Monday, 22 March 2010
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Cleanin' Out My Closet: The Memory Box of Sweethearts Past
In a surprisingly timely fashion, I decided to get going on my Spring cleaning. Deep in my closet, among the old beat-up flip flops and sweaters I haven't worn...well...ever, I found my memory box--the storage bin where I've kept old diaries, notes, cards, newspaper clips, ticket stubs, photos and more throughout the years.
What surprised me was the amount of ex-crush and ex-boyfriend memorabilia I discovered...the diary entries about how dreamy *Steve was back in fourth grade...cute notes *Lance and I passed during pre-calc in high school...a heart-felt birthday card from *Malik freshman year of college about how I was the best thing that ever happened to him...and more. LOTS more.
I admit I am a sentimental mush. I just think someday it will be so much fun and interesting to look back at this stuff--to be honest it already is! Reading about the mistakes I made before that I couldn't see at the time helps me to be a better person now; seeing the effort that my ex put into decorating a card for me reminds me of the type of guy I deserve; and the pictures of me and an old crush together? Well, those just make me smile!
Do you have a place where you store old memories, particularly stuff from past and present romantic interests? What are your favorite keepsakes?
*Names have been changed for privacy
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I chuck all my old stuff out along with the memories, that way I can always fill my closet with the present and the future stuff.
It depends on what kind of memories, I tossed out everything my ex gave me. I didn't want to be reminded of him.
I have every card I've ever been given, with the exception of ex's I think. I get rid things from past relationships. I don't see a point to keeping it, for me personally that is. I do still have a few tshirts that I'll wear to bed, but just because they are big and comfy, not because they were my ex's.
I have a ton of notes and cards from high school--birthday cards, notes that were passed, etc. Most are from my girlfriends but I did save some things from guys, too. Anything that makes me smile is worth remembering. I don't keep the things with baggage attached.
yep in a big box that is under my bed..
but all sorts of memories go in there not just
ex's
i keep all my shit, its funny to read and see how young and immature (and funny) it all was
to the OP, out of curiosity, was malik turkish?mine are all on facebook and myspace and email.
paper doesn't exist in the 21st century.
I wrote a short story about a guy a had a brief thing with and haven't had the heart to get rid of it--not because I have feelings for the guy, but it is interesting to read and get a look into what my mindset was at the time. After reading it, I see that love can be very blind--how I romanticized my experiences with him and now I have learned to approach an SO with more realism.
If my current SO and I ever broke up, I'd have to get rid of a LOT of stuff--notes, cards, jewelry, decorations, photos...the works. But I don't think I'd be able to bear looking at it ever again.
I'd stash mine in the attic and when I'm old and grey my grandkids can go through the contents and I could tell them the stories.
i made a memory box :)
I dont have a memory box
Yes! I actually found the leftover box from a Valentine's Day chocolate box that my ex gave me, as well as a sparkly, well-decorated heart-shaped card. I found a lot of notes we wrote to each other, which were very sentimental and funny. "I love you", "you're my life", "you're my everything", etc.... "My dad...", "my dog did..." etc. It's actually an eye-opener for me sometimes. But I do enjoy reminiscing .
I have a big box full of old letters - I love snail mail!
I don't have a box of stuff from past SO's. I do have a box full of stuff from when I was a kid though. Just this afternoon, I found a bunch of old journal entries that I can add to my box. It was funny to read some of them, and see what I thought was important back then.
i have a box dedicated to those things. One day, when i'm over them, i'll look back and laugh.
I love keeping stuff for memory's sake. But... I don't keep anything romantic from my ex's when I start dating someone else... I don't throw out clothes or shoes, but anything else belongs in the trash. I remember, with my last ex, I did keep a sheet of pictures we had taken together. But once I realized that was it for us, and I wanted to move on, I shredded it. For me, getting rid of those is a sign of respect for whoever I'm dating at the moment. I like starting fresh. Can't hang onto something that's already gone, just cherish what you have right then and there.
I actually threw out the last things I had left of my ex two nights ago: his pajama pants, toothbrush, and cologne. Directly after the break up, I deleted our pictures together and threw out other random objects for my own sanity. After all, he's so in the past now and keeping things from him would just make me nostalgic for the good times that will never happen again, which would be a setback in moving forward. The only thing I have left from him is our Facebook messages that led to the break up. It's good to remember why I deserve so much better.
I have my old yearbooks from elementary school,middle school and highschool stashed with things in them :) My old highschool year book has cards written from my closest high school firends and I have something I made with pictures/cards/movie stubs with my boyfriend right now :) I do that so no matter what happens, I can look back on those things and smile because they're good memories no matter what. My grandkids can look at them and see how hot i was ;) haha
Memories of exes from middle/high school and my 3 year relationship I did get rid of. The recent exes within the past couple of years I didn't get rid of everything. A couple of items I burned after the split because the immediate heartache, and I regret that I do not have them now. I keep a visual journal with pictures and various items related to memories and I document their significance. I do like to look back and laugh at the good times I experienced with friends or exes. You grow from your past. My favorites would probably be programs from plays I attended with exes or other simple reminders.
I keep all cards and notes in shoeboxes in my closet. =)
I had a box, and the last time I read a post about a similar topic, I opened it. But there was nothing inside. I have no idea what I did with all the stuff, but it's probably for the best.
I have a few shoe boxes that I put my stuff in and my Hope Chest.
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