I really don't know why this is but I've been seeing a pattern with my male friends and long distance relationships.
You see, they're pretty much bi-coastal so they journey out to Cali a few times a year. I can only compare them to a pack of sperm whales, traveling a few thousand miles to mate. Each time they go out there, they'll come back with a girlfriend. This relationship will last roughly from 8 months to a year, then the girlfriend will initiate the relocation talk "so are you moving here or am I moving there?" which leads to my friends choosing "neither" and breaking up with the girl.
Now all jokes aside from both the east and west coast in regards to which coast has hotter girls or easier to get girls. I did ask my friends why they kept going out to Cali for hook ups knowing they will never leave NYC.
According to them, it's easier to find girls because there is an abundance out there. I always thought NYC was crowded with fresh meat entering on a weekly basis. Apparently I'm wrong or maybe they're just looking for Asians only? But regardless, you would think after so many years, they're tired of flying back and forth and paying for long distance phone bills.
So how do you feel about long distance relationship? I don't think they were being completely honest when they answered my questions to avoid looking like an asshole. If you think about it, they're treating bi-coastal dating like leasing a car. You lease a car for a year and switch it up when you want something new and never have to worry about putting on x amount of mileage because it's going back to the dealer anyway...
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Well it seems fun, ya know, if you don't have a soul.
The only positive thing I can think about is that they are low maintenance. A man or woman (there is a counterpart, obviously, but you are sexist, it's OK) really only has to deal with their partner for short stints of time which is perhaps desirable.
The reason I got into the one I'm in now is because when we first started talking, we connected pretty well and I really liked her. It's my and her first LDR. As for an abundance of girls, that is a load of crap. People often ask me why I don't date girls around my area instead of going all the way over o Vancouver. And I tell them it's because no other girl here really connected with me as well as my girlfriend now.
Long distance relationships can work when the people involved want it to work and have the same expectations for the relationships. Your guy friends sound like they are just having fun and keeping the women on two different coasts avoids a ton of drama.
@schallerbrandon@xanga - well i personally haven't encountered any girl friends of mine dating guys on a different coast and then breaking up with them later on to find new fresher meat....so if that makes me a sexist...*shrug*
@Utoppia - These guys are obviously dating chicks, unless they are homosexual, so there is also another end to it which you completely ignore. I think sexist is more kind than simple, but you can choose.
Long distance relationships like that aren't really relationships, just low maintenance hook-ups/fuck-buddy situations, in my opinion. It's not really a relationship unless there's mutual feelings and expectations.
Anyway, even though I've never been in a bi-coastal relationship, neither of my LDRs have ended up working out due to the distance/time issue (enough mileage to make driving to see each other a planned excursion, which meant that time seeing each other was isolated to maybe one weekend a month). Even though I was willing to make the effort, neither of my boyfriends during our respective relationships were. In one case, we ended up fighting with each other so much that we drifted apart. In the other, he just cheated on me to fill the void I left when I wasn't around.
LDRs are totally capable of working out, but only with the understanding that both parties need to work equally at keeping their relationship together and healthy.
that's the dumbest reason for getting into a long distance relationship I have ever heard. There's a girl I like from CA, if she would have me, I would move there in a heart beat even though everything I have is here in NYC. yeah, there are a lot of attractive women here in NYC but none of them is her. She's special.
for some reason, i'm reading this blog and have no idea what you're talking about. but i'm thinking of my ex-best friend who had a boyfriend from every other town just in case the long distance guy didn't work out.
to be honest, i can't say i understand either, because i've never been there...it's not a situation i think is ideal, however.
long distance relationships are not for me. If I can't see you regularly then it's not worth any commitment in my opinion. If you were in a relationship and then the other person moved that could be different. I just can't stay with a person that is so far away, I want to hold them and see them!