Celebrating a marriage anniversary is not a big, new trend. It was a trend before I was born into this world.
So monthly anniversary celebration with our lover had been a normal trend lately. I always thought, "no, I'm not going to do this childish thing with my boyfriend, even if I had a boyfriend." For me, this is not a special day nor a unique event.
Somehow, most couples may either celebrate this monthly big day at a restaurant, enjoying a yummy delicious meal, flirting and teasing each other.
Or going to watch romantic movie, hugging each other and wishing that time will come to a halt so that they get to be alone for that lovely moment.
Then things changed when I got a boyfriend in February. 20.3.2010 was our 1st month of anniversary. Oh yeah, we celebrated the childish boyfriend-girlfriend thing.
I cant figure out why I got the feeling to buy something for both of us on that day. He absolutely altered my thought of celebrating those tiny yet special days. Well, we did not actually celebrate it basically because I was working. So I just bought us a couple key-chain.
Do you guys think that celebrating every single month is a must or just a no-no? If you think it's a must, how do you celebrate it?
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I think celebrating every month is definitely an unnecessary thing that becomes too much. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and the ones we celebrated together were "1st month, 6th month, and then 1 year." For the first one, he bought me a huge bouquet of wildflowers and took me out for the evening. For the 6 months, he bought me a dozen roses and took me some place special again, and 1 year is coming up in a month and a half and I have a suspicious feeling he plans to propose, and of course I'll say yes. We've been talking about it for a while, I just don't know how, where, or when he'll do it. He wants me to get my ring finger sized tonight, my my prediction is around the one-year mark.
But yeah. We ACKNOWLEDGED it every single month, but only truly celebrated the milestones. Every month we'd say something cute like "thanks for the best 2,3,4,10 months of my life, you're amazing!" or whatever month it was.. but small gifts or a special date every month would be way too excessive. You're not weird for wanting to buy something for the first month. I never did, but he got me flowers.. so I guess it depends on your guys and how HE feels about it. You should talk to him about it, so that it doesn't freak him out. Some guys don't like it.. but unless you're blessed with a romantic one like me, then he'd me more than happy to celebrate with you, as long as you don't over-do it. Then it begins to look like an immature junior high relationship.
why not in years instead
When your dating and you celebrate monthly its kind of childish because theres no real bond like there is when your married. If you celebrate it fine, but for me personally once you break up all the things you gave to each other have a meaning attached-and its harder to get over. I say that because I've been there and done that as a teenager and I still have crap my ex-boyfriends gave me and I still think back to our "anniversary" and it doesn't mean nothing now it was just something we did because we felt it was an accomplishment to make it a month, three months, whatever.
I've been married a year now, and our anniversary was special because marriage is a sacred commitment and it means so much more knowing that we have each other for a lifetime, and that one of us isn't just going to say "we're done" and break up.
@Cliffycliffz@xanga -
I think it's just something that couples like to acknowledge before the year-mark comes. I don't think gifts are necessary, but cute and inexpensive ways to acknowledge it together are nice. Once a year comes, then it would just be once a year. I only ever celebrated the 1st month, 6th month, and next is 1 year with my boyfriend. After the 1 year, it'll only be an annual thing.
There's nothing wrong with acknowledging it--but turning it into actual celebrations are unnecessary and immature IMO.
It's cool to acknowledge it, I always do. But I only like to celebrate the big ones--1 month, 6 months, 10 months (hey, double digits man), and then a year. And then just every six months after that. I wouldn't say there are any "rules" though, just celebrate whatever feels special to you! :)
i dont celebrate month-sarys
i don't and never have made a huge event out of any of them except for our 6 months and our 1 year. but we still went out to dinner or spent the day just the two of us on the "monthi-versaries". i mean, it really isn't a huge feat to make it a month or two months, but it's still fun to acknowledge it and just do a little something special.
but then i love finding excuses to go out to dinner or to movies or whatever it is we choose to do. for our 6 months we got a hamster together, and for our one-year we got photo booth picture strips, saw a movie and went to chipotle. nothing all that impressive, but still something special. even after a year, we still acknowledge the months (though we both almost forgot this past month's). i mean, we know it's not a huge deal and we don't really make it one, but like i said it's nice to acknowledge it and spend some quality couple time together. we've never really done gifts, but we buy things for each other all the time.
also, celebrating a month of dating also meant celebrating a month of surviving living together haha so yeah. 2 reasons to be happy, why not celebrate a little?
My boyfriend and I acknowledge it...we had our 8 month yesterday! But I guess we only really celebrate every three months. The anniversaries I would actually celebrate: 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, and then on, from the year.
I like the little mini-celebrations. It's something sweet you can do, and really, the more you try in a relationship, the more you end up getting out of it. So what if it's cheesy. If it makes the two of you happy, then go for it!
I acknowledge it at least. Being like, "hey it's our (insert number of months since we dated here) anniversary!" Celebration-wise, years for sure. We did every 3 months during the first year. Now we celebrate actual years.
Our 1.5 year anniversary came by this weekend. We celebrated by getting a puppy. =)
I've been with my fiance for almost three years. We celebrated our 1st month, our 6th month, and after that only 1st year, 2nd year, and then soon the 3rd year. I think that celebrating the 1st month is ok.
I think it's kind of more for people who don't expect to last for years, but still want to celebrate. I don't think there's any big accomplishment or anything special about lasting a month.
My fiance and I only celebrate yearly anniversaries and we've had two so far, the third is next month.
My boyfriend gave me the world in a single moment. *boom* how he did it? I'll prob never know.
my boyfriend and i don't celebrate, but we still wish each other a happy whatever-month anniversary on the date we first got together. it's just something sweet to do :) who cares if it seems cheesy to other people? you're not dating them, after all.
Fact: there is no such thing as a month anniversary. The reason people have always celebrated years instead of months is because by the time the years roll around, it's more likely that the relationship is a committed one. Have we become so jaded as a society that we need to celebrate the feat of being together every month because it's so tremendously difficult?
i believe there are certain milestones in relationships and its ok to celebrate those when you come to them. the first month is pretty exciting... i mean its your FIRST WHOLE month together. so go ahead and celebrate. after that i'd say its ok to celebrate again at 3 months. i watch a lot of relationships diminish right before the 3 month mark, so if you can make it there then good for you two! then celebrate again at 6 months, because 6 months is a pretty good accomplishment. i mean its HALF a year. lol! but then i wouldnt celebrate until the actual year anniversary. after that you should probably only stick to years. but i guess it can be acceptable to celebrate a year and a half, just because i think the second year of a relationship can be a big make it or break it point. but defiantly after that keep it to years.
it is fun and cute when you are in the first six months of your relationship. But after that you just count in years. but enjoy where you are in your relationship right now because you will never get those first months with this guy again! do every cute, mushy, overly romantic thing you can think of, because it is fun! And at 2 years 7 months you definitely won't be celebrating months anymore. so enjoy it while you can. and don't let everyone tell you it's immature--so what! whats wrong with doing fun stuff?
I think it depends on the couple. I know it is important to still go out as a couple but monthly gifts? Probably not essential. I can understand if the couple has been dating less than a year, and therefore, that it would be more important to them to celebrate month by month.
It's a little too often if you celebrate it monthly, isn't it?
I used to "celebrate" monthly by giving my boyfriend at the time a card, but that was the extent that it ever went to. I only start making a big deal [read as: wanting to have a special night] after a year passes.
When i remember, i'll tell my bf hey __ anniversary. in months.
but we jus had our 4 year anniversary. we definitely celebrated that. and don't really celebrate months like the whole shebang holiday of us status. hahahha
I pretty much don't pay attention to any anniversary, so I doubt I am the person to ask. I just don't see the point in making a schedule for affection. : /
At least, that's what it feels like people are doing.
I think 1st month is good to celebrate~ but after that I only celebrate like every 6 month or yearly~ If both of you feel like you like to celebrate monthly then why not? Maybe its cuz I am a girl but I like doing celebrations, it's better to celebrate then not celebrate.. monthly, yearly, or whatever ^^
My ex and I used to "celebrate" just by saying happy ___ months. No big night out or anything, that would have been too much I think. I mean, a month is prety often. But once you get to like, 1 year, I think that celebrating months is kind of irrelevant
Monthly? Are you kidding me? Anyone who has had more than one serious relationship and is beyond the age of sixteen knows that this is obnoxious.
My current gf and I aren't even sure exactly what the date would be for our monthly anniversary. Next April will be six months and I doubt we'll do anything special. After being with different girls for more than twelve months, celebrating just one month, every month, seems a bit overkill. Are you celebrating the months because you don't think you'll last a year? I mean, c'mon. Grow up.