Saturday, 17 April 2010
-
10 Reasons Why Older Men are More Appealing
Every since I started dating, I've always been interested in older men. I'm not talking 2-3 years older, although that was the case with my first partner, I'm talking 9+ years older. When I was 18, I dated a guy who was 27. At 19, I dated men between 28-36. And now, at 20, I wouldn't mind dating a man who is between 40-42. I've been asked a lot 'What's wrong with boys your age?' My answer: They're boys, not men.
Reason #1: Men age gracefully.
Sounds like a stupid reason, because there are plenty of guys under the age of 30 who are attractive, but their baby-faced youth isn't what makes me tick. I don't want to feel like I'm dating my brother. Why watch the guy get better with age when you can just get a guy that has already aged and looks amazing? It's kind of like cheese: Aged Gouda is much more appetizing.
Reason #2: They're, hopefully, over their game playing phase.
Let's face it: Dating is a game. The decision you have to make is whether or not you want to play Battleship or Monopoly. Guys my age are a fan of the mind games. They like to keep their options open, while still keeping you close. They expect you to be there, while older men work to keep you. Battleship is a game of destroying, while Monopoly is a long game of strategy. I'd rather keep my emotions intact and strategize my next advancement then to have all my feelings blown into little pieces.
Reason #3: Romance.
This list isn't true for all guys my age, but for the majority it fits like a glove. Older men have a way of thoughtfully putting together a romantic evening based on what their woman is interested in. Whereas, guys my age get a skewed vision of romance based on movies like American Pie and Knocked Up. Excuse me for a moment, if I'd rather have an evening tailored to my personality and interests rather than one in a packed club where we can rub our bodies against each other because you hope I'll feel your package and get turned on.
Reason #4: Maturity.
Older men are 9 times out of 10, more mature. They've had their one night stands. They've played with a girls emotions already. They've broken hearts. When that phase passes, they're left with a nurturing maturity that is beyond sexy. They no longer think of girls as disposable; they cherish them.
Reason #5: More Experience in the bedroom.
By the time a guy hits 35, he's most likely had his fair share of sexual encounters. He's no longer interested in a wham bam thank you ma'am scenario. He now wants to worship his partner and make her feel like the luckiest woman on earth. His needs are no longer the number one thing on his mind, and if he finds the right girl it won't matter because his needs will be on her mind. A sexual experience where both partners care about the other's needs is an excellent predicament to be in.
Reason #6: Stability.
If you're over the age of 30 and still living with your parents, this reason obviously doesn't apply to you. However, most men by that time are living on their own, have a steady job and are either close to or already have their ducks in a row. You don't have to worry about constantly paying for dinner because the guy who's your age lost his job and now mooches off you instead of finding another. Granted, older men like to be taken out just as much as you do, so paying is still a pleasant thing to do, but if you can't you don't have to worry; your older guy has got you taken care of.
Reason #7: Great conversation.
I'm not saying I can't have great conversation with guys my own age, but the conversation is less mind stimulating and more mind boggling. They don't appreciate the more articulate conversations involving politics, religion and world topics. If they do, then it's more of an argument and less of a conversation. You can learn a great deal about yourself, life and the world around you by conversing with an older gentleman.
Reason #8: They're protective, in a non-caveman sort of way.
Most men, regardless of age, are going to be protective of what they think is 'theirs'. The difference between younger guys and older guys is that an older guy won't act barbaric when it comes to protecting his girl. The first thought that crosses a younger guy's mind when he gets into protective mode is to bash someone's face in or break their knee caps. An older guy is less worried about beating up another person and more concerned with getting you out of that situation, whatever it may be.
Reason #9: They're less drama.
An older man no longer cares that you have guy friends. He no longer cares if you go out by yourself. He trusts you and knows that you won't stray. If you do, then it wasn't meant to be and he won't end things on a bad note. The minute a younger guy see's a text from another guy his testosterone roars through his veins.
Reason #10: Confidence, not cockiness.
It's not hard to tell confidence from cockiness. Older men are confident in themselves. They know they make you happy. They know they satisfy you. Younger guys only think they make you happy and satisfy you. If you happen to tell a younger guy that he isn't making you happy or he isn't satisfying you he gets defensive. His actions are no longer the problem; you are. You're just broken, and it spirals down from there.
This list isn't true for all younger or older men, but in my experience it holds up. Do you agree?
RecommendRelated Posts
Post a Comment
- Back to datingish's Datingish Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in datingish's local time zone: GMT -05:00 (Eastern Standard - US, Canada)
About the Author
-
- From: beautifullymindfull@xanga
- Name: Chelsea
- About Me: Politically incorrect, morally insignificant, sincerely blunt.
Stats: This Week All Time Posts: 0 7 Views: 0 33274 Comments: 0 576 View all posts by beautifullymindfull@xanga
Comments (74)
This was the same reason why some men go for older women.
so i completely agree with this blog and that seems to be why i have always found myself with someone older. Currently dating someone 8 years my senior and although he seems to still have some boyish qualities.. there definitely is a big difference .. the main one is his readiness to settle down.. which is definitely something Im looking for. It has come to my attention that for the most part girls/women are always looking for a person to settle down with where as boys are looking sexual intimacy ..
couldn't agree more :]
4 and 5 are very true and 8 I love.
i think any older guy who typically dates much younger girls (like more than a 6-7 year age difference, or dating someone under the age of 20) is showing something lacking in their maturity level that women in their own age group aren't interested. or perhaps they are just looking for an ego-boost/booty-call type relationship.
i like dating older guys, but only 3-5 years older. when i was 18 i dated a 25 year old, and i definitely learned that guys trolling for younger girls are typically doing so out of desperation. and the girls looking for the older guys either have daddy issues or are trying to prove something. of course, the older you get, the less age differences matter. but when one party is in their 20's or younger, it definitely creates issues.
there's exceptions to every rule, but from everything i've seen this seems to be the case.
I think men and women alike tend to become more mellow and secure in who they are as they age. Having said that, LOL I married a guy 16 years older than me and still ended up having to mother him quite a bit. Being with older guys has a whole other set of challenges to deal with too.
I've always been the same as you.. dating guys older then me. When i was probably 14 or 15 i dated a guy that was 20, when I was 16-17 I dated a guy that was 24, but now I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over a year & a half and he's only 3 years older than me. my friends always thought I was weird for dating "older men" but it works. The only boy i dated my age was in 6th grade and I think we lated maybe a week?
hey, if it works for you. in my opinion, most of the items on this list are things a GOOD guy has, not just older men.
True. But as a younger guy, I can say I can't fit all the qualities there, but I pass.
Hasn't this been on datingish and lovelyish like twenty times in the past two days..
Older guys ftw ;)
@raedium@xanga - Seriously.
When I see 30+ year old guys go after girls who are really young, it just makes me question their motives at times. If anything, I think there are a good handful of older guys who go for younger girls for either a good fuck or a trophy girlfriend.
I do prefer older guys, but only maybe a year to four years older. But hey, whatever sinks your ship.
Older guys = DILF?
I like this list, and agree. Good points
I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 24 and he acts like an older man in a good way. Nice list.
I feel that that is why I havent dated yet. I always see my friends dating and stuff, but come on.... these kids have no job, no car... how do you expect to go on dates? It's not like I'm a golddigger, but I'd like my guy to have independence. Alot of kids these days have their mom's drive them to their date destinations... how romantic is that?
But I cant imagine dating someone 20yrs older than me... but whatever floats your boat? Every has different attractions. :] But... try to refrain from dating anyone older than your dad... cuz that is just... odd................... sorry. ><
@babymeatball@xanga - Thank you. Finally someone with sense.
you can tell a lot by a guy by his maturity... everyone matures at a different rate. some faster, some slower.
@lovestudiox@xanga - Hahahaha you can hardly use a sixth grade relationship as a reason why dating someone your own age hasn't worked out. A week is REALLY good for sixth grade!
I think this article is very much true. However, in my opinion, while I do believe that older men are more mature, it varies quite a bit. I once dated a man 10 years older than me and he was very much immature and he was a type for a wham bam thank you ma'am scenario and it got old real quick. But I do find older men (40+) highly attractive. I think it's the maturity and 'experience' that sets me just wanting to pounce on them like a tiger, but I'll settle for my year older boyfriend.
all of my ex are older than meee hahaha
in fact i dated someone whos 9 or 8 yrs older. couple of times
i just cant date anyone whos younger or same age..
Pretty much agree.
Number 10 is the main reason why I prefer older guys.
Another reason that I find them to be more attractive because they are less obsessed with a person's physical appearence. They will talk to you because they think you are an interesting person as compared to the younger guys that I've met which they only interested in girls that are physically attractive.
Having that said.. I do aware that there are creepy weird old guys out there.
The list is pretty nice. Thats mainly why I like my older man...though he is only 7 years older then me.
Some reasons why they're not so appealing:
- Their balls are very wrinkly
- They're likely to die soon
- They might feel faint during sex
- Flatulence
Check out my dating disasters:
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/