I've been dating my SO for about a year and half. Things are going wonderfully and for the first time in my life, I think I've found *the one*. We just click on so many levels and its great to finally find someone that gets me so well. There is, however, one problem. My boyfriend didn't have much sexual experience before he met me. He wasn't a virgin, but he never had a stable sexual relationship, just flings and hookups.I've only had sex in the confines of a relationship. My previous two partners were also great in bed and we were very compatible sexually.
My current SO and I, however, don't seem to be sexually compatible what-so-ever.
We have good sex, but not great. He's kind of shy, so its nothing too spontaneous or risky, which is what I'm into. I've tried to get him to open up by suggesting certain ideas or taking the dominating role, but it never seems to work. He's always rejecting the ideas I come up with. This, in turn, leads me to feel undesirable and him feeling inadequate. It’s a vicious cycle. All I want to do is have wild, spontaneous sex with him. Is that too much to ask for?
Also, in my previous relationships, we would have sex practically everyday. In this current one, I'm lucky if we do it twice a week. (However, in the beginning of the relationship, we would have sex more often).
I don't want this to ruin our relationship because I love him so much, but I feel like we are going down a slippery road. I want to work through this with him, and not give up.
Do any of you have SO's with significantly lower sex drives than you? What are some suggestions you'd make?