if he's not wanting to do anything but have sex, it sounds like you're just fuck buddies to him. if that's not something you're ok with, dump his ass.

talk to him about it. tell him that you enjoy the sex but want more. don't make it a suggestion.

I have been there before with my now-fiance, I am pretty sure all of us insecure girls have. What I realized is that it is a matter of priorities not being arranged in the same order. Sure he loves your conversations and your compassion and your sense of humor, etc. and all of the interaction that those personality traits entail, but what is his priority number one? Sex.

For you probably (well at least for me) it is opposite. I love the sex, but I would rather go play mini-golf, shoot hoops, eat dinner, walk, hang out with friends, cook together, and then at the end of the day sex is wonderful. If we get to it. If we don't, well there is always tomorrow.  

So at the same time I am thinking my fiance is a total horn dog who doesn't even love the real me he is worried that our sex drives will never be compatible because he thinks I never want to have it. BUT I DO! And I think it is the same for him. He wants those other things but in his opinion the most important part is sex and he is going to make sure that happens first and foremost.

We have just had to talk about it. I was pissed when he tried to accuse me of having a low sex drive because um...well...it's offensive, I don't. And he was understandably offended when I told him I felt like he wasn't interested in anything outside of the bedroom, because that makes him seem immature and brainless. But after we talked about it we both just had to work on making one another's priorities more important to us.

From what it sounds like, you do call him for "fun runs" and that is the only time he is interested. But that is probably mostly because it is so important to him and the rest he figures is just fine. So I am sure if you talk to him about it he will realize it isn't just fine you need more than that and because he does want more than that too really he will make a more proactive effort to show it.

Deny him sex and see where that takes the relationship. He may end it or he may make a better effort to build a relationshp. Whichever way, your answer will be more clear.

agree to have sex and when he comes over tell him change of plan and see what he says

If a man loves you, he will do everything in his power that makes you happy. Apparently he doesn't care about your feelings at all. So yes, he just want to have sex with you.

I heard this saying somewhere I think its very true. "Men will say anything to get what they want, women will believe anything men say to get what she wants"

LOL dont bargain for sex, is only for hoes LOL

u r not wrong for wanting more out of relationship!

dont b silly!!!

maybe his not the one for u.. dont waste ur time:)

Maybe the 2 aren't meant for each other b/c obviously, the term "relationship" means something different to both of them.

My boyfriend thinks I only want him for sex (which isn't true at all), I just have an enormously larger sex drive than him. He wants to sleep after sex and I want sex after sex. He'd be happy with once or twice a week, I want once or twice a day.

So I really can't help you. :(

I think you should be straight up with him and tell him that you are beginning to think that all he wants is sex from you. If he cares about you he should panic and be really upset and try to convince you otherwise. If he's just stringing you along for fucks then he will be pretty cool about it and come up with a lame excuse. Ask in person so you can see exactly how he reacts, not over text message.

If you have to question whether he loves your or not chances are maybe it's time to call it quits and find someone else. If he can't learn to appreciate you other than your body then that should automatically raise a red flag. I know if I'm in a relationship with someone, I shouldn't be confined to a bedroom because he doesn't want spend time with me other than just having sex. Really, that's not much of a relationship and he's only getting out of it what he wants. Speak up. Communicate. All else fails. Move on.

you are so in the right for doubting him.  tell him you would like more from him outside of the bedroom, and if he doesn't take more time out, break off the relationship.  a relationship is NOT just about sex.  think about any other solid relationship you have.  it's not about the sex.  funny as that may sound, it's the truth.

Someone who loves you will certainly want to do things together (outside the bedroom) with you and enjoy it.

Please read and then re-read Jane's post. It is the second one and I fully agree with it. It was the same situation with my fiancee after we were dating for a little over a year and most of the time I was quite the horn-dog and my fiancee wasn't quite as driven as she claimed to be if you know what I mean haha.

From my point of view at that time, whenever she was around I was always in the mood for sex and everything else came second. It wasn't that I didn't want to go out and have fun with her but we were on a busy college schedule and certain activities can be expensive. Sex was free, quite enjoyable for us to explore with each other, and we were able to be comfortable in our beds. During that time we were bed-ridden most of the time because it was where we could just talk relax and not worry about the rest of the world. This is from my point of view that we were quite happy and enjoying the physical aspect of our relationship.

I remember my fiancee always commenting why were we in bed and not very often coming up with other things we could do together or if I came up with something once in a while we couldn't do it because of our schedules. That was a few years ago and we are happy together now and doing well with everything we try to do but we still have busy schedules, several jobs and are trying to save up for our wedding. Needless to say that sex factor has slowed down but it isn't too big a deal.

To conclude I will just tell you that this is mainly just a phase in the relationship where you're likely building the physical connection where a guy wants to make sure he is the best and only one who can please you. Just remind him about what you want and tell him you haven't gone out just the two of you in a long while, try a dinner and a movie, but don't schedule anything to happen regularly or too far in advance because you might set yourself up. Make it spontaneous but know his schedule or plans ahead of time. Good Luck!