently ridiculously offensive and intolerable to some people, and they can be very hurtful with their outspoken opinions about me.
not worth the time and effort. I leave it alone; as I always have. Life is too difficult enough with the added bullshit and stress of people..
You are a fucking arrogant cunt.
@Salivarysatisfaction - Thank you, you're far too kind.
IGNORE IT.
My suggestion is :never let those bitches psych me out.
Who cares!!! My boyfriend thinks the same with me. He- is eight years older than me, lol. We met online at an age gap dating site [A_g_e_m_i_n_g_l_e @ c.//o.//m]---a nice and free place for Younger- Women and Older Men, or Older Women and Younger Men, to interact with each other. Maybe you wanna check out or- tell your friends
I ask, "Is this worth getting mad over? Can it be controlled?" Then we go from there...sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't. But at least I know what I'm working with!
I have really learned how to avoid drama- like you said, it is part just being me and doing my thing without shame. But it is also part surrounding myself with the right situations and people. I feel like nice, normal, fun girls who say they hate drama-at many times really crave it on an unconscious level. I am one of those girls. But in the last year I have learned how to stop myself. Number one way, get with a normal, nice guy that adores you. He isn't boring, he is just drama-free. Quit being so arrogant! I know it sounds difficult, but if you have self-confidence than your pride shouldn't be so sensitive. That is really hard for me, not always trying to correct people that disrespect me. And mostly, be a lovable individual. Being a truly kind-hearted individual will take away a lot of ammunition.
There will always be jealous people, psycho guys and mean guys who want to drag you itno it, because they love the drama. Bes advice? Ignore them and watch E! to get your love of drama out of your system.
Thinking about it, I barely have any drama. I'm not friends with too many girls for that matter. Mostly guys. So usually if there is drama it's not that bad. Just every once and awhile stuff.