Saturday, 01 May 2010
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Guilty Until Proven Innocent
You know about them. You've heard the horror stories. The ones about "the girl who cried wolf." I just cannot believe that cases like these happen at all.
At college, my roommate's friend has been on and off hooking up with this guy who is also our mutual friend. The girl, Beth, has this other guy on the side back at home. Beth and her guy, Kenneth, do not have a healthy relationship. Basically the guy breaks up with her when they go away to school and then gets back with her to have sex over breaks. But she believes that they are "in love and going to get married." Please.
So much for being in love, she realized that she needs her sexual fix too. So she begins to hook up with this guy, we'll call him Patrick. Pat has had a crush on Beth for over a year. Although she treats him poorly, he always accepts her with open arms whenever she decides she's interested in him again. Sounds like there's some vicious cycle emerging.
Earlier this semester, Beth and Pat's relationship has been a little rocky. Mostly because Beth is "sort of" back together with Ken. One night, after they drunkenly argue, they end up having sex.
Beth wakes up the next morning and sends a few texts to my roommate. The messages go along the lines of "lol, Pat is walking out of my room, oops!" and "haha, I am such a mess."
Then a few hours later, Beth begins to feel complete remorse, regretting the night before. She starts wondering how Ken would react if he found out. Beth begins antagonizing herself, to the point where she starts believing that what had happened the night before was not her fault.
She decides Pat raped her. She immediately goes to campus security, fills out some papers and makes an appointment with one of the deans, ignoring all calls from her friends who try to talk some sense into her.
Pat, in the meantime, has no idea what is about to unravel.
The whole process begins, the Dean contacts Pat, Pat tells his side of the story, a lot of Beth's friends end their relations with her, and Beth is basically banned from almost all house parties (since Pat and his friends are the ones who own the houses).
Some thing along the lines of this also happened to my extremely good friend. He had a paranoid girlfriend that kept him on a leash, manipulating him and everything in his life in every way possible. When he realized he couldn't handle the relationship anymore and broke up with her, and she drunkenly showed up to his house one night and physically assaulted him. He attempted to restrain her by trying to hold her still at arms-length.
Not only did she physically hurt him for "emotionally hurting her" but when the fight ended, she proceeded to lie down in the middle of the street, called her father and told him her ex beat her up. The school got involved, the police got involved.She fabricated a story far from the truth and told it again and again and again. Wow, that really shows that you did truly love him. Not.
She had worked at an office dealing with domestic abuse the summer before, so she knew exactly what my friend would go through.
Thankfully, there was just not enough supporting evidence on her side and since there were 5 witnesses, she never showed up for the trial. Case dismissed, it never happened.
The thing that creeps me out is, she's been telling everyone that he had beaten her. Does she really believe it? Or does she secretly know the truth? I don't know which is worse, to be that psychologically messed up or to be just a horrible, horrible person.
I know of other stories where the actual victim does not end up so lucky. People get expelled, terminated from jobs, and arrested for things they didn't do all because of a hook-up or relationship that didn't go the way the other person thought it should have.
Do you think these girls are just extremely evil or ridiculously messed up? Has your SO ever tried to get back at you for "hurting them" by falsely accusing you of things.
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I can't fathom someone being that mentally fucked. I've never known anyone to do that, and hopefully I never do.
Ohmygosh, that's terrible. No one I know has ever had that happen to them, but I know it happens. That's just terrible.Â
Wow, those girls are messed up.I could NEVER imagine doing something like that to a guy.
I told some people that one of my teachers in high school touched me inappropriately. They wouldn't listen. I tried to tell the school, but they wouldn't listen either.
One little problem. I wasn't lying. This teacher is still teaching and I ended up with a no-contact order against me. I can assure that if I ever hear anything about this teacher touching (or going further) with another girl, I will flip out.
I've been trying to tell my parents since 2003-2004. I haven't changed my story. You'd think maybe they'd take it seriously by now, but no. They still think I'm lying.
i hate it when people slander like that. i used to be friends with this guy, he wasn;t attractive, and i didn't like him, so when he started hitting on me i tried being nice to him abt it and didn;t say it to his face. i was in the process of transferring to the skl he was graduating from, and he told all my future classmates that i had been stalking him, instantly killing any chance i had at fitting in at my new school. last summer we ran into each other at a concert, and i was being nice, and he started getting touchy-feely and started texting me stuff like 'i wanna fuck u so bad' the following day. i told him nothing would ever come of it, but i told him that if he wants me to be his friend, i would. then he went bragging to everyine i know that IIII had been sending HIM sexts and am 'stalking' him again. still, up to this day, he goes around town bragging about how i;m desperately in love with him.
and he's fat and butt ugly!
see for urselves: http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/photos-ak-sf2p/v129/237/92/507298445/n507298445_128255_1320.jpg
wow....those girls suck. alot. like seriously thats totally not cool -_-
sometimes i wonder what goes through people's heads when they fabricate shit like that. can you say selfish?
Ugh, bitches.
sometimes, i wonder if that's what i did.
what happened to Pat, then?
and how is it that some of the innocent victims do end up getting expelled or punished in some other way when it really wasn't their fault..?
I have one.
I was going to college for two semesters because I was bribed by my parents (they offered me a 1000 dollar car in exchange for me "trying" to go to school) anyway, I guess it doesn't matter why I was there. I met a really super cute girl and I find out she is a lesbian who is around the same age as me. Cool. I also meet her guy friend who is BEAUTIFUL. And I'm finding myself with a crush on both of them.
Anyway, so I invite her to a big party I'm having at my apartment. She comes over, brings some friends, there are lots of people there. She was a straight edge and was not drinking, but I needed a little to get out of my shell and start talking to her. My best friend (and room mate) also had a crush on her and the three of us found ourselves in my room chatting- alone and away from the party. The next thing I knew she was kissing me! Not to be outdone, my friend pulled her towards her and kissed her a little too. The lesbian then said "guys, this is not how I want it. I'm flattered, but I'm a virgin and I don't want to loose it in a threesome." We all smiled and said ok and we all left the room to join the party. I didn't kiss or even HUG her for the rest of the night.
Fast forward- months later I'm dating her cute guy friend. He admits something to me: He didn't want to get involved with me at first because he had heard that I had tried to RAPE his friend. That's right, rape. So it all became clear: that's why all of her lesbian friends glared me down, that's why this kid ignored me in the beginning, that's why it's hard for me to make friends at my VERY small community college. They think I'm an attempted rapist.
She.Kissed.Me.
Ugh. And women ask me all the time why I've never had a steady girlfriend. Bitches terrify me.
luckily everyone I know is sane
she should be in jail for perjury if she hasn't already and do community service hours.
If a girl was to do that to me, and if I was to go down, I'mma take someone with me dammit haha
Yeah this whole thing is very frustrating. I have a good friend from my days in the Air Force. He was stationed in Korea for a while and ended up getting married to a local over there. When he got stationed back in the States, they had two kids and she changed--she became abusive, usually after having alcohol.
I remember being over at their place one time and she was drinking and started yelling at the four of us--he, his 2 kids and me, who were playing a board game. We were too loud for her taste or something, even though it was in the afternoon. She then got very upset and went at him, flailing away and screaming. He grabbed her wrists, which left bruises, she called the cops, he went to jail.
It's pretty messed up--he almost got a dishonorable discharge and had to pay a ton of legal fees (there were more instances than just that one time). That whole scenario really changed the way I look at the legal system--you can do everything right, be the victim, yet get charged with a crime.
yeah, some people are fuck up! ......they should be send to jail and receive the same jail time for lying!
read this! she called rape b/c her friends give her shit for being late so she decide to mess up some guys life!
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/bronx/justice_happened_things_system_solomon_JyyLFVitMM4bx63gpD1ouI
ahh. women are so lucky =P
Did you know that about 1/3 of the vivid memories we have stored in our heads are actually fabricated? Who knows, perhaps her messed up subconscious convinced her that it had actually happened. When you hear something told to you over and over again, if you tell it to yourself over and over again, it can actually warp your perception of reality.
if it's a mental problem then it should b quite clear that they r indeed crazy in every single aspect of their lives, not just in relationships. so I conclude that these girls r EVIL.
personally i just dont get on n off relatinoships. obviously it's not working...
My boyfriend's ex HATES me and is jealous of our relationship and often fuels her rage with alcohol.
Now, he can't cut her out of our lives because they have a young child together.
She broke into our flat and attacked me. She got a caution.
Two months later she attacked my partner. She has been charged and since sentenced.
Before the trial for the second case of attack she attacked him again. And when the police arrived on the scene (a couple of her neighbours had phoned them), Dan sent them up to the flat to check on his son.Â
And she accused him of assault, claiming he had punched her in the face.
After the event the whole thing fell through and she is being charged with another case of assault and breach of a harrassment order that we had had placed on her a couple of days previously, as the marks that the police had initially believed faded and Dan completely cooperated with the police, even though recieving a police caution - or worse being charged, could have ruined his chances of going to university.
But even worse, the night they broke up, she attacked him in their flat and tried to force feed him an overdose. When he then tried to get to the phone to call the police, she got there first and called them claiming he had attacked her and force fed her the pills which she then calmly ate so that they would be in her system before the police arrived.
I've done the opposite of this, where my ex beat the hell out of me and I believed it never happened. The first time you tell someone "No, he didn't hit me, I just fell down the stairs," you don't believe it at all. But if you keep telling EVERYONE this for, say, two months (give or take), you do start to believe every word. It got to the point where I had called a friend crying, FINALLY fessing up to what he had done. I sobbed and sobbed "He's never done anything like this-!" but she caught me. Until she spoke up, I honestly believe every word I was saying, that he was a good person and had never laid a hand on me before- but the truth was that I had been abused during our entire 2 1/2 year relationship... I was just too caught up to see it.
Maybe this is the same thing (just backwards) that happened to the girl your friend hooked up with? Love makes us to crazy things. Maybe she's just that obsessed.
Or maybe it started out as something small, but then she couldn't stop it. A lot of lies are like that. I had a 'friend' in high school who had WILLINGLY given oral to a guy. Then her mom found out, she lied to her mom saying he forced her, and, well, you know exactly how it progressed. He ended up having to move away because, even though the case was dropped because of lack of evidence, he had such a horrible reputation.
Wow, I'm so glad your guy friends made it out of those situations okay. That was real luck there because as you said, there is NOT a lot of times that things turn out so well. I can't stand girls who would pull that card simply because they were scorned. Fortunately for me, I'm female so I never had a problem like that...