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  • Nellie0x@xanga

    We've had a couple fish haha (all have died anyways)... He kept them when we broke up because it's his apartment.

  • Hermeown@xanga

    Small things are okay, like a fish or maybe a small bird. Those are almost meaningless, considering how long they last (unless you get like, a parrot or giant tropical fish.)


    Bigger things will obviously have more baggage. Since dogs require a lot of work, that might cause more issues. Cats in a way, too, but mostly because I'm a cat person. If your SO really wants one and you gift it, that's cool! But remember that pet is your SO's and not yours. My biggest warning would just be "don't get attached... to the pet."


  • PMFoutofwater

    Six months, I reckon. It's a big commitment. I've got a cat called Mildred, who I bought to impress a girl. Little did I know she'd want feeding at least once every three days. And once every few months you have to change their poo tray, which is called a litter. Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is that an unstable relationship is no place for a pet. You need stability and responsibilty to take on such a burden. That's why me and Mildred get along so well.


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  • raved@xanga

    Maybe 6 months to a year. Getting a dog or a cat is the same as making a 10-15 year commitment. It shouldn't be taken lightly.

    As for custody, I can't even imagine something like that.
    If my boyfriend and I were to break up, he would take his pet and mine would stay here. We don't really have joint ownership in our dogs or cats, though we both care for them equally.
  • soyeahthatswhathappened@xanga

    i don't think you should do that until you're married or at least sure you're going to be together forever, because if you break up, someone is going to get their heart broken even more deciding who keeps the pet/s.
  • belladonnabutterflies@xanga

    I was seeing someone and we was going to buy turtles and goldfish, we thought of names already.

    But then either I messed up or he overreacted to something, and it never happened. :(He still makes me breakfast in bed when I stay at his though, so it's all gravy! :L
  • iamjacksrottingliver@xanga

    @PMFoutofwater - Yeah, roughly 6 months.
    I don't know, depends on the couple.
  • akatiegirl

    My husband and I waited until we were a few months from marriage to adopt our cat.  That would've been about the 3 year mark for us.  Some friends of ours probably waited a couple years before adopting their dog together.  It depends on your situation.  All I know is that, if we ever get a divorce, my husband will probably fight harder for custody of the cat than he would for custody of any kids we may have.;) (Just kidding...kinda.;))

    -Katie
  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    I don't like pets, so I wouldn't get a joint pet just to please him or to signify our next level of commitment or whatever. some are cute pet animals but not for me. if he has his own pets, that is fine though.

  • asininity

    Oh my god, those Golden Retrievers are just too adorable.

    My boyfriend and I share a love for Golden Retrievers, so as soon as we settle down, we're getting a puppy together. ;D
  • anonymous

    This post relates to me today.

    Today my boyfriend and I are getting a puppy, a Shiba Inu. We've been dating for 1.5 years, and have 5 years of friendship under our belts. We got our cat at just over a year of dating. We're both very confident we'll be together forever. If we did break up, however, I know he would take the dog and I would take the cat, due to our tastes. He's more of a dog person (but still likes cats), and I'm def a cat person but like dogs too.

    If you're comfortable enough in the relationship and know it's going to be long-term, then by all means, get a pet. It's nice having a cuddly friend that sleeps with you at night, and manages to cause a bit of trouble, too. =P
  • wizard_howl@xanga

    My love and I are entirely sure about our relationship, and LOVE animals of all kinds. He knows I'm planning to breed Akita Inu in the future and actually loves the idea.


    So when I do get a dog...he'll love every second of it. Later, the dojo we will live at will be crawling with Akitas and puppies. And in between now and that time, we both have no problems with other pets. Since I work at a pet store, that's a good thing--I think in the near future I'll be adopting the adult gerbils that haven't been sold.


    All depends on the relationship. And whoever invested the most time in the animal should take it if a break-up occurs. No sense in allowing the person who didn't put forth the effort to take the poor kiddo. And please don't put an animall in a shelter if you can't decide...that's just horrible.


    Speaking of shelters, it's a good idea (if you're getting a dog) to adopt a pet. Not only do you help a homeless dog get a new "leash" on life (haha), more than likely, the pet is already house-trained, good on a leash, and by adopting you're also helping other dogs get fed and housed at the shelter.


    :D
  • xGoingGaga@xanga

    I'd wait a while - at least until you've been living together for a while and are deciding to be committed.  Start with something small, then go to something larger over time, such as a dog. 

  • punkybeki@xanga

    My last boyfriend and I got a dog after 1 month. We didn't exactly mean to, a friend found him and we just couldn't bear to let him go.

    We've only been broken up for a month, so I'm not sure what we're doing about custody. As much as it breaks my heart, I think I'm going to have to let him have my baby most of the time for now. As it is, my ex is better set up to deal with a pet. But there's no way it'll be forever... I'm going to visit and when I get out of school, we'll work something out.

    I think it's kind of like children - you have to do what's best for them, not what you want. Thankfully, my ex and I are on great terms. It was a mutual break up.

  • Shy___Away@xanga

    We got a cat, but he ended up hating it and made me get rid of it :(

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