Sunday, 25 April 2010
On my drive to work this morning I was talking to my current boy about my change in appetite and sleep cycle. The date had slipped my mind, but I finally realized what was going on: My period is coming.
Any guy that I've dated has always asked me the same questions about my period:
"Are you a bitch on your period?"
"Are your cramps bad?"
"Should I stay away?"
And I've always asked the guys the same question:
"Are you opposed to having sex on my period?"
"Would you ever buy my tampons?"
"Will you just be a little sympathetic to my pain?"
I thought I'd give my perspective of how to survive a girl's period for both sexes.
-Girls should never use their period as an excuse to be a bitch.
Yes we get irritable, but I've always believed that a period is no excuse to treat people like shit. If you see that she starts snapping, just leave her alone. She'll sulk for a while, and blame her bad temper on you AND her period, but she'll eventually get over it, come to you and apologize. While this may be the case, it also doesn't give you a reason to purposefully poke and jab. We aren't caged bears who are hungry, though we may act like it at times...
-Cramps are never good.
I know what your asking is about the pain level, but hear me out: No girl is going to have a good time with cramps--if she gets them. Yes, they're going to be bad depending on her pain tolerance level. Yes, her cramps combined with her irritability will be a double threat to you. Just give her some chocolate, a hug and leave her alone unless she asks you to stay.
-You should stay away unless you're told otherwise.
Period's for some girls is like the hulk. Sometimes we turn into ugly monsters who just want to wreak havoc. Other times, we're more tender. Either way, approach with caution.
-Get over your phobia of period sex, if you have one.
It's a known fact: Sex while on the rag is sometimes the best sex a girl can get. Increased sesitivity is a great thing to take advantage of. What are you scared of? A little blood on your buddy? Take a shower, have sex in the shower, put a towel down--trust me, if your girl is up for it (which most of the time she will be...period's MOST of the time increase a females libido) give it to her.
-We don't ask you to buy tampons because we want to embarass you.
We ask for two reasons: We really need them and don't want to go/can't go ourselves or we just want to know what you'll say. It's sweet when a guy is willing to buy that sort of stuff, but it's also not something a female should expect from you. If you're uncomfortable with it, tell her. Chances are the guy at the checkout counter has been in the position before, and if it's a female clerk she'll know you're a sweetheart for being willing to buy your girl tampons.
-Sympathize a little.
I'm not saying to get on your knees and kiss her feet, but when she's in pain or a little crabby it'd be nice for you to not get crabby back. Just say 'I understand that you're on your period, but it's not a reason to bite my head off' if she gets too crabby, but also let her know you're there for her if she needs/wants a hug or to talk. It goes a long way.
-Don't expect your man to be your bitch.
Being on your period doesn't make you handicapped. Yes, I know you may be in pain but you can get off your ass to get your own midol and chocolate. Same with getting tampons. I know it's sweet that he'd buy them for you, but it's YOUR body. YOUR vagina. YOUR period. Take responsibility for the hell that mother nature puts us through every month and get YOUR own tampons.
-Don't be a bitch yourself.
You're going to be irritable, but that doesn't give you a reason to be a bitch. It's not right for you to yell at your guy for breathing in your general vicinity--the man needs his air too! Relax, breathe and realize that it will pass. You don't need to make your surroundings as uncomfortable for him as your body is making it for you.
-Potassium is your friend.
Midol and chocolate will only do so much. I recommend eating a banana at least once a day when you're on your period. I eat them twice a day--one in the morning and one at night. It helps your cramps to be a little less painful and frequent.
-A hot shower/bath goes a long way.
It will relax you and make you less of a bitch.
Just a few pointers!