Rejection is not fun! Especially when it comes to romance and most especially when you're the one getting the boot. However, when the shoe is on the other foot and you are the "rejecter" it's a whole 'nother story.
Recently, I have found myself in the position to become the rejecter. While I honestly like the guy as a friend and we do have a lot of fun when we hang out, he still doesn't seem to have gotten the subtle hints that I'm just not interested in him.
I have in the past experienced both sides of this coin... everyone eventually does... (Why is it that you rarely like the person who likes you and vice versa... like in a Midsummer Night's Dream... except sans fairies.)
It's an uneasy situation and the longer it persists it seems the more determined he becomes. So what is the most effective way to reject someone? I’ve researched long and hard… asked friends/family/strangers, reviewed sage magazine articles, online advice pieces and here’s what I’ve compiled for your convenience:
1.) Be aloof. Don't pay attention to them. Ignore them.
Period. 2.) If for some reason they feel you're just playing hard to get
, become unappealing. Blow your nose! Pick your nose! Eat with your mouth open! Burp! Fart! Don’t use deodorant! Don't take a shower! Talk about yourself incessantly. Get completely hammered and in my case and other Asians, develop the rosy “glow”!
Then throw up on their shoes! 3.) Perhaps they find your disgusting habits cute even endearing! Then you should
flirt unabashedly with other guys/girls. Hang all over your guy/girl friends. Talk to them about your crush. Describe said person…. Make said “crush’s” description the exact opposite of them.
4.) Still doesn't work?
Blatantly lie! Tell them you’re taken! Tell them you don’t like boys/girls in that way! Say you’re taking a vow of life-long celibacy! Say you were born asexual. Or simply tell them you just got out of a long term relationship and you're not looking to commit.
5.) Are they now encouraged to "wait" for you to be ready? Still stalking?
Just be a mean, nasty a**hole. Take it up another level and call them names. Laugh in their faces. Throw food at them for no reason. Shave their dog so that their fur now spells out a four-letter word. Why? Because you can and because you’re a complete a**hole.
Now that you’re armed with sage advice, I want you to take all that you have just learned and throw it out the f***ing window. That’s right … even if you have to print out my blog and crumple it up into a big wad of paper (maybe even fold it into an airplane or a swan) and throw it out the f***ing window. DO IT….. I’ll wait ‘til you’re finished.
In the end, it’s really a simple solution –
just be honest. Don’t play games… (that’s how you get into more trouble.) If the occasion should arise and he should ask me how I really feel… I’ll just tell him. In the meantime I’ll just continue being myself and treating him like a friend because that’s how I see him.
In the end, there’s no way to “reject” someone without hurting their feelings; for they like you and thus feelings are already invested. When I’ve been on the receiving end of rejection I’ve had people let me down “easy” and let me down “honestly.” The latter is much better; it shows more respect because they’re not trying to pull the wool over my eyes.
Put yourself in their shoes before you do something like lie or treat them nastily. Remember what it's like to be rejected yourself. (And if you've never been rejected, better hope you won't run into me in person 'cause I'm gonna throw you out the f***ing window.
Just kidding, kinda... >_
Have you ever been the rejecter? How did you handle it?
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Comments (26)
too many games. >.<
hahahahahha
yea thats a bit much o_0;... haha...
...Lol some of these ways are just awful.
I think you just need to be blunt. If they can't take that you're not interested then they just are living in their own world, be blunt, be honest.
Tell them the truth. Don't waste your time with the reasons above.
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hahaha when i started reading this i thought.. wow, this is some HORRIBLE advice... and you really gave me a good laugh (and a sigh of relief) at the end there. great post.
From the very beginning I had doubts about this list. I'm glad you were just joking. And I agree. Honesty is best.
i agree, just be honest. at least they'll get the point and they just might stop thinking and over-analyzing the situation. sure, it's going to hurt them, but if they don't know and they continue to be persistent, it's just going to annoy the hell out of you a lot more. plus, you feel a lot better about yourself after you get it off your chest.
@Gentleman_Of_Versailles@xanga - LOL this was a joke blog. Read all the way to the end where I tell the reader to then take this blog print it out, crumple it up and throw it out the window! :)
@AmeliaHart@xanga - Lol, sorry, I honestly couldn't finish the rest up to a point.
@Cliffycliffz@xanga - But shaving a four-letter word into the other person's dog might work! ;)
@kawasaki_saiyan@xanga - Yes and being on the receiving end (of being rejected) I'd much rather have someone tell it to me straight than leading me on and just slowly tearing out my soul instead lolll..>
Too much work.
Just say no.I'm so bad at rejecting people >.<
When I find out someone likes me, I'm actually nicer to them, so I think it makes things worse. However, I'm usually in a relationship, so I don't normally have to worry about this problem...
hahahaha awwww i like the one where you throw up on their shoes!!! but yeah honesty is all good and whatever.
also, leave them the hell alone. i know people (coughGIRLScough) who like the attention, so once they find out a guy likes them, even if they don't like him back, they will continue to hang out with them and flirt with them and lead them on. it's important to walk the walk as well- tell them you're not interested, and then don't act like you are. they may not want to see you, and that's ok. don't try to be friends. LEAVE THEM THE HELL ALONE! yes, this has cost me a few friendships, but it's less pain for everyone in the end!!
Thank you for this. I needed it at the moment...
i admit, i sometimes played a bit aloof. i don't really straight up ignore anyone, not on purpose anyway.
if they don't say anything about liking me (even if i can tell by the way they are acting) i go about my life as i would if i did not know their feelings, ie, flirting with people. i do it now, and i'm in a relationship (he's cool with and does the same).
but i agree: honesty and directness is the best route. i follow this with as many facets of life as possible. i don't like playing games. if i liked someone, i let them know ASAP. it wastes less time anyway.
i just wish that when a person got rejected, they didn't behave like immature assholes and do whatever they could to "get back at you"
@JennyGee@xanga - i totally agree. actions like those contradict what has been said, what is the person supposed to think?? then those girls/whoever go and complain about how the guy still won't quit/whatever...ugh.
it makes me sad to watch people string others along like that.
Loll.
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Ok I hope every one of those tips except #1 were just for comedic effect. They're quite harsh and unusual lol.
Just when you reject someone! Do it nicely, straight...No hints no rudeness and don't become the enemy after all! Feelings are not a joke...All the 5 points are good for kids to have some fun.
wow i love this post!! =]
lol and its very true. ive had LOTS of girls ask me out or tell me they really like me and all that, and the best way to do it is to really be honest.
everytime i did this, the girls turned out to be some of my best friends =]
Hmm... but this doesn't exactly apply to me....
Does it make sense to reject someone because the relationship is too close and you're afraid of love? The deeper I get, the more frightened I get, and I don't want to be lonely, but I duno how to love.