For starters, how many of you have been tempted to join a dating or networking site strictly based on photos of girls looking like high class escorts with the wanton "I'll do whatever you want" look? Or the buffed up beef cake dude holding a dog with eyes that wants to fuck you side-ways?
When will people learn that it's a cheap ploy to get customers. Think of it this way, if you want to go to a nude beach to check out hot girls and guys in the buff, you're in for a rude awakening. The only people you're going to find at a nude beach is the fat, old, hairy and uglies.
My friend actually joined a networking site because she received these email alerts claiming that this guy or that guy checked her out and wants to connect with her. Super excited to connect with these guys, she joined and tried to look for these hotties who wanted to chat. Guess what? These hotties are harder to find than the Lock ness monster because all she found were, according to her, normal regular guys. I asked her if she had to pay and she said she only did a trial so thank god it was free.
I told her straight up that she got suckered. Come on, if he's that hot, does he really need to go on a networking site to meet girls? Or vice versa. Unless she's stumbled onto an escort service site, if it's too good to be true, it's probably time to wake up.
Did this ever happen to you?
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My friend uses hotornot.com. It's sorta free, and the guys aren't ugly...but just the same online dating is awkward. ♥
"Think of it this way, if you want to go to a nude beach to check out hot girls and guys in the buff, you're in for a rude awakening. The only people you're going to find at a nude beach is the fat, old, hairy and uglies....
....Come on, if he's that hot, does he really need to go on a networking site to meet girls? Or vice versa."
Here is are a couple shockers for you.
1. Not everyone has the same meaning of what's hot.
2. Just because you've been on nude beaches on a day where people were "ugly" doesn't mean that's always the case.
I don't use a dating site to find people, I find it awkward for other reasons, but assuming all this is kinda douchey. I mean, if someone finds a date on a website or a nude beach, it doesn't mean they're going to be stuck with someone hideous. Just because you think it or not, doesn't mean they agree.
Let them be happy.
I'm still chuckling at the misspelling of Loch Ness Monster.
@asininity - XD
I think this entire post is kind of silly. I mean, *obviously* marketing photos, etc., are going to be as attractive as possible. It's marketing! Duh!
It's also really presumptuous of you to say that you're not going to find any hot people online because they "don't have trouble" meeting people. Online dating isn't just for desperate losers, it's just another way to meet people...
@asininity - same, hehe.
There's been quite a few shallow posts on here recently. Am I the only one who thinks this?
Yes, people tried to hook me and I went looking in desperation away from them. I mostly find guy golddiggers, even though I'm not rich. It's more or less like an lion din. They know what's going to happen when I work real hard, or that's what they thought until I make my dear friends again and they realize that I'm a slave to some loser's ego. That's why I don't hook up and I watch the uber fat girls at the mall, their products, suffer by their own ignorance, but I'm the bad one as usual.
@Jack_Morrison@xanga - Negative. Declining quality throughout not just Datingish but also Xanga.
@schallerbrandon@xanga - Indeed. Sigh, looks like we need a new place to go!
@Jack_Morrison@xanga - Haha, tell me if you find some place.
Usually, I gave up on those sites, although I did meet a few friends off of them that were pleasing to the eyes.
@Jack_Morrison@xanga - Totally agree....
However, I found my SO on a dating site. He happens to be in the Marine Corps though... Not everyone who is attractive (or otherwise) has the time to go out just to meet people. Some people have jobs and other demands that prevent the dating scene from being a frequented place. I personally am taking 21 credits, working full time, and coaching part time. My boyfriend just got back from deployment when we started talking.
Obviously they are going to put attractive people on the front page of the website. Who wants to join a dating site with people found on uglypeople.com on it? They feed your desire to meet someone attractive and sometimes, you happen upon someone who is interesting and attractive to you. As with any bar you might try to pick up some drunken loser at, you will always find the creepers, uglies, and personalityless people, but you will also find someone you might actually want to talk to...
Umm, my boyfriend is extremely good looking, and we met online. I'd consider myself to be fairly decent looking as well. I think this post is just full of assumptions and stereotypes about the "type" of people on dating sites. It's not for desperate, ugly people. Many people are just very shy meeting new people in person, have established careers, or are matured out of the party/bar phase.
I would have to agree with most everyone else on this. I've been through internet dating and I make a living off my looks, so obviously I'm no ugg. I choose it over dating in the real world because most of the men I meet in real life are not boyfriend material. I want a smart semi-nerdy bookish type and you'll never find that kind of catch waiting at the bar (unless under extenuatingcircumstances).
Also, on the nude beach thing- I'm not entirely sure which nude beaches you frequent but the story is much different at the one out here. Yea there are some old/hairy men and women, but that's life, and that's where (hopefully) we'll all be one day. There are also lots of hot men and women (namely me and my friends).
We all get bored, ugly or hot, so we all frequent some social networking site. So... there's a chance you'll find someone who you're attracted to.
To the title and author of this post all I can say is, DUH! You write like we're all new to the ways of the internet. Don't tell me your friend also believed all those adds on facebook, "Test out a new mac and keep it for free!"
Nope. Not at all. I always delete emails like that. Or if anything like that pops up about it I always X it out.
I'm not a fan. I'd rather just depend on my own devices.
@presque_la@xanga - Those stereotypes aren't without reason. I've seen many women on dating sites that make it look quite obvious why they are on there and single.
why? there are no shy hot guys out there?
i have some close friends who met their current SOs on a dating website. they are all good looking people who just didnt have any luck finding the right guy/girl on their own. now, they are ridiculously happy with the people they found, thanks to that site.
this post has made me a little angry. don't judge it just because it doesn't work for you.
I wouldn't know. I remember signing up for a site once, then lost interest. Then again I didn't have much of a problem finding a boyfriend in my life, and I hounded myself when I was single to be happy about it. I know my current boyfriend's sister met her husband online. They are great for each other.
In my opinion, they are deceiving. But whatever works for other people, too.
The Women on Online dating sites (Some) Are surprisingly beautiful. The Men (Like myself) are usually there for a reason and not being totally handsome or time or desire to go to BARS.(My personal reasons) My latest blog is about the BAD side of it . Was horrible and did nothing for my Confidence. There are FREE sites out there were communication is easy but the matching system is not NEAR as good (personally I think E-harmony sucks if u have any character flaws at all ur rejected) I have a favorite but I am not going to advertise on someone elses blog BUT if u want it message me.
@krazykat722@xanga , @IKOlivia@xanga - - I agree with both of you. I met my current SO online, and I'm really happy now.
Some of the guys I dated in the past I met through friends, and they turned out to be assholes. You can meet good people anywhere honestly, as well as bad people.
LOL... i agreeEEEeee
I have been on three or four dating sites, and I agree with you....mostly.
The things you have to pay for, like Match.com and Eharmony, are completely useless unless you give them some cash. You can only see where the person who is trying to contact you is from. No picture. No information. No age. Nothing. Those sites are scams (for most people. I will agree some people might find the 'love of their life' on there).
However, the free dating sites, like WooMe and OkCupid aren't too bad (if you're willing to sift through some creepers to find the diamonds). Instantly you can see multiple pictures, information they've filled out themselves, and see how they feel on important subjects like marriage, monogamous relationships, and homosexuality. I happened to meet my current boyfriend on one of those sites and, if I can say so, I don't think we're unattractive. I was just bored and single and lonely and he was looking for options other than a bar.
All in all it comes down to how comfortable you are with meeting someone online and then meeting them in person, taking that "oh my god, what if it's actually a 300 pound woman or a murderer?!?" risk. Sometimes you luck out. I did. =]
i don't recall the name of the website... a site is actually being sued for "false advertising" for sending those kinds of emails and stuff stating that "so and so" sent you a message, wants to hook up... or anything else implying that someone who is on the site wants to connect with them... then when you join the site, there's actually no one in fact waiting for you...
oooh i just googled it... it's actually not a dating site but it's "classmates.com" (not a link to their site, link to an article about the lawsuit)