Thursday, 13 May 2010
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Twenty Year Old Life Crisis
I'm young, I'm turning twenty in one week and I see it as the end of the world. I'm mature, but I'm silly. I stand at a tip toe 5'2 and I'm basically always going to look like I'm 12. I come from a childhood where I grew up to fast. This past semester was my first semester I ever actually acted my age, I had a group of friends, I danced on tables, and my biggest worry was where to go on a Saturday night - all of these things completely out of character for me in a sense. One thing is out of character for the typical twenty year old.
I know who I am going to marry.
I found him, not exactly what I was looking for but someone who is perfect for me. We dated for six months, broke up for four (which spun the out of character-ness), and now have started talking. And for those four months the only thing I wanted in the world was to be in his arms again to have him in my life and now that I have him, I want to continue to be out of character and hold off dating?
Now, before you throw your two cents in. I do know he's perfect, we're both on the same wave length about marrying each other. He is the best guy out there for me. But lately I am intrigued with guys who aren't right for me at all. Completely against my type. I am having a quarter life crisis and rejecting my soulmate. The thought of loosing him brings me to tears, there's no doubt in my mind, no dream without him, that he's the one I want. So why am I rebelling?
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I don't know.
But I'm the same boat... different water... also I have no idea how this guy really feels about me. So... I give up! Course, I'm 25 going on 26... I do know the importance of rebelling in your earlier 20's, as it is the time when you will look back on what you have built, tear it down, only to build it back up with cleaner eyes
no worries.
uh... you better straighten up your true feelings first?
well, you can't really have a "life crisis" until you've fully lived life ya know and from how you speak, it seems like you've done "some" stuff, but not everything. this issue that you have going on is typical, your rebelling because your just scared of things messing up once you put your all into it. do you love and trust him unconditionally? do you feel he loves and trust you unconditionally? if both of those answers are yes then you truthfully have nothing to worry about though if no is an answer to any one of them, then theres something to think about right there....
You're forcing yourself to "be ready" for that life long commitment, but you aren't truly ready. I read on article about males and timing. One man would go out with another woman for a few years and never be ready break it off, then date one for 6 months and get hitched. The article said men have their own timing so I'm going to assume women do as well. Now this is where you really have to ask yourself are you really ready? Or are you just forcing yourself into commitment. Or...maybe you're just scared of it.
The real answer is whatever you decide for yourself. In my opinion I think it's "right person, wrong time". If you have to force yourself that wouldn't do a commitment like that any justice.
fear of the unknown? I don't know.
Changing from a girl into a woman role and not feeling like your shoes are big enough or that you are ready or want to do this instead of that. What is this or that?
This is lame but LOL yeah, maybe? But I don't know you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlV7RhT6zHs
Don't think you're actually ready to get married. If you have doubts that strong...not ready. And that's okay. Just don't push it, or you'll mess your whole life up. Accept the fact that you're not ready. Not a big deal. Be who you want to be and see where that takes you.
(Coming from someone who is 20 and has been married for a year - above and beyond happily, btw)Well, curiosity is human nature. Maybe you're not as ready to settle down as you thought you were. This isn't something you should necessarily talk with him about. You've got some thinking to do on your own, from what it looks like.
I'm right with you on the about-to-turn-20-end-of-the-world syndrome though.
it sounds like you're just getting a chance to be free, so it only makes sense that you don't want to be tied down by a relationship.
Who cares!!! My boyfriend thinks the same with me. He- is eight years older than me, lol. We met online at an age gap dating site[A_g_e_m_i_n_g_l_e @ c.//o.//m]---a nice and free place for Younger- Women and Older Men, or Older Women and Younger Men, to interact with each other. Maybe you wanna check out or- tell your friends
lol why do i keep commenting below this spam!
i think you are not ready... u jsut liek this guy and think he is marriage material..idk
You're obviously not ready.
I'd hardly call this crisis though.
Just get your feelings and thoughts in order is what I can say.
I think a lot of people have to have the opportunity to "rebel" against their status quo to reinforce the fact that they know what they really want.
Because you are a girl and there is something inherently self-destructive in us that craves drama. Do what you know you won't regret.
you're young! you aren't ready for your life to be settling down, even if he is the one. talk to him about it and see how he feels.
I've been through something similar of wanting what I can't have and am still in this cycle. sometimes I'll wait around to talk to a guy but when he is finally available to talk, I don't feel like talking to him anymore or the excitement fades as soon as the anticipation is over.
Human brains aren't even done developing until roughly the age of 24-25. Just be careful with the big life choices like that. But hey, I could be wrong. I'm only 20 as well.
I don't know, I'm 21 and still act like I'm 15, but I'm okay with that.
hold off and find out. if you don't, you'll always wonder.
Hey, you're going to be 20 not 40. I'd be more worried about my soul mate if I didn't have one when I turned 40. You have your entire life ahead of you; don't let this current guy hold you back. Let yourself explore all the different options.
I know how you feel. I'm having a 19-year-old life crisis, but it's mostly things like "Who the hell am I, where am i going? Why do people like me? I'm going to be old soon! Omg, all i do is school! I don't know how to love! Life sucks...but i like it too....
i honestly just think that it's because you think you're ready but really there's still a part of you that still wants to be young and date. lol. i was in the situation before.
interesting. I'm 20. I know who I'm going to marry. I'm not rebelling.
Maybe it's a mindset kind of thing.Sounds like you can't get over your ex...It's understandable. Also, it's hard knowing he's your soulmate when you only dated for 6months.
You just want to see what else is out there. Don't worry too much about it, I think the 20 year old life crisis is normal... I feel like I'm going through one also. PS I love that the first pic is from Dawson's Creek. I'm currently obsessed with watching reruns of that show, haha.