Saturday, 20 March 2010
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Breaking Up Via Text Message?
Is it really as bad as people think it is?
I mean, I got broken up with via text TWICE, and it didn't bother me all to much.
Reasons Why:If you're getting broken up WITH:
1. You are left alone.
Unless your at a friends, or a party, or something. You are most likely alone. And who really likes crying in front of other people? Seriously?
If you're the one breaking up:1. It's not awkward.
Imagine this.. You really want to break up with your obnoxious boyfriend in person. You have to look him in the eye and tell him, "Hey, I don't think we're working out" and you'll have to see his reaction. It'd be even MORE awkward if he started crying. What would you do?
2. It's quick and easy.
No need to stutter over your words or get teary eyed, because you don't have to be there. It's a lot easier than going out to see them, saying it to their face, and leaving.
I know a lot of people would disagree with me that breaking up via text is okay.. but is it really as bad as you thought?
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Nah, I don't think so. I think you should do it however you feel most comfortable.
Before I started dating my ex, I use to have to write him letters about how I felt because I couldn't bring myself to spit it out in person or even over the phone. He didn't mind, he said he actually liked it and that it didn't bother him so long as I got it out in the open.
I know that telling someone you like them and breaking up with them is completely different but I think the same concept would apply. As long as you get it out in the open and done with it shouldn't matter how it's communicated.
It may be quick and easy, but it also seems cowardly. I admit I broke up over text and they broke up over text with me. However, doing it fast and quick only seems like you are trying to take the easy way out, as if when you text them, they won't call you to get proper closure on the deal.
Uhm, yeah. It's bad. You're with this person for a good while. Say, 6 months or a year. You're close and you trust them with most anything. Everything seems fine. You love them. You're phone rings and you see they're name pop up on the screen and you get excited and that sudden fluttering rush of happiness. Then all of a sudden you see, "I think we should just be friends. It's not you; it's me."
You try to find out what's wrong with him. How you can comfort him. And he says nothing.
You don't even know WHY you broke up because he hasn't said a word to you in 6 months now. You think it WAS you because he didn't say a single word. You feel like it was meaningless because he couldn't sit down long enough to console you and make sure you were OK.
Sorry, personal rant.
It's better than through Facebook.
Cowardly. That's what it is.
Yeah, being broken up with over text definitely sucks. It happened to me and made absolutely no sense. It also lengthened the recovery process because I kept thinking that we would work everything out. In other words, I asked him to talk to me in person about our issues, and he kept agreeing and then making excuses at the last minute. The break up just didn't feel real at all. It also cut out any possibility of a friendship in time. It was highly cowardly, rude, and insensitive. On top of that, it's a huge self-esteem murderer. Basically like: "Oh, I was with him for months, but I didn't even deserve a proper good-bye? Super." But that's just my opinion, I guess.
It depends how long you have been with that person. If just few months
then I think it's fine.
But if you guys were pretty serious then I think that's very
disrespectful.
I have done it once. It didn't go very well, but there was no other way of doing it really at the time. Its not something I am proud of
It's 2010, breaking up via txt/AIM/email is normal and the easiest way to do it...
Lol I'm guilty of both doing the breaking up and being broken up with via text/email/msn.
Can't say that I'm proud of it, but oh well, what's done has been done.
at least try calling first. only text if that's the best you could do...
People are so gutless.
Quit being immature and nut up. Face to face is mandatory unless it's truly unrealistic due to distance or something.
if he breaks up with me with a text and doesn't have the guts to do it in person because he is afraid of my reaction, then he won't escape my reaction because I'll likely cuss him out the next time I see him. if he broke up with me in person to begin with, then I'd have a little more respect for him of being upfront and honest instead of texting me because that is more comfortable. if it was a serious relationship, then text msg breakup is an insult.
I broke with my ex by emailing him. I only did it to avoid him being very manipulative and I couldn't tell him face to face. I was scared...so what. It was so much easier that way.
its totally cowardly!! my ex who i was with for 2 years broke up with me through text, and its horrible because i had just talked to him earlier that day in person, then had called him on the phone cause he was acting weird and i specifically asked him if something was wrong, but he wouldnt admit to anything face to face!!!! then later in the night i get a text saying he went through my phone the night before and we are done. it was so stupid!! i felt disrespected. he came crawling back 3 days later but i couldnt forgive someone who would break my heart in such a callous way.
So...my ex asked me out in a facebook message.
He then broke up with me in a text message.
I expected it.
It just showed what kind of person he is, and that is a coward. Simple as.
I did see him like two months later after we "broke up," but I acted friendly because it didn't really bother me.
It just shows he's not really worth crying over or being upset about.He has a crazy psycho ex that's attached to him, too. I wonder if he broke up with her in a text message...most likely did, he seems like the type to.
This year, I got broken up with via txt... the day after Valentines day. Yes, it does suck and it is rude.
Hmmm.... I think it really depends on whether you've been just dating for a little while or whether it's a long term relationship. I could see where the former would be okay to break up over text.
uhm... only if you wanna look completely insincere and like a big asshole.
@Nellie0x@xanga -It might be the easiest, but it's also cowardly. I think it's only ok if you've only been dating the person for a short period of time, like a week or two, but after that, it's cowardly and hurtful. You want to hurt a person? At least have the guts to do it in person. If it makes the dumper feel awkward if the other person cries, oh well - they'll just have to put up with it.
The girl in the picture is like, "Oh DAAAAAIYUM!"
It's downright rude and a definite sign of cowardice.
There is the right way and wrong way to break up with someone, and this is the wrong way. It doesn't matter how awkward or how uneasy it might be, people should always do it in person. I don't even think people should break up over the phone.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Well said.
But if you do happen to be dumped via less brave means at least the closure will be better because "hey! your partner was a spineless coward anyway."
Coward move.
People have communication problems, face to face, AS IS, thanks to the technology revolution. Why try to justify the stupid shit people do, in the name of saving face, or getting rid of awkwardness? Part of dealing with others (which, sorry, unless you're a hermit, you need to learn how to) is improving the way you relate yourself to them.
And anyway... text message? C'mon.