According to my psychology textbook,
a woman's physical appearance is the strongest predictor of her husband's socio-economic status. (compared to other predictors such as her own socio-economic status or her intelligence)
From my limited observations, this statement is somewhat true. From the blatantly obvious young and attractive Hugh Hefner girlfriends to normal everyday life when you see gorgeous women step out with guys in nice cars.
But why beautiful women and rich men?
This is what I thought of:
1.
Evolutionary perspective: females choose their mates according to the resources he is able to provide (ie. money) so that their offspring will have the greatest chance of survival. Back in the prehistoric times, females chose the strongest males in the pack as their mates. Their strength and ability to provide food was the resource. Men, on the other hand, will always choose the healthiest females to mate with to ensure survival of their offspring; assuming here that beauty is a sign of healthiness (ie. shiny hair, good skin are both signs that someone is healthy). Furthermore, an indicator of or how people judge physical beauty is by face symmetry. Face symmetry is a cue to good genes (according to the scholarly documents I read- don't believe me? Just google "face symmetry and good genes"). So therefore, the evolutionary approach can be used to explain the modern day hot women and rich men coupling phenomenon.
2.
Appearances perspective: or in other words, "keeping up with the Joneses". It just looks good for men to have a beautiful woman by their side and it looks good for women to be with rich men. This reason is the most superficial of all the other reasons.
3.
Attraction perspective: Men are attracted to beautiful women and women are attracted to men who can provide aka women are attracted to
money.
4.
Benefits perspective: There are obvious benefits to being with a rich man for women; 1. If you wanted to, you could laze around and not have to support yourself. 2. You get all the luxuries in life (well depending on how rich your man is). For men, I couldn't think of any "real" practical benefits. The only practical benefit I can think of to having a good-looking wife is to enhance your own image of "success" dictated by society. This definition of "success" means having a trophy wife, power and a high status job.
But despite the fabulous reasons listed above, what about marrying for
love?
Of course it could be entirely possible that two people are in love and the woman happens to be gorgeous and the man happens to be filthy rich.
I know I am in no position to judge people's relationships- but sometimes, I wonder if those hot woman/ rich guy combos are really based out of love for each other. Is that woman with that man because he makes her smile, or is it because of another reason?
In the end, it comes down to personal preferences.
Does love mean more to you or does financial stability (for women) / being with someone good-looking (for men) mean more to you? Under what circumstances would you choose to marry someone not based on love but based on money and looks? Is it important to you to marry for love?
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I do not envy people who make decisions based on views from society.
Love definitely means more to me. I have no desire to be a rich man's wife. I'd be afraid I'd never fit in with his friends and they'd think I wasn't classy enough. If I fall for someone who happens to be rich, I won't decide not to be with him just because of that. I would prefer to fall for someone who makes about the same as I do. If I got married, as far as finances were concerned, I would just want to be assured that I wouldn't end up having to support both of us, since I am not in a position to do that.
And if I am going to commit to spending my life with a person, I had better absolutely love that person and not be able to imagine my life without them. That matters way more to me than how big our house is.
After having made some terrible financial mistakes in my past, financial stability is a huge thing for me. I'm not saying I'm marrying someone for money, but I need to know that we share similar attitudes when it comes to finances. That is, we manage our money in such a way that we can live comfortably (but below our means), and we have the freedom to do things we enjoy because we don't have debt up to our eyeballs. I don't want to be in a marriage where we're constantly stressed out about money or living paycheck to paycheck.
I wouldn't say financial stability means *more* to me than love, but it's a "must have" factor.
I mean, as long as a guy is rich, good-looking, and funny, he can probably make most women fall in love with him. So those traits cause the initial attraction, then the people fall in love. Because my guess is that there are a lot of people you could potentially fall in love with. But the initial attraction is what starts it.
Of course, every woman here is going to say that money isn't important to them. Most of them are lying. Some don't even know they;re lying; that's how deeply in denial they are. Same with guys and looks. Although guys are more likely to admit looks are important because we're already seen as dogs anyway.
@ZepBlueEyedGirl@xanga - I applaud you for your honesty.
I don't really understand the double standard of men being judged for our financial well being whereas women aren't.
We state that "financial stability is a must" but last I recalled, women ARE given equal opportunities of having successful careers for quite some time. Don't understand why unsuccessful women aren't criticised just as much as unsuccessful men.
Beautiful women have got it easy; I can't believe so many women HAVE NOT caught on to -- eating well and exercising right can lead it to becoming your meal ticket to life. It's so frickin' sad that many men are willing to great lengths along with a huge financial burden (showering some woman with free meals and gifts) to obtain a beautiful woman. It's like they are holding up a sign that says, "Please take advantage of me!"
A guy being hot doesn't have anywhere near as much of an effect as a woman being hot.
@Liquid_Pain_523@xanga - Well we all must admit that love is NOT even remotely close to being selfless.
love means a lot to me in a marriage, but i know that love won't pay the bills. i would say 60-70 love to 30-40 money. i'm not saying we have to have a combined income of 100K+, just as long as we don't live beyond our means, aren't in debt, and are on the same page financially, we should be good.
the only time i would choose money over love in marriage is never. even if had no friends, no family, no support system, no nothing and married for money... life would just suck to the nth degree.
All factors come into play here! I can't really pick a specific factor on its own.
I'm gold digging my way to the top.
Step one: Hot ass business lady attire.
Men don't have many perks having one "trophy wife" in this context.
Having a high power status and job, only equal multiple women, in this case.
It'd make no sense to have a trophy wife, and actually TRUST her, when she's there based on what you provide. You'd only seek to keep her away from others as successful as yourself.
it takes an overwhelmingly ambitious and intelligent man to be filthy rich. I admire the rags to riches millionaires. I'd have to be attracted to him sexually and emotionally and the wealth is a bonus. I think these women marry rich men because he treats her like a queen and maybe that makes her feel loved. love is subjective so who is to say those trophy wives are not in love with their sugar daddies. love can blossom and love can die down even for non-rich normal people, who get married, so I think their probability of marrying and staying in love is no more or less than those whom are rich. people who marry for love don't necessarily always stay in love or those who married mainly for money/looks can grow their love. who knows.
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@xXDC_luyouXx - Agreed. There's not even a good reason to pretend it is selfless. People want love because it makes them feel good to have that bond with someone. And they want someone that's going to make them feel safe, all that jazz. I'm not saying love is completely selfish, but it's silly to believe it's selfless too.
to all you ladies, instead of thinking about what your man can do for you, how about what can YOU do for your man?
plus, all you ladies wanted equalities, now you have it, stop depending on the guy!
This post hit the nail on the head. For real.
I ve seen hot guys with not so hot women.
I like to think that there is more to love than just looks and money. If those are the only 2 things that love is based on, then I don't think it's love at all.