Thursday, 01 April 2010
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Love Vs. In Love
This past weekend, my boyfriend told me for the first time that he loves me. However, this morning I woke up to a text from him telling me good morning and telling me he's falling in love with me.
I thought he had established this weekend that he was already in love with me? Or did he mean he loves me like he would love a friend, but he now can see himself beginning to fall in love with me?
Was it presumptious for me to assume that "I love you" had meant that he was IN love with me, or was it truly unusual that he told me he loved me before actually being in love with me? Is there a difference between love and being in love?
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There is a huge difference between love and in love.
For example.I love sunny daysI love converseI love the beachI love travellingI love my friendsI love my parentsBut I'm not IN love with those things.
I'm IN love with my boyfriend.
I think being in love is an emotional step deeper than saying you love something.I know I loved my boyfriend, before I actually told him "I love you" . When I said, "I love you" is when I realized that I am actually IN love with him.
don't overstress it. just think he is falling in love with you now and will be in love with you in a short period of time from now. So don't stress it just enjoy and make him love you forever! ;D good luCk
You girls, so funny sometimes.
Stop over-analyzing this. If he only loved you as a friend, he wouldn't be your boyfriend, he'd just be a friend. So stop picking it apart and just know that he's your boyfriend and he loves you in some way that is more than just friends.
Relax and enjoy the fact that the word "love" even came out of his mouth.
I believe there's a difference in the way that @Inaheartbeatx@xanga said, since I view love vs. in love like that too.
But I also believe that overanalyzing can destroy the... well, magic, of it. So just enjoy the moments you spend together. Enjoy being happy.
Time spent thinking about unnecessary things such as this, is wasted time, especially if you're not appreciating every moment.
I wouldnt stress about it he'll be in love with you soon enough and me I think love is thinks u just love to do or be with Like whne you love someone them being around makes you super happy But when youre in love with some one is hurts like hell when theyre away and you cant see your life without them
Definitely there is a difference. When you love someone, you care about them like how you would love a friend. When you're in love with someone, you love them and you have put a great deal of trust in them, as well as accepting their flaws and knowing them enough to know how they tick. Being in love is tricky and something people generally don't really understand (I'm not even sure I fully understand it) but I think the best indicator is if you still love them even after all the butterflies of a new relationship fades away. Loving someone isn't quite like that, and seems more platonic than being in love.
There's a difference, but I think he was just reiterating how much he does really love you. It probably just came out funny, lol.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Agreed.
There's a slight difference between loving and being in love, but you shouldn't over-analyze it too much.
For me to love someone is to love them. I'd do anything for the people I love, just cause. And pretty much no matter what they do, I'd still love them. My family, my friends, love them like crazy.
But for me to be IN love. That's like loving someone or something more than I love myself, which I think is very rare for people to experience. When I fell in love with my religion, I changed my lifestyle (as in how I lived, not who I was) in order to follow it as completely as I could. Have I been in love with another person before? I thought I was, and I did alot for him, but in the end, I couldn't make those compromises anymore.
If he's in love with you, he more than just enjoy your company, he might go through great lengths for you.
It is true that us girls over-analyze things.
And this is one of the things that you shouldn't over-analyze because the fact that he did say he loves you means so much.
In my opinion,
I don't think there is much of a difference between saying love and in love.
I just believe that when he says that he is falling in love with you that he's feelings for you are growing deeper and deeper.
You can always fall IN love with somebody more than you do now and I think thats what he is implying.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Us girls are funny... over-analyzing is our expertise. But I agree.. definitely just be happy that "i love you" came out of his mouth. =)
http://ironic-vertigo.xanga.com/724498684/my-definition-of-love/
Wrote about this subject quite recently.
he just wants to get in your pants
there's a difference but i stopped overanalyzing things a long time ago because it just got me crazy. bottom line is he loves you.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Agreed
"Love" is like loving a gold fish. You care for it, feed and nurture it, and will be sad when it's gone.
Being "In Love" is different. You can't stand to be away from the person. You can nervous when he/she's around. You want to be with them forever. You miss them when they're not around. You want to be with them every second of the day. etc.. =]
In love is temporary..
love is a more established forever kinda of thingI go for the "i love you" better than "I'm in love with you"
Love is forever. it never changes. you may not continually have that mushy gushy feeling. but you still love the other and would do anything for them.
Being in love is that mushy gushy feeling that is only temporary. It comes and goes....and comes again and goes again...and on and on.You are way overthinking it. He meant the same things from the weekend as he did in the text. He's been feeling the same sentiments--it's just that he said it in a different way. You're missing the important part of all of this. When he says he loves you and that he's IN love with you, it's the exact same thing in this case. Don't overanalyze.
YES. There is a difference...
Yes, there's a difference, at least in my mind. Loving someone needs no reciprocation or genre of relationship whereas being "in love" with someone means you love them and they love you in a romantic sort of way.
@BehindTheSeens@xanga - I like what you said, about loving someone more than yourself. I... think I tried to do that for someone and he just kept going for what he wanted. I think for a time he was IN love with me too, but eventually he just stopped caring as much about me... (which I get because for a while I was WAY too demanding) but at a point I was trying to so hard to give him what he wanted and still ask for my own things in return
and often I felt like I was the only one trying to give anything... and sometimes it felt like I just couldn't handle it anymore. I think he reached that before me.
though... I wouldn't have given up on him. I guess I kept myself in love?
idk that's why I hate analyzing this specific difference
I think "to love" means to care deeply about someone whereas "in love" is when you feel you are completely connected and are meant to be with eachother.