Sunday, 16 May 2010
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He Says It's Too Soon, But It's Been 6 Weeks!
So... you really like a guy. Everyone tells you he's crazy about you. Then you finally start making out. All over the place. For six weeks.
You wind up in bed together. He's naked. You're naked. It's going great! You're thinking "It's about to happen! We're going to have crazy awesome sex any moment now!"And then? He coyly says: "We shouldn't do this yet... It feels TOO SOON."
Too soon!? Way to make ME feel slutty!
You know for a fact he's done it sooner with other people. You know for a fact he is severely turned on. You now also know for a fact he is a major vagina tease.
Anyway, what does TOO SOON mean? When is TOO SOON? Is 6 weeks of making out after 8 months of crazy flirting really TOO SOON?
Have any of you had experience with this? I'm so confused right now, I need advice!
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i don't think it was his intention to make you feel "slutty." "to soon" is relative, and you need to respect his understanding of readiness.
Too soon for him. I think you should respect it, even if its been sooner with other girls. Maybe he likes you a lot more than the others and wants to wait and make it special?
You have found one of the very few men who thinks 6 weeks is too soon. I've yet to find one to think 6 hours is too soon.
Here's my take on homeboy... either he's scared shit less of the emotional attachment bound to come with having sex with you, because lets face it - most men are commitment phobes... or he's been sticking his dipstick in other people's oil and you're just the make out buddy... or he legit wants a real relationship with you and is waiting till all his ducks are in a line.
Either way, after six weeks I would have thrown him down and forced myself on him, but hey, thats just me.
It means it's too soon for him and you should respect that. Jeez.
@WordsandThoughts@xanga - ALSO - it depends on his age, also. I tend to forget when I reply to these that a lot of people on Xanga are under 18 and people under 18 tend to have tunnel vision when it comes to anything like this.
If he's really that crazy about you, maybe he actually wants something more than just sex, so I can understand six weeks being "too soon"
I think people should wait for marriage, so....
But anyway, six weeks doesn't sound like too long. I mean, if you think about it, you've only been together for a month and a half. He probably wants very much for it to work out and wants to wait longer for you, make sure you're serious enough to do that.
Eh, just respect his decision. It doesn't mean he thinks you're a slut, just that you work at a different pace.
6 weeks isn't very long.
babe... this is technically not a problem... i know it's frustrating, but if he's willing to wait it out for you, then he probably sees a lot more in you than just punani, you know? and you're pretty lucky to find a guy who hasn't tried to jump your bones off the bat....
@xraindropsonroses@xanga - 100% agreed.
6 Weeks sounds like a very short time to me, it suprises me that people are even getting this close after only 6 weeks ><
Who cares!!! My boyfriend thinks the same with me. He- is eight years older than me, lol. We met online at an age gap dating site [A_g_e_m_i_n_g_l_e @ c.//o.//m]---a nice and free place for Younger- Women and Older Men, or Older Women and Younger Men, to interact with each other. Maybe you wanna check out or- tell your friends
@WordsandThoughts@xanga - @WordsandThoughts@xanga - Exactly. Everything you said.
@IridescenteMemoria@xanga - Great minds think alike =]
It depends. Were you dating for 8 months then made out for 6. or are you just now dating for 6 weeks and then having or about to be having hot crazy sex? cause if its the second optiion, hes right thats just a little too soon.
umm i mean that's too soon for me i guess.
6 weeks is too soon. if you're looking for a serious relationship anyway. all of the studies say you're supposed to wait 3 months. if you're not looking for anything serious, feel free to copulate whenever you want
@WordsandThoughts@xanga - Yess ma'am (:
@crazedhobbit@xanga - "all of the studies" are a crock. What studies? Don't worry I'll wait. Thing is, everyone is different. And waiting 3 days or 3 months won't make much of a difference. Sex is just sex, and how long you wait to bone doesn't directly correlate to how long a relationship will last. I had sex with my man a week into our relationship, prior to that we 'talked' barely a week. Four years later I don't take it back. Sex teaches you a lot about a person, a lot more than talking or making out.
How is six weeks too soon, if he is ALREADY in bed naked and as you can see, he is turned on. wth?? If it was too soon, he would have backed out before it reached that point. What the heck did he think would happen going into a bed and reaching that point? How frustrating!
All I can think of is he freaked out and didn't realize it was so close to happening. If he had a relationship and just wanted you to make out with, he wouldn't like I said have gotten to that naked bed part in the first place. I'd ask him what the deal is, because I'm not buying the 'its too soon' deal. Maybe there is some reasoning or something that we're missing here. A virgin I'd understand, but not a guy who has done it quicker with other girls.
@crazedhobbit@xanga - Why would you look at studies to determine a relationship? That isn't saying too much about the couple is it?
a little over a month?
Sounds like he was using some of David DeAngelo's techniques....
Uhm, 6 weeks isn't that long. I was best friends with my guy for a year and a half first and we didn't get that close until 3 months in.
6 weeks? Really? That seems pretty soon to me. But I don't know, this is kind of a weird situation, haha.
maybe is a sign of respect..
woah... this type of guys are already extincting slowly LOL!!!