Oh Easter.. One of the few great times of year when your close family has the opportunity to embarrass you in front of your extended family.
Today my dad chose the topic of my future SO. He rambled on and on about how the man of my dreams is out there somewhere and I just haven't found him yet and blah blah blah. Although the conversation resulted in me having to leave the room before he could possibly make my face turn any redder, he did say something that after reflecting tonight sparked a thought that's actually kind of cool.
He said "You should pray to find your soulmate like you already have him. Pray that he's safe and happy and get excited about the day that you will meet him, if you haven't already."
I'm not normally a romantic and dreamy type of person. But when I thought about it, it really is cool that there is someone out there that I am going to fall in love with someday. He's alive right now, doing who knows what, and neither one of us has any idea that in the crazy order of life we are going to find each other, fall into mutual attraction and end up in love. Isn't that an insane thought?
Even if you don't believe in soulmates, the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is out there.
Have you ever wondered what this person is like, what they are doing at this exact moment, or if they ever think about you? For those who have found their soulmates, did you ever think about them before you met? Were they anything like you expected?
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I try not to wonder- I hear love can come from anywhere and any place, so I figure I'll just carry on living my life until it finds me. Or I find it, whatever. I'm not really one for the whole Disney-esque 'soulmate is out there, somwhere' thing, but I do understand that there is someone out there whom I will eventually end up being with. I think I just like surprises too much to think about them! :)
I have mine, so I know what he's doing.
I never wondered about him, but that was because I thought my ex could possibly have been my soulmate, but he was nothing compared to my real soulmate. You just know, you feel it and the connection is ridiculous.
It's exactly like they say; it's like you find your other half,that you never knew you were missing because they just fill your empty spots exactly.
I've had faith in a lot of things, people... ideas even. I was losing faith in the idea of somebody ever really loving me... until I really gave some true thought to my future SO. Is it weird to know you're someones soul mate before they do? Or find out that they knew you before you did?
really my biggest question is...
Will the world explode when I actually touch his hand? I seem to be believing in something that is beyond myself... an idea of God giving me something I thought I would never have again... I haven't even met my future SO yet, and he already gave me, me. Somehow in a big box with a bow, I opened it up, and found myself. Weird at first... like "wha?"... then... holy shit I'm alive! No joke... like I'm not dead!? I'm in fact breathing and awake just like him?! yea... it was intense. I can't wait to meet him! HE'S SO COOL!
I found mine when we were both in first grade, so I obviously didn't think about a soulmate before that. But then I moved away before middle school without telling him I was leaving, and I lost all contact with him. That didn't stop me from thinking about him constantly, and after two and a half years fate finally brought us together again. We started dating in high school and everyone could tell we were perfect for each other. We went through a break up and dated other people for fifteen months, but never went a day without thinking about each other. Now we're back together for good, and I can't imagine my life without him.
i dont really believe in "soul mates" as what if that person lives in an other country, we would never meet. but i like how your dad thinks and though i might not pray about it, i surely can put the vibes out there so that she stays safe etc, your dad is a wise man.
I consider my boyfriend my soulmate (and vice versa), but we both believe a person can have multiple soulmates in one lifetime. It seems ridiculous that there could be only "the one" for you, and that person could be someone on the other side of the world and will never meet you. There are several "ones" who would be perfect for lots of people. It's just a matter of finding them and hoping they're not already attached.
EDIT: I just realized I echoed the commenter before me.
@buddy71@xanga - I'm from Brazil and came to the US and met my soulmate; if I had never come I would've never met him. Everything happened for a reason.
@methodElevated@xanga - its ok to echo. and i feel the same as there could be "several" soul mates out there.
@l0veBabyx@xanga - yes, i do feel everything happens for a reason. we may not always know that reason. congrats to you!!
People tend to not believe in soulmates under the idea that they might live in another country, but my theory is, if they are in another country, then they aren't your soulmate. To me, a soulmate is one who you ultimately end up with. I believe everybody meets their soulmate. I mean, if you're going to believe in soulmates, you might as well believe in fate too, and fate will bring you together (if you are truly soulmates).
@buddy71@xanga - thank you, I didn't mean to sound like I'm bragging lol.
But yeah, I do believe in that, and I do belive the possibility of us having more than one soulmate. Once you find one, you won't worry about the others
@HollowTendencies@xanga - Mine wasn't in my country! I came to his, lol
btw: heyy haha.
@l0veBabyx@xanga - oh i didnt take it as bragging. i find it awesome that it happened and just confirms my statement that they could be in an other country. again congrats and i hope you remain happy.
I'm Catholic and I went to a retreat where they had a Girl's & Guys Session. They seperated the guys and the girls to talk about their gender lol. There came a clear point when one of the leaders said it's the best idea to pray for your future boyfriend/spouse and soulmate, because they are out there and God can hear our words. My mother says she always prays for my future husband. This gave me peace of mind, because it means who ever he is, where ever he is, he has Secret Prayers his way :]
I know God made me to love someone, and he'll let us meet when He believes I'm ready. That's why I haven't found douche bag guys that I bawl my eyes out for, because my mother (and quite possibly my grandmother) and I pray that my heart doesn't get broken, so when my suolmate finally comes all he has to do is love me, not fix me.
@l0veBabyx@xanga - That's what I mean, see, you live in the US now, so you must be soul mates lol. True soulmates always end up meeting no matter what.
@buddy71@xanga - thank you
@l0veBabyx@xanga - you are most welcome!
@carykm@xanga - soo cute! :) that's like what I'd dream of
Sweet post. I do wonder from time to time what she looks like, sigh.
I definitely agree with there being many ones. It's kind of funny because I wrote about it last week in my other blog and it sounds almost word for word with what people have been echoing here. I'd like to add, in the unfortunate circumstance where someone's spouse dies an untimely death, the surviving person could move on and find a second "one".
Yeah I do think about it. Occasionally I'll plead that we find each other soon. And I keep moving forward with the hope that he's going to be everything I could have ever wanted. I can't wait to find the person I'm suppose to love forever. :)
I hate the term soulmate. The idea that there is one person out there for all of us is ridiculous. There are loads of people out there who any one of us could have that connection with.
Check out my dating disasters:
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
Nope!
Not religious enough to pray or romantic enough to believe in a soulmate.
:D
@PervyPenguin@xanga - D:
I know that a lot of very specific things had to happen in order for me to find my husband.... so yes, I do believe in soulmates and there was more than just a spark the first time we saw each other.
aww, i think about this, too! pretty sure my boyf is my soulmate
and just the other day i was thinking about all the times i thought of him before i met him. every time i heard the song "Goodnight My Someone" from the Music Man (i know, i'm a musical theatre geek...haha), i'd wonder about my "someone" and who he was and where he was. now that i know him, i can match up the timelines and figure out what he was actually doing when i was wondering what he was doing! it's a mind-blowing thought.
i think i had prayed for him before we met, though i don't remember doing so specifically. and he's pretty religious and i know he prays for me now, sooo i'll have to ask him if he did before we met, too. that'd be cool