Monday, 22 March 2010
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Hello Boobies! Hello Tampons! Hello GUYS!
When I was a teenage girl around the age of puberty, my girl-friends and I would talk non-stop about guys. (i.e. Hello boobies! Hello tampons! Hello GUYS!)
Although we would have posters of our teenage heartthrob male celebrities plastered all over our bedroom walls, we could only dream about them. In reality, we had more of a chance of netting a boyfriend amongst our bunch of guy-friends. This meant that we would discuss who was the best-looking, who had the best personality, who had the best haircut, etc. Now that we're in our mid to late twenties, some of us single and some of us attached, we still talk about guys! I am the only one in our group of girl-friends who have had a number of relationships - Hey, don't call me a village bicycle now! Anyway, I recently started a new relationship and I have noticed this recurring trend.When I am in a happy relationship, the person I am dating miraculously transforms to be the hottest person in the universe. Brad Pitt - who?? Not only that, but the person I am dating is faultless. Is that why they say "love is blind"?
But when that relationship ends and I have moved on, the person I was dating becomes the fugliest person on the planet. Not only that but the words "What was I thinking?" haunt me endlessly. I can only see the faults in the person I was dating. Is that why they say "blinded by love"?Does anyone else agree with me? Is love blind?
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Holy crap, I've never really looked at it like this. You're absolutely right, love is blind.
Yes, love is blind, especially in the beginning, but then you get to know the person. Then you learn their faults, but you find their flaw to be endearing, instead of irritating (at first anyway).
I think it changes as you get older though.
You are correct. I just experienced this recently... although we weren't "dating," we basically were an item of some sorts. I spent the past 4 and 1/2 years being attracted to this one young man. Quite honestly, I thought he was perfect. Then for various reasons, I took a moment for a "reality check." And I realized, oh my gosh, this kid has a million and one deal-breaker flaws. WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?!?! lol
My previous relationship was blind love. I got smarter, and since I am a quick learner (haha, whatever), I picked someone I knew wasn't perfect for my current relationship and I can relate to him better.
Of course love is blind.
Also, wtf was up with the title of this post?
@proudsmartypants@xanga - I think it's referring to puberty...but not sure.
Also that's pretty normal for most girls, least almost all the girls I've ever known. When they're in a relationship they constantly brag about how they have the best boyfriend in the world and how handsome, awesome etc the guy is. Soon as it's over they just go off about how much a jerk he was, how ugly he is, how stupid etc. Annoys the crap out of me hehe.
haha yep, that's pretty much how it works... although with my ex's, it was never 'love' - i think i actually just didn't see their faults.
psh, not for me. i'm painfully aware of the faults of my lovers.
I tottaly agree 100% , found myself in a simular situation !
I don't think love is blind.
When you begin a relationship you've generally only seen a small part of that person, but by the end of it you've seen who they are (or as much as you need to see, anyway) to determine you can't go on together any longer. So it makes sense to think that someone is the end-all-be-all at Point A, and then loathe the thought of them at Point B.
I mean, I thought Shamwow Vince was cool, and then he slapped a hooker or something and I had to reconsider my options.
yupp! Love is blind. But most of the people I end up with were originally my friends, so I knew their faults before I had feelings for them.
And I agree, the title of this post is completely irrelevant to the topic :P
"Love is not blind... it sees but does not mind."
This is a stupid title for this post..
I think that some people are too infatuated in the beginning to realize their lover's flaws. And then you eventually realize that you a.) you can't handle them or b.) you only love the person more because of them. =)
um.... ? what does it mean if I don't think anything like that about my ex? I mean is that just because I have feelings still... I can't imagine feeling like that, even if I wasn't in love or even liking him. At worst he'd only be cute
and otherwise, I'd think he's stupid for the way we ended, but I still like his personality. Why else did I fall for him?
of course love is blind because if we actually see that person, i mean the real person, we wouldn't like them too much.
On the BBC, I watched an experiment where people were to choose which photo amongst a set best represented their significant others' true appearance. All but one of the photos had been altered to make the person appear more or less attractive, and the one image of the person as he/she actually is was included. Almost always, the subject chose a more attractive photo as the most accurate depiction because when you're in love with someone, you think of them ideally.
yes. yes it is.
Wow, thats a good perspective i'd say!
I don't know if love is blind though.
before you even start dating that person you don't see faults.I think sometimes to make ourselves feel better and to help get over relationships our mindspick out the faults that we always knew were there, and makes them more apparent.Since you're no longer with the person they begin to be something that you look back on and realize more.things that didn't matter while you were dating are now the things you say are the reasons why you no longer like that person.
No matter what, our minds always have to make up excuses for stuff such as a relationship ending.Whether it's the true reason or just a way to cope with and get over the relationship .
Maybe love isn't blind. But the resent at the end of a relationship is.because it covers up all the good qualities you saw in the person when you were dating them, with the bad.
My hubby's "faults" are some of my most favorite things about him.
i dont think its blind
but in regards to the level of attractiveness... ive always had a theory.. on the 1-10 scale, whoever you like at the time always get 3 points tacked on, so if they are really an 8 they become an 11... and thus more attractive than a 10. just a theoryi was blind once. now i deny i ever dated the guy, even to myself... haha i dont count him as one of my ex's
because it never happened.... that's what i like to think anyway
Joel is the absolute most handsome man I've ever seen, but if I weren't dating him, he probably wouldn't be. It's because I love him that he is so attractive to me. This reminds me of a saying, "Love isn't when you find the perfect person, it's when you find an imperfect person perfect."
alaseer
Love's not blind! It just didn't want us to see the faults of a person.
Infatuation is blind. True love sees and accepts all--faults, flaws--everything.