Back when I was about 10-years-old, I was set on marrying by the time I reached 23. I saw the number 23 as some sort of golden age where I would be at a flowery peak and ready to marry happily into a perfect white-fenced life (do you hear the golden retrievers barking?).
BZZZT. Reality check. There's no such thing as a perfect life (although you can have an almost-perfect one and be content with it), and a person definitely can't have their life all planned out because anything can happen. I mean, there are goals and aspirations, deadlines and a sense of where one might be heading, but knowing who I am now, what was I thinking when I thought I would get married at 23? I was merely dreaming.
Now that I am 20, 23 seems almost too close and scary. I want to be able to have a career, be an independent lady, travel and do so many things before I'm ready to take in what I've learned and apply it to raising a family. Although, I do know many people who were 23, and even younger, getting married.
Of course, who knows! My views and beliefs may change in the next year, but I think 26 or 27 is a more plausible age now for me.
When did you think you were going to get married when you were little? When do you want to marry now?
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When I was little, I never imagined getting married. I always assumed I'd spend my life single and happy.
Now, after being in a 4+ year relationship, I still don't know if I'm ever going to get married. If you had asked me a year or two ago, I would've jumped on the chance. I don't really see it in my future at this point. Marriage doesn't seem -- I don't know -- magical or romantic anymore; it's just legal business.
I had a pact with a friend of mine that if neither of us were married by the time we were 26 we'd get married. Haha, we're not even friends now, but it's kind of cute. I don't know. I'm dating someone five years older than me, so I figure by the time he's ready to settle down, I'll still be relatively young and my biological clock won't be going nuts for a ring and a baby. x_x
Between 26 and 30 is my goal. I'm hoping to have some sort of footing as far as careers go, to have traveled some, and to have a decent place to live in or near a major city. I hope I'll meet someone around that time, fall in love, date for a few years, and then get married and buy a house. Have kids in my early thirties. That'd be AWESOME. =D Simply cuz I wanna be a young parent, not an old one like MY parents were. They couldn't do a lot of things with me as a kid because they were kind of old already. It's actually their suggestion to marry before 30. xD
When I was younger, I guess I figured the "average" age was 25 or so. When I was engaged to my ex-fiancée I figured it'd probably be that case for me. (Or close, anyhow. The original idea she had set was for us to get married this upcoming summer, and I'll be turning 25 then.)
Now...I'm realizing how out of my mind I was. I don't see myself letting marriage happen until I'm at least 30.
I never thought about when I would get married when I was little.
Right now though, at 21, I don't see myself getting married till I'm around 30 unless my life takes a drastic change.
Student loans are such a bitch.
I never really saw myself getting married when I was little, but now that I'm 21, I could see it at about 25 I guess.
I never though I'd get married. I still don't think I will.
My marriage game plan was 25 and have kids by 27. Shit what the heck was I thinking back then? In reality, by 25 I was partying it up and by 27 was when I actually entertained the idea of marriage and coming at a cross road of "do I want to be tie down?"
i don't know if i want to get married.
I'm 20. I thought I was going to be married by 20. I still have 364 days to go though. Who knows? my boyfriend may surprise me someday within the next 6 months with a proposal. And we don't want to be engaged for more than 6 months, which means I would be getting married at 20. But, seriously. He wants to finish school first. I'm not complaining. That's a great idea. get established in a business so that you can provide for the family we will one day have. so reality is I probably wont get married until I'm 23 which is ok. I don't want to be any older than 25 though. lol. I come from a family where the females got married young. My great grandma got married when she was16 or 17. My nana got married when she was 18. My mom got married when she was 19. So you can guess where 20 came from. haha. I'm trying to be more realistic though.
I never thought I would, and I won't. A few people have tried to force loser to loser, and I've laughed at them, keeping everything as simple as possible; I ain't got nothing to lose, and I ain't doing shit for you.
I built my own houses growing up with my chalk then stayed to myself.
It's almost like we know when we are kids.
You'll be married soon because you'll lose.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K38xNqZvBJI
when i was little, i wanted to be married by 25, and done having kids by 30.
now that i'm 21 and in a steady relationship, we plan on getting engaged after i graduate (so when i'm 22), but notmarrying until i'm done wit grad school (when i'll be 24-25). so it looks like my life is going the way i planned it when i was five :D
I never really thought about what age I'd like to be when I marry, other than hopefully not over 30. I was always more concerned with popping out babies, which I always hoped would start between 25-27. Yeah, I kind of have my priorities backwards.../shrug. Anyway, my boyfriend now is 25 and I'm 21, so if things work out between us, I could see my hopes happening during the time frame I set up.
For me it was never a matter of age... I simply wanted to be married to the man of my dreams. I don't care how old I am when that happens. Looks to me like it won't happen till I'm 90 or something. who knows.
I got married when I was 20. My husband was 19. Our third anniversary is in October! I always wanted to marry young and have children at a young age as well. Our first one came when I was 22 and our second will be in November so I'll still be 23. :) I'm happy with my choice.
@methodElevated@xanga - I agree. Nothing about marriage, to me , is really romantic anymore. When I was little I used to think about that kind of thing. I never really did have an age I thought I would be married by. I more so thought about how my wedding would be so much more different than everyone else's. I never wanted the classic white wedding dress, by the beach type thing.
My boyfriend that I'm currently with. I see us being together for quite a while, or I at least hope we will be. Neither of us, as of right now, want to be married. We both have the same views on it. Thats not to say I don't think about what it would be like still. But I just don't see it happening.
I never thought age was a matter. If I met the right one, I'd marry him even if I were young. I REFUSE to settle simply because my biological clock is ticking. I'm 25 now and in no hurry of getting married, even though my family might say otherwise :p
I never really thought about the marriage age. But I did think about having all my kids out by 25 because I didn't want to be an old mom. (My mom is older..had me at 30 something...which is why I thought that way I suppose. She was never really any fun. It's odd because my younger sister wants to have her kids before 25, too.)
So. Here I am at 22. With 2 kids. Married at 19. I want all my kids 2 years apart, that means I can have one more by the time I'm 25. And that's the end of that!
I am 25 now, and this seems like a stupid thing to have a "goal" for...
I didn't think about the age until I was in a serious relationship (16-20) and 23 seemed about right. Now, well I'd have to get in a serious relationship again to say =)
I am 21 and my boyfriend and I plan to be married within the next year, so I'll be 22 and he'll be 25. If I had met him a couple years ago, I would've gotten married anywhere from 19-22 without question. We've both finished college, we're both started our careers, and we're both mature and ready to start our life together. I don't think it's too young at all, and I'm very excited to be married.
My mother got married to my father at 18, and is happily still married 30 years later. My brother got married at 22, six years ago and the relationship is still beautiful and loving. I don't think there's a standard age that's perfect for marriage. It depends on the person. Some people are ready young like me, at 21. Others still aren't ready when they're 31. When you're ready, you'll know. But don't let the perfect person pass you by because you have a pre-conceived idea about the perfect age to be married.
When I was little I always wanted to be married by my mid-twenties. I'm now about to turn 19 and the thought of being married in a year or two freaks me out slightly. I haven't experianced very much life yet, I'd like to bring some sort of wisdom and knowledge to the table before I settle down with someone. Although, if the situation presents itself and the time is right FOR ME, I will gladly marry. My current boyfriend and I have been together two years and we do intend on getting married sometime after he finishes his enlistment into the USAF. I guess it all just depends on your maturity level and whether or not you can handle such a big commitment or if you even want to. :)
when i was young, like in grade school, i thought 22-24 would be the perfect age to get married and have kids.
when i got into high school, i pushed that number way back. i thought about all the things i want to do in life, and how i don't need to get settled down so quickly. i pictured 30 as being the age to start thinking about marriage and kids and all that..
but now that i'm 22, will be 23 this fall, that number is lowering once again. i've started dating my current boyfriend when i was 19. i didn't expect it to last this long, but over three years later here we are. we've been living together for the past two years and everything is going so well that we've begun discussing marriage. also, my maternal instincts are beginning to kick in and i think i'd like to be a younger mother, maybe 24-25? i don't know, i've still got plenty of time.
i'm with you. 26/27 are good ages!
haha up until i was about 17 i was dead set on being married at 22. it seemed perfect..and i had pretty much the same thing as you white fence..puppies...family.. i'm 19 now lol and i'm most defiantly not planning on getting married anywhere within the next 5 years...at least not until i'm out of college. 22 just seemed so much farther away back then. just thought id share :)