The guy I'm talking to, G, told me last week that he went to the club and got a couple of hot girls' numbers since he and I weren't going to be able to date due to the fact that he works from 5 pm to 2 am. I don't have my license at the moment, and he lives 20 minutes away. That means that we don't have time or a chance to see each other. Since we said that we were going to be just friends for now, I figured I might as well find another guy since he had gotten other girls' numbers.
I told him that I was supposed to hang out with a guy one Friday and that we were going to go to the mall. I posted it on my Facebook status as, 'I have a date'. He got mad & said that I obviously don't care about him like I said I do. This happened Thursday. Since than I've hung out with the 2nd guy, K, had fun hanging out with him & realized that even though I can talk to him for hours that there aren't really any feelings for him and that he's more of a friend than anything else. I told K that I just wanted to be friends. He said that it was fine and still tried to get a 2nd date out of me.
Now, G is mad at me that I hung out with K, saying that he just told me that he got those numbers to see what I would say. It was supposedly a "test" in which I failed and now have to show him that I really do care about him to make up for the fact that I hung out with another guy. I told him that the fact that I slept with him should tell him I care about him, but nope, that doesn't prove anything.
What am I supposed to do when the guy I like says he got some hot girl's phone number? Sit around & do nothing? And how the hell am I supposed to know if it's a 'test' or not? I've never been in this situation before and have no idea how to deal with it.
Any suggestions? What would you do?
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Move on. you failed the test, so I suggest you drop the class for one of interest.
Although I don't know the entire story, it sounds like he's setting a double-standard here, where he's allowed to hang with other girls but you're supposed to just think only of him. I'd suggest you do what you want. If you and G cannot date, then it
only seems natural that you both see other people.
WHOA WHOA WHOA. He's testing you? He said he got other girls numbers, that means he isn't invested in you WHAT SO EVER, so why the hell should you wait on him? Lose him, NOW. He's obviously just all about mind games, he's probably insanely insecure, and his communication SUCKS.
You can do better than that tool, darling. You deserve so much more than that bullshit.
I wouldnt keep hanging out with this G fellow.
I agree with everyone else. Leave him. I don't tolerate tests and games like that. It's BS.
If he's immature enough to "test" you in the first place, he's not worth your time. Leave those pointless games to high schoolers.
What a loser. Why should you be the one to complain and whine that he wants to see other girls? And if you had said something, he probably would have pulled away from you. Some people are just never happy. -_-
Haha. Is he a girl? Not trying to be mean, but that's something I expect a girl to do. Pretend to have moved on to see if the girl he really wants gets jealous. The idea is that if you got jealous or angry at him when he said that he was getting girls number, then he would know that you wanted him to yourself. Therefore, you want him.
I did that to a boy recently. Well, something similar. I wasn't sure if he was feeling me as much as I was him, so I told him I wanted to stay friends and see if he would continue to pursue me or at least be a little upset that I was cutting him off. Instead, he was flirting with a new girl the next day. If he could move on so quickly, obviously he didn't care about me as much as I thought.
It's the same thing here. In his mind, if you cared about him, you would be willing to make it work despite not being able to see him a lot. You would be angry that he was "moving on." You would CARE. But, coming from his point of view, you didn't care enough to do any of that, so therefore, in his mind, you didn't care at all.
stupid games...
ugh, i just cut ties with a guy like that. you should just drop him. really... he gave you a "test"? who does that? he doesn't trust you and you definitely weren't doing anything wrong. i do understand that you care about him, but he's not worth your time.
Screw guys who play games. Drop him.
this guy sounds like a total tool.
"I expect you to be entirely into me.. even if I'm the sort to flirt with other ladies."
That's how he seems to come off.
HA. Fail.
I think you should move on. Or at least, make him realize his mistake.
It all depends on how much you like him. If you like him enough to trust him then swallow his petty game and try to resolve the problem. But if you find that you don't have it in you to keep liking him then there's no point.
Just ask, what if he was gone?
LOL yea he failed in life.
Only insecure people need to play games. Tell him to kick rocks and move on.
Uh, I wouldn't ever date someone who gets pissed if I hangout with another guy. Like, it really isn't a big deal worth freaking out about. Plus the distance and time thing, it would be perfectly reasonable for you to react to his "test" like that.
i want you to break his fucking penis
he is degrading to all the fucking men in the world and worth shit to all the women.
@WordsandThoughts@xanga - agreed.
Walk away hunny, and to you sex may show that you care or love him but to a guy you were just a peice of meat..... odds are he wasnt "testing" you he just wanted to make you jealous..... and hunny let me tell you you dont deserve to be waiting in line for any man!
What is he, a woman? Jesus Christ, with all of that bitching, surely he is the owner of a vagina? No? Anyway... he's a douche. Leave him.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - you are a boy. so what do you assume was the reaction he was waiting for?
@MyCongee@xanga - I wouldn't have a clue, if the guy has to give a test. Sounds like the adventures of the insecure.
run away and fast!!! playing games is not smart!
he is such an asshole. the entire idea of "testing" somebody is sick - you wouldn't need to test them if you trusted and cared about them enough to. god. people these days piss me off