I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and everyone thinks I'm the man in the relationship (except him of course). Hobby wise, he's the man (he bikes, plays video games, hates shopping, etc.), I like shopping (sometimes), girly/cute things, etc. But personality wise, I'm the man. I am demanding, stubborn, insensitive, not perceptive, aggressive, not easily embarrassed, controlling/bossy and he's passive, so sweet, sensitive, perceptive, romantic, understanding, takes things as they come. He's a listener, I'm a yeller. I'm surprised he puts up with me! Even though personality wise we're different, we both think the same. And for us that's what's important. Still, I feel that our personalities complement each other, he picks up on what I lack and vice versa. 

I don't mind dating a chef. I don't see anything sexist about it. if it works out for the couple, then gender roles shouldn't matter. men are already taking over the careers/roles that are supposedly more suitable for women. women are wearing designer fashions/handbags/purses/shoes and more designed by men and the hottest chefs are men.

I know how you feel, Taylor.  I'll be out rock climbing with the guys when he's in watching manga with the girls.  I love that he doesn't feel inhibited about sharing his feelings with
and crying to me and that I can be the protector sometimes.  Between the two of us, though, I think we make a complete (stereotypical) man and woman.  And I think that's what matters, that the balance works.  If you love your man for who he is and what he likes to do, then great!  If it's not going to work, well, it's not going to work.  

@x_domdom@xanga - Nice! I don't mind it either :)
@sexyscorpions@xanga - Even if I talk to any stranger online in general, you can't figure out " their real gender" anyways ... unless they tell you of course ( but will you believe them?) Btw  I just checked your page and I quickly knew you were a girl.Cover revealed!
@AHS2JK@xanga - Usually you get the impression that guys can be dirty if they want to but girls have to be clean and smells good. For example: a sweaty guy after a work in the sun is a plus but not much for girls unless she's showing some skin....
@mewithoutu77@xanga - Cracked. You used a sexist word: Feminine. Now your sentence is invalid. haha  You're trying to explain what you mean without being sexist and you failed. hah I'm teasing btw. =/
@Anonymous - That's why I hate that we are labeled as we first step our tiny feet into this world. If you're a girl, let's parade you in pink from head to toe and if you're a boy... blue ftw! Girl = Dresses and boys should never play with dolls! Therefore,gender separation starts when we first born.
@jays_jumble_of_junk@xanga - HAAHAH I like your humor. I displayed hidden humor throughout the post, but I'm not sure people caught that. I failed at being funny. =/
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - I don't see nothing wrong with it either. I never did. What I'm saying is why are women always in the kitchen ( don't take it word for word... I hope you catch on what I'm trying to imply there).
@everlastte@xanga - Yeah... it is attractive when the men takes the initiative. No matter what we can't escape this sexism. As long as there's religion, men and women are never equal. Why is it the women that always moan loudly when they have sex ( why do some even pretend)? I don't want you to take it word for word but think about it? Women are made to believe it is a role that they should abide to because it's in the norm for women. Do men moan? Of course not! ( sarcasm there.) 
@Katja88@xanga - My name isn't actually Taylor. It's Brooke. I only used Taylor because the name Taylor can be used for  a male or a female.  Sorry I deceived you. =( And I also appreciate your advice. If you don't like your man for any reason, all i have to say is.... it takes 2 to tango!
@SeaChaCha@xanga - ME TOO! My boyfriend gets mad than I don't get jealous. To my understanding, jealousy makes them feel wanted and loved so they like it when you get jealous once in a while. If you don't get jealous, men think that you don't care. And if another woman comes by and take him away; you would careless. Overall, you should show alittle concern but that will list you as being jealous huh? Either way, you lose. haahhaah Solve this problem please!

I sometimes feel this way, and find it very frustrating. Due to circumstances and situations, like being REALLY poor for a long time, the fact that he grew up without a father and I had one who was a handyman, and him being really busy with school/work...I ended up doing all the "manly" chores etc.

I didn't have money for feminine clothing, we didn't have money to go out on 'dates', and I found myself pushed more and more into playing  both the man and the woman in the relationship. He doesn't treat me like a woman, because I am, so often, fixing lawnmowers, cleaning gutters, paying the bills, etc. I worked in a warehouse (so you can imagine how I dressed for work every day) while the women he interacts with daily are professionals and dress the part.

I would love (and have many times suggested it) to be taken on a date where I can dress like a girl, FEEL like a woman. I am tired of always having to be the tough one, the home repair one, never having doors opened for me, or packages carried for me. I had to have surgery last year and it was a big change in our dynamic when he had to start pushing the trash can up hill to the curb and carrying in heavy items like bags of dog food.

I resent being both the man and the woman in the relationship. I would love to occasionally feel like I am being taken care of, or treasured, or that he'd like to step up every once in a while and do a man thing. The only time he treats me like a woman is when we are in bed.

Good lord...did his man card just get lost in his "shoulder bag"? (Yay Geico reference)

Atleast the relationship has balance, to say the least, you can both be happy even though your relationship roles are alittle mixed between what is the "standard". I just wonder what would happen if you tried to change him into a "Manly Man", not that you would, you are happy with the way things are now.

I don't believe its sexism that really says "This is how relationships should be", there are too many people on both genders who accept it, so I believe it is a society thing for the men...Be The Man in the relationship. (I mean, its right in the phrase anyway xD) It is just the standard though, and not the One & Only way.

As for myself, I love to cook (and so does she), I don't mind shopping (SHE REALLY DOESN'T), and there is nothing absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting cleanliness...just avoid being OCD with it.

One more thing....What's wrong with being a women with interest in women!? I CALL SELF-SEXISM! (Joking of course)

I have been married for about six months now and my husband and I have been together for about 3 and a half years. For a very long time I felt as if I was the man in the relationship because he was constantly trying to get me to talk about my feelings. He would spill to me all that hewas thinking and feeling and then look at me expecting to spill back but it never happened. It would bother him that sometimes I just wouldn't have anything to say. He would ask me how I felt about something and at times I just wouldn't know so that was exactly what I would tell him.

I think that I may be like this because I grew up being very independent and having to deal with issues by myself. So I sort of trained myself to just deal with things as they came and keep to myself. Whereas whenever he had an issue he would talk openly about it with his father and would then receive (not always sound) advice from him.

I still feel like this at times but I am trying to learn to open up a bit more to improve things between us.

I wonder what my new feminist friend would have to say about this...

Husband and I switch off roles to be honest. He was raised by a feminist, I was not but have always been a more "handsome" woman, in appearance and action.

This means that I like action movies. I dress comfortably, and I used to like to run around a lot (harder now). I play video games, and I used to wrestle a bit with the guys.

My HUSBAND (who's 6'5 btw, so defintely a DUDE lol) likes romantic comedies, and cooking... he's also the only person in the family who can "sew" and he vacuums my floor like NO BODY'S BUSINESS! I honestly don't take these things away from him and insist that I do them myself. He's GOOD at vacuuming, so I let him. He's GOOD at repairing a seam, so I LET him. (He's not always good at cooking ;) but when he finds something he can make, I let him do that too)

I think it's all in how you share the weight. I AM traditional in that I believe that it's a husbands job to pay the bills and support a family, but I believe that women can do those things as well. :)

you know... if i were trying to not be hypocritically sexist, i wouldn't say shit like "man in the relationship" or that shopping is "girly."