Thursday, 01 April 2010
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"Thirteen and Still a Virgin? Lame!"
Let's face it, society today is pushing sex more than ever.
I got into this discussion with my boyfriend, the other day:
Premarital sex.I will come outright and say it:
I am not a virgin, and I am not married.
I have engaged in premarital sex, no big deal.But there are times when I feel it is a big deal, granted the majority of my friends are non-virgins and seldom anyone else is anymore. It seems that children are trying to lose their virginity sooner because it is "uncool" to be, say, thirteen and still a virgin.
I find this fact pretty darn sad.
Personally, there are times when I heavily grieve my virginity. I feel I didn't give us enough time to get to know each other. We were both sixteen when we went our separate ways, and I feel I have lost a friend. There are times when she visits me (the notion of a "second virginity" hanging over my head)...but her visits have become few and far between, the more I engage in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend.There's a part of me that screams this is bad, dirty, evil; and there's this part of me that says, So what. Live and let live. You only live once. You love your boyfriend and things will work out for the best. No reason to beat yourself over for the past. Everything happens for a reason.
Have you engaged in premarital sex? Did you save yourself until marriage or until that special someone came along? Are you still with the person to whom you lost your virginity? How did you feel about losing your virginity when you did and how do you feel about thirteen-year-old kids who are eager to lose it?
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Nice, we're going to start the "OMG Premarital sex is horrible! You whore!" "Wut?! Don't be a prude it's totes okay!" fights again.
19 and still a virgin. I'm okay with that. Society hasn't gotten to me yet.
No. Never. I never even kissed anyone before I got married. Never even held a guys hand even.
You mean 13 year old children are horny? Since when?
13? That's... Wow! Um... That's crazy to want to have sex at 13. I was in 8th grade at that age.
I think your too young at 13, some girls havent even gotten their period yet.
But I think you can know at 15 if your in love, and if you feel ready enough and know that precations to take then I wont have anything against you.
I lost my virginity at 18 to someone I'd been with for 8 months (and I'm still with a year later), and out of me and my 3 best friends at the time, I'd waited the longest. One of my friends lost her virginity the same weekend as myself with a guy she'd been with for 2 weeks.
That little fact, and the fact that I'm still with the guy has meant no regrets so far, and honestly I don't think I ever will regret it, even if we do break up.
I was fairly rational about losing my virginity, and that's more than most teenagers can say.
17 (nearly 18) and still a virgin. and proud! :D
13-year-olds are still just kids! What are they doing having sex! :O
Oh, and I'm a virgin. Waiting for marriage.
i lost mine at 18 cause i was horny. i just didnt feel like bein a virgin anymore at the time. it was to my best guy friend my first year of college. we dont talk anymore and he had a small d. i still dont regret it tho, i was really close with him at the time. we connected really well
i lost mine at fourteen, and personally i could care less. i know it's pretty young, but i'm doing just fine. sex is fun, i don't see why we should have to stop ourselves from doing it when it's so perfectly natural.
21 going on 22. Waiting for Marriage. When I was 13 I was trying to get girls to stop saying I have cooties.
I'm 26 and still a virgin. Things sure have changed a bit since I was 13-I was in the 8th grade and I had JUST gone on my very first date and had NO clue ow to talk to a girl. A lot of my friends at that time were starting to go a bit further physically with girls-and a few of them became players in high school. I'm glad I didn't get caught up in that lifestyle or else I probably wouldn't have gotten into medical school.
20 and still a virgin. I'd like to wait until marriage, but if I'm in a really serious long-term relationship I might consider having sex. For me, it's not so much the "I HAF TO WATE 4 MARRIAGE!!!111!" argument. I am not having sex because at this point in my life I just don't have the emotional or mental ability to handle that right now. Plain and simple.
13 is WAY to young to be having sex.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - I started masturbating.. probably around age 9 or 10. I'm possibly abnormal, but I also know a guy who lost his virginity with another boy at age 11. I've even heard that some boys masturbate in the womb.
@NymphaeHecati@xanga - I like the reasoning behind your decision to wait. It's incredibly mature, and you've stated it in such a way that it doesn't come off as condescending in the slightest, which I feel is often difficult to manage.
19 and still a virgin. I say I'm waiting for marriage, although I don't know if that's entirely true. I think I'm mostly waiting for the person I know I'm going to marry. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.
Although, I thought I was ready my junior year. I was only 17 and was with my boyfriend for quite some time. We never did it because when it came down to it, I really wasn't ready.
I lost it too young, but I didn't do it for status--I did it because he was my childhood sweetheart and we honestly didn't understand the weight of what we were doing. I don't regret it, per se, but I do feel awkward when people pry for an exact age.
With all that said, I don't think there should be a precise "OK, you're old enough for sex... nooooow!" age. Context/reason is everything... and I don't think "All the cool kids were doing it!" is a respectable reason.
18, and a virgin until I meet him :)
I'd like to think that there's only a few 13 year olds having sex.
I lost mine when I was 17, almost 18. I didn't regret it, it was with a person I loved and wanted to be with, and I'm still with him.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - how did you manage that? I'm not trying to be rude. I'm honestly curious. I guess I just can't imagine a completely hands-off courtship and engagement.
Sadly, I was 14. It was my first boyfriend. Im 21 now, and married, with a daughter. Im terrified of her teenage years already!
There has been opportunities to give my virginity up, but I am still waiting until marriage.
i banged all da hoes in mah school bro
Yes i've had sex and I'm not married. I saved myself for someone special.. he's my first serious relationship though so I guess its not like I said no a lot. Yes im with him still its been a year and a half. I'm happy about how I lost it. The idea of 13 year olds doing it freaks me out o_O
i was 16 at the time and sincerely regret losing it that young and losing it with someone i wasn't in a committed relationship with.