When you get married, will you stop celebrating your dating anniversary and replace it with your wedding anniversary?
Taking my parents as an example.. I've never heard them say they are celebrating their first date. I don't even know if either of them remember what that day may be. But I find that sad. You spend your entire relationship celebrating the day you fell for each other, and then forget it the minute you get married.
I'm going to request that my future husband and I celebrate both. Not only because I think they are both special dates that deserve remembrance, but also because I REALLY LIKE PRESENTS!
What about you?
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I was thinking about this recently too. I think I would just switch to celebrating my wedding anniversary. Neither of us can really afford another gift-giving day anyway.
Isn't the point of celebrating an anniversary to celebrate how much you love each other, not how much money you can spend on each other?
I'd probably only celebrate my wedding anniversary upon marriage.
If you find a man who can remember both, then he's definitely worth marrying.
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I don't put much stock in anniversaries. Hell, I don't even care about birthdays all that much. I really wouldn't care about a dating anniversary. My gf and I right at this very moment don't even know what day it is. In fact, we only have a vague idea of which week it was. We know it was November, early November and that's about it. And we don't really care. A date doesn't really make our relationship anymore or less than it already is.
Oh and OP, requesting your future husband to do that would suck. He might smile and say "Yeah, that'd great!" but he would be lying. And if you're thinking, "Well that's why the man I marry will like doing things like that", you're lying to yourself. There aren't any.
I am getting married in June and my fiance has many times, when the topic came up, said, as if we both just took it for granted, that we would automatically stop celebrating Sept. 9th and start celebrating June 5th. I, however, like you, think it will be weird to just forget something we have celebrated when you know we will both remember it at least the first few years of marriage in favor of a new anniversary. But presents aren't really my motive, so what I plan on doing is just make a really nice dinner on Sept. 9th and make it a special evening to commerorate and I won't be broken hearted if he doesn't remember because I will be the one keeping it alive (and my fiance is a sweetie who will always play along). Eventually the tradition will slowly die out, while June 5th lives on (with lots of jewelry), but it will be to the point I think where it is something we have truly grown into rather than just stopping cold turkey because we got married.
i've thought about this a lot, since i'm getting married soon, and when we get married my fiance and i will have been together for 5 years. we talked about it, and thought about having our wedding be on the day of our anniversary, but that didn't work out. (its july 4th haha) then we talked about remembering 2 different dates, but i think it's a little much to celebrate 2 anniversaries. i think what will probably happen is after we're married, we'll tell people we've been together for 6 years, but married for 1. or something like that. i know i will ALWAYS remember our original anniversary, because it's been so special for so long. i'm pretty sure he'll remember it too, since it's the 4th of july. in any case, just forgetting the original anniversary makes me sad. it should at least be remembered, if not celebrated. :)
I thought about this before, and considered it, but we didn't start dating until 8 years after we first met. So, I'm not too sure about it anymore, even though both anniversaries are important to both of us.
I like what krazykat said, you could try your best to make your wedding day the same as your "first date" if possible. That would be kind of neat, ours is June 13.. that would be a good time for a wedding if it happened
I would probably always remember and mention it, but I would not expect a whole celebration or a gift.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - What's crazy is that they are married in real life....
My husband is more sentimental then I am, he'll remember our anniversary before I do. Besides, really, anniversaries don't matter, as long you appreciate each other everyday, the day you met is ok to be remembered as just a fond memory and doesn't need special celebrations and wasteful spending. =)
Or you can get married on the day you guys first met and starting dating. Or, both like you said...
For the first time in my life, just this past October, I found out my parent's anniversary. They never tell me anything....
so would you be getting married for the gifts or love??
i never thought about it that way...why don't married couples celebrate the day they fell for each other? very cute ^_^
I would probably keep celebrating our initial anniversary because it's how long we've "been together"... if people asked how long we'd been married that would be a different answer. I think we'd probably still do something on our wedding anniversary though, just because there aren't enough holidays in a year and that adds more reason for celebration.
We got married a little over a year to the day we got married. (We started dating Nov. 25th and the next year we got married on Nov. 21st) I wanted it to be on the 25th, but the way that the week fell the 21st was the closest Saturday. So we just celebrate both at once I guess you could say. =]
Having our fifth dating anniversary on Friday, I don't think we're likely to forget it. It'll be note-worthy, but not a huge party, because we're not so much into that.
We celebrate both. And it was my husband's idea to do so. Our dating anniversary is October 13th and our wedding anniversary is May 8th.
I wouldn't specifically tell him I'd like to celebrate the day that we met along with our wedding anniversay. however, I'd get a gift ready just in case he is the extra sentimental type, so when he surprises me on the day that we met with a gift or whatever other dinner surprise or something, then I'll act like I didn't remember the day just to tease him, because I want to see his adorable sad puppy face
then I'll surprise him
but I don't think it'd really be a surprise because I wouldn't marry a guy that isn't the romantic sentimental type.
My parents don't celebrate their first date anniversary, but they do celebrate their engagement anniversary as well as marriage anniversary. I think it works out well for them. One celebration in December, one in June. Haha, as for me, I don't know what I'll do. It'll depend on the guy I marry, I suppose.
Our dating anniversary is May 18th. We plan to be engaged, and then married.. probably within a year, and I think it'd be nice to be married ON our dating anniversary. Every year on our wedding anniversary it would be however many years we were married + 2 years for dating. I think that'd be pretty cool way to solve that.
Then again, it depends on the month of engagement. I don't want to drag out a really long engagement necessarily, just to wait for May 18th. It would depend on how far away it was. I'd like to keep the engagement between 4-8 months. If not, then I'd like to celebrate both anniversaries, even if it's something simple. As long as it's sentimental and acknowledges the occasion, I'm happy.
I'm the type of person who loves anniversaries! Or any kind of day that requires celebration, but my parents are not like that. i don't know their anniversary cause they never talk about it
i totally agree!
the idea of this jus popped in my head the other day randomly, for some reason haha
I would celebrate both, but probably not every year.
Yea I agree, I will also celebrate both! We have been together since we were 14 there's no way I wouldn't still wanna celebrate that :)
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I would like to celebrate anniversaries, but I'd also like to think that everyday should be as significant as the day of the anniversary.