Sunday, 09 May 2010
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Still In Love With Your Ex?
I know I am. I can't get him out of my head. After we broke up I was okay with it... But then I saw him with another girl and I realized that I don't want to see him with anyone but me. Which is, okay, very selfish. But then I also realized that I can't see myself with anyone BUT him!!! It drives me nuts. Should I call him? Should I make some sort of attempt to get him back in my life, because I really think I do love him. Or is it best to just let go, move on... "there are other fish in the sea".. yeah yeah yeah, but maybe I'm not a fish.
Is anyone else in this situation? Leave your thoughts or words of wisdom below.
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More like: The ex is STILL in love with me -.-
i am and i wanna still be friends but it's so hard and when i see him flirt or something with another girl i just wanna cry
Let him go. And if he returns, it was meant to be. And if not, it wasn't.
Well I guess it depends on how long you guys have been apart?
I've been apart from my ex for a really long time and he didn't treat me nicely AT ALL so idk why I still want to be with him.. but I do. I don't know I guess it's wanting familiarity. I don't blame you. Maybe try to date someone else and see if you can move on?
I tried and I just couldn't, I hope things go better for you though.
They always come back. It might take awhile, but they always come back.
But by then you might be in my predicament, falling completely for another guy thinking you're done with your ex, then when he comes back you get completely confused and you don't know what to do. *Sigh* Life is complicated.
No. Leave him alone.
If he wanted to be with you then he would be. He's moved on, and you should too. That doesn't mean that you should latch onto the next guy you see, but start the healing process and do what you need to do to phase him out of your life.
As time passes you will feel better about it.
yeahhh. :/ exactly how i feel. i tried to fix things but it didn't work...and when i was finally getting used to him not talking to me, seeing him with another girl brought like all the pain back. but he's moved on...so i have to.
As painful as it is, you are going to need to let go.
I know exactly how you feel. Every day, I can't stop thinking about him. It's painful..I've tried to move on, but..I just can't. Even when I have a new guy, I still know I love him.
It's been over two months and yeah, I'm still incredibly in love with her. She started dating some guy less than a week after we broke up our nine month relationship, so I gave up. She obviously never felt the same way I had.
You need to let go. You guys broke up for a reason, and as much as it hurts, getting back together is not going to fix those problems. Calling also won't help you at all. You need to do what you can for yourself to get over him. And you need to realize that getting over him takes time, and a lot of it. There's no instant gratification in this case.
just think about everything that caused the breakup and how much it didnt work. thats what i do atleast.
if its meant to be, it'll happen. just wait for it.
It's been almost a year, and neither of us is over it yet, but neither of us is willing to get back together, either. My only suggestion is to focus on bigger things, and on yourself. If it's meant to be, he'll come around; in the meantime, do what makes YOU happy.
Yep, still in love with the ex and he's in love with me. Very complex situation unfortunately, but we're trying to sort things out. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but not allowing myself to get my hopes up too high.
Are you two still friends? Have you ever just gone for a coffee and hung out as friends since you split? Give that a try and see if you can discern just how he feels about you now :) Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
I live with my ex. We dated for almost six years, and broke up about six weeks ago. Luckily it ended fairly amicably. We both have some issues we need to work out on our own, so we agreed to break up with the option of getting back together later. It's tough to think that we're gonna try and see other people.
Seeing how I haven't figured this one out yet, I'll just wish you the best. And I hope I can figure it out myself.
i feel this way sometimes, it comes and goes. ultimately, i know i'm better off without him and that my attachment is more a habit than based on the content of his character.
I am too.. but really, there's a good reason he's in the past now. If it was meant to be-- it you guys would've been together.
@justtchange@xanga - Very well said. I could relate to this a lot.You need to move forward & be done with the past.
I honestly still love my ex and she knows that I do. I have for the few years, since we dated we have been best friends. I love her but I really don't think dating her would be the best decision for either of us. The best advice that I could give you would be, let him know. Maybe he will feel the same way.
My wife left me . Moved to Korea then someplace in the UK .Doesn't help bitter feeling but at least you can't ever walk down the street and see your ex with someone else . this is always facebook but you can block that too . my insite . =)
I'll share my piece of advice with you. I was in love with my ex, until i found my current beau now. I pined and cried, and even pleaded with myself to just pick up the phone and call him, but each day I didnt, was another day where it was okay to be myself. It was okay to cry or laugh or act stupid because I wasnt attached. Sure, it hurt like hell, but each day when I woke up without having to hear his voice at night, or talk to him, I felt stronger. Its hard when you see them together, believe me, I know. But its so much easier when you know you're over him. You may not be a fish, but hunny you aren't a penguin either. There's plenty of other guys who can, and would be, better for you. :] if you need more advice, message me.
Hmm yeah I'm not over mine either... we've broken up for real like 2 times (counting this time) and a couple times for a few days.... we always come back together so that's why it's so hard, along with the whole 3+ year plus relationship... being best friends too...
I doubt he's fully over me either, but I'm doing my best to let him go because he always pushes me away... trying to get close again never works and never helped in the past. Not saying I would even give him another chance [right away?] but from what I know, it's better if you leave them alone and maybe try friendship... but let him come to you.
Try to move on with your life, I know it hurts, oh God, I do... it kills me that my future currently doesn't include my ex after all the plans we made... but you'll be that more much attractive if you are happy and living your life to the fullest. Hope this helps!
@SilencexMexPlz@xanga - haha I love that about not being a penguin!
DO NOT call him!!! that's a bad idea, especially because he's with someone else now
I've been in this situation. Twice. Once before, and now currently am. If there's anything I've learned from the first time, it's let it go. If it's meant to be, it will be. As painful as that is. Waiting sucks, but just know that you're young and there's somebody out there for you. Make yourself happy in the mean time.
same here,,,two years ago already, which we havnt been in touch, since lately, and i know clearly how i felt about him, i just could not help it, he started acting like a stranger to me, but now, we talk,,,nothing much that im aftering, i just want to have some kind of connection with him, until the day he leave my heart!