There's this person you've been seeing. Or better yet, there's this person you've just met and you're interested in, let's call him/her Z. It's a Saturday night, both of you had a little wine, did some dancing, got intimate and the next thing you know your hormones are all over the place. So you invite Z back to your place
to see some etchings and after some heavy petting and passion, both of you fall asleep.
Fast forward. You wake up to Z at 10 in the morning asking where you keep the toilet rolls because he/she really needs to use the bathroom. 30 minutes later, Z asks you if you want some water and if it's okay for him/her to drink some, too. 10 minutes later Z climbs back into bed with you. 1 hour later, Z is snoring. Wait, Z's
still here?
2 hours later, you've freshened up and Z's still in bed. Another half an hour later Z asks if you want to watch the football game, on your TV.
You've started to wonder when Z will leave for quite some time now. You like the person, but you need to relax and get your life together for tomorrow (or you just want Z out of the house). You're not sure exactly how to break the news to Z.
Of course, every scenario does not play out like this. You may have wanted Z out of the house when you woke up, or maybe even before that. How do you get him or her to leave?
My friend told me recently that he brought a girl to his place and she woke up the next day at 8 in the morning, only to put on her clothes and crawl back into bed with him until 2 in the afternoon. Another friend told me her excuse for finally getting someone to leave her place was that she had to attend the evening mass at 5. And another used Patrick Bateman's videotape excuse from American Psycho (it didn't work).
It definitely depends on whose place you're crashing at, but
is there an etiquette to staying over someone's place? How long is it until someone has overstayed his or her welcome? What's the best excuse you've come up with?
There's this person you've been seeing. Or better yet, there's this person you've just met and you're interested in, let's call him/her Z. It's a Saturday night, both of you had a little wine, did some dancing, got intimate and the next thing you know your hormones are all over the place. So you invite Z back to your place to see some etchings and after some heavy petting and passion, both of you fall asleep.
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Well I think if I wanted someone to leave I'd tell them I had to go to work or go to my parents house. It's not like they can follow me there....
As for me leaving... I usually feel weird waking up at someones house the next morning so I usually ask them if they need me to go or not.
Leave before noon unless you have planned otherwise or they have specifically requested otherwise with the intention of being more than polite.
There's always honest communication. *shrug*
To be honest, though, I'm not really one to get sick of people. If you sleep over at my place, you're probably welcome to stay over for a while.
I'd probably just let them stay until they want to go.
There's nothing cool going on here- ever- so I'd imagine it would get pretty boring.
As for myself, I'd leave asap.
I think I have the problem that Z has. I tend to have trouble leaving a friend's house.
@schallerbrandon@xanga - I agree with this.
I expect all of my midnight lovers to be gone by noon. I can't help but love cooking breakfast or food though so I extend the invite..other than that. WAYYY to awkward for me! :X
it would've been better if you put up a picture of Christopher Bale when he was in American Psycho
and I'm so drunk I don't know what this blog is about
Th etiquette is you're out of the other persons place within 3 hours of waking up. You have time to maybe wait off a little of whatever alcohol is left in your body, or cuddle, or watch TV, or whatever. But if you can't get your ass in gear in three hours after waking up, you might want to examine your party habits.
I mean, maybe it's an off day for you and you don't have shit to do, but most of the time, people have shit they need to get done in a day. Maybe you don't, but they might so act accordingly.
Please, DO NOT ASK. You should be able to tell by the atmosphere if you're welcome. Frankly, I find it's always better to leave too soon than too late, so if you're not sure, make for the door and see what they say.
Usually if someone shares my bed, it's someone I want there for more than one night... so this doesn't apply.
I say I have to leave pretty soon to be honest, for fear of overstaying my welcome. It's not like you won't get to spend time with that person every again. Unless it was a 'one night stand', but in that case, you'd get the hell out of there anyway, right? :')
I want him to stay longer and cuddle for 5 more hours. I don't mind it
so no excuses here.
Anyone that I am not dating is not at my house or in my bed, especially someone I am not crazy about. I will get up early and let this person have the rest of their day if I am at their house. They had me all night, so let them have their rest.
I thought this was going to be about porn. I really did.
honesty!
I don't think I've ever had this problem since anyone that's ever stayed with me or I've stayed with has either been someone I'm dating or my best friends, in which case it doesn't bother me or them when/if someone's leaving.
In any case, if I woke up somewhere, I'd probably leave as soon as possible, probably within an hour of waking up, unless they asked me to stay. As for unwelcome guests, I'd just tell them to leave if I didn't want them there anymore. If they asked why, I'd just tell them the truth - that they couldn't be there all day because I didn't want them to be.
haha... i always hated when boys over-stayed their welcome in my bed after a night of drunken sex. just because i'm female does not mean i like to cuddle, especially with a one night stand, and if the guy's not out fast enough, i'll give him a kick out the door so he gets the hint. the best i can do is give him a lame excuse then stand holding the door open, staring at him, making it clear i want him to leave. i'm not very nice to boys, now that i think on it..
@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - i thought it was about porn too =/ haha
I try to leave directly after all carnal activity is over. I just don't like sharing a bed. Could this be why I'm single?
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Tell them you have to go somewhere. Or don't invite people you don't like enough to spend your day off with to spend the night.
Just put it out there.
"Uhh, great time and all, but you gotta get the fuck out."
@Gentleman_Of_Versailles@xanga - Mine is stuck with me xD jk.
xD I never had that problem..though of course i rather go into relationships before anything happens.I never believed in one night stands. I'm not that kind of person.