Monday, 03 May 2010
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Are You Friends With Your Exes on Facebook?
It's a difficult thing to define, Facebook friendships. Why do you become friends on Facebook?
"I met you once, therefore we need to be friends on Facebook." "I know you well, therefore we should be friends on Facebook."
But what happens when you have a terrible argument with your friend and are not really on speaking terms? We stay friends with each other on Facebook because de-friending someone on Facebook is too final and absolute. When someone makes that cut and de-friends you on Facebook you think, "OMG why?!?! What happened?" "Oh Jeez, its really over."
Same thing with relationships. A relationship in a lot of peoples minds these days isn't official unless you list it on Facebook. And then once you remove it from Facebook, its over! Without even waiting to see why your partner removed it from their profile, the other person thinks "OMG, THEY BROKE UP WITH ME WITHOUT EVEN TELLING ME!!!!" Another hard thing to figure out is why someone would be in a relationship in real life, but not list it on Facebook. Hm. What's going on with this? Are they really in a relationship? Trying to work things out?
Funny how all different sorts of relationships now have different meanings when filtered through Facebook.
Have you noticed this trend? Are you friends with your exes on Facebook?
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Facebook is evil.
No because I have never had a girlfriend.
haha this is hilarious. mainly because it's so true.
i'm friends with one of my exes on facebook. the last ex de-friended me the day i broke up with him. he has since then tried adding me as a friend 2-3 times.
i declined each time.
we are not friends in "real life" and i don't need him added to my list to make me appear more popular. thanks, but no thanks.
People have become to dependent on the Internet, specifically Facebook. I can remember just a few short years ago when being in a relationship was as simple as telling your friends (in real time, mind you), "So-and-So is my boy/girl friend!"
Yeah, there was really no reason for my ex and I to stop being friends. There was nothing super special between us, and he didn't think it was time for a relationship. Except, because of Facebook he probably found out I'm with someone new. He was snippy with me the the other day and didn't want to hang out with me.
I hate Facebook.
My ex friend defriended me on fb so I just completely blocked her bc I dont want to have to do anything with her life at all. No hate there, just completely dont want to be mixed with a person like her. My policy is lose fake friends lose nothing at all. She only liked you if you agreed to everything she said.
My ex boyfriend tried to be friends with me too. Trying to send messages in between so that I would fall back inlove with him. I just completely blocked the douche bag
I don't see why anyone wouldn't be unless you get jealous easily.
I'm friends with a couple of exes on facebook. We did stay friends and our relationships weren't too serious though, so it's not so akward between us when we find out the other one has got a new bf or gf. And yes I've noticed that trend. I've also seen people taking the piss saying they are marrying their best friend.
If my ex and I were on speaking terms I wouldn't have a problem being friends with him. But he has completly blocked me from contacting him at all. He's still upset that I broke up with him.
Nope. Took care of that necessary unfriending a while back.
Weirdly enough, I am fb friends with two of my boyfriend's exes. He's only friends with one of them :P
I mean I am facebook friends with the boys I dated in like Middle school...but I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years now, ever since I was in 8th grade and he was in 9th. We broke up about 3 years ago when he went away for college but the break up only lasted for 3 months. We were kinda seeing other people, when I broke it off with the other guy he just deleted facebook all together since he hardly had time to get on anyways and the girl my current boyfriend now was kinda talking to he went ahead and deleted her because clearly she was immature. She would have her friends try to add me so she could check me out then have her friends write on his wall and stuff so he just ended up deleting her. To think we were 20 years old. Real mature huh? Guess in some cases it is okay to delete someone.
No. I don't speak to any of my ex's.
I defriended my ex because I think he's just a downright bad person. I don't want him in my life, I don't want him knowing what's going on with my life.
But at the same time not everyone posts their relationship status on facebook. I don't like it when people I barely know gossip about me and check out my boyfriend's pictures.
Yes, because I never slept with any of them.
My boyfriend and I are in a relationship on facebook, but that's the first time I've ever done it. We didn't even put it up until eight months into the relationship. They recently added a spot for your anniversary, too. My friend who just got in a relationship posted hers. I thought that was pretty ridiculous. Anyway, I'm friends with my exes, but I never ended on bad terms with them and I was still friends with them. With all my exes we just ended it because it wasn't working out or there wasn't anything there. Not because of some drama or anything so I guess it's different. I know my boyfriend isn't friends with like any of his exes because he doesn't like any of them anymore. I smell drama with all those :p Anyway, I notice the trend of putting yourself in a relationship. I usually just lose my shit and start laughing when I see people change it to engaged.
@freeeker@xanga - LOL at your comment.
I have one ex I'm friends with on facebook. We're on good terms, but we know our boundaries and keep it at that. If we see each other, we will exchange a few words. But again, boundaries.
I'm friends with my ex-girlfriend on facebook, but not my ex-boyfriend. (I am, however, friends with my ex-boyfriend's wife, who we both had a year long fling with while he and I were a couple. She was my friend from high school first and foremost, so I'm hesitant to cut that tie altogether.) My current boyfriend knows all of this, and he's never objected to it. I think friending certain exes is okay on both our ends, but I'd be very upset if I saw that he was friends with two particular manipulative women from his past.
I've noticed this trend. It's irritating. When I got married and didn't change my status right away, every one was having a FIT! I don't have any exes on my FB, I think it would be disrespectful to a SO if you did. If your single, don't think it matters.
Yes, I'm friends with many of my exes on facebook. We are all still on good terms. We don't hang out or talk that much but its nice to have a vehicle if we ever wanted to catch up.
I keep my relationship status hidden all the time. And of course I'm friends with my exes. How else will I know what they're up to?
I've never had a bf but I'm friends with the boy that rejected me lol
We don't talk though...I've been contemplating deleting him, but I think it would be a bit immature of me >.<Although....I have deleted a girl because we got into a fight. She was so astounded! It was ridiculous b/c she was the one who told me we couldn't be friends anymore. So I deleted her. She still makes fun of me b/c of that. Not sure how that works. Â
"Facebook: The NEW Homewrecker"
coming to a computer near you...to wreck havoc on your daily love life....I am not friends with two of my exes on facebook. One of them I don't really need to cause he's moved on and is doing his own thing, and we broke up on mostly good terms, the other (most recent ex) I have to. I don't want anything to do with him, and I'm sure he feels the same. We had a bad breakup, more like 5 breakups (breakup, make up, repeat). If we were friends again I'm sure he'd stalk me down to try and meet up with me. Being in the same town as him creeps me out worse.
First ex I am friends with. Our mutual friends were killed in a car accident 5 years ago, I feel somewhat obligated to stay friends, on Facebook that is. If things were my way I'd not be friends with him (realized exes are not good as friends), but he'd have a fit if I wasn't friends with him. So I do it to keep his mouth shut.
yes, i am. i don't really talk to any of them on facebook or otherwise, but i don't dislike any of them enough to delete them. every once and a while one of my exes will comment or like my status or something like that... but nothing significant.
my boyfriend is still friends with a couple exes on facebook. i made him delete one girl who was an ex fuck buddy of his. when they were seeing eachother he wanted to date her, but she basically backstabbed him and slept with one of his best friends. there was no good reason to keep her on his facebook.
I've deleted one old friend of mine... in short, he's a dick and would always comment rude things on anything I posted so I even went as far as to completely block him so now he can't see anything I write on anybody's walls.
I'm friends with all of my exes that have facebook. I mean, it's not like we broke up for bad things, it was just the right time. We couldn't be dating anymore, but we can still be friends.