So if you have been following my blog recently, you already know that I've known my boyfriend for 6 months but we have only been officially dating since New Years Eve. Anyway, this past weekend, my boyfriend, sister, uncle and I all traveled to the Poconos to visit my grandparents. The boyfriend and I had the entire basement to ourselves.
So Saturday night him and I are in the middle of a intense makeout session and those words "
I love you" escaped my lips before I even knew what was happening. Now don't get me wrong. I've talked about how I was falling in love with this man before on my blog, and I knew that I eventually wanted to tell him, but I didn't expect that it would have been this weekend.
Just picture him and I are kissing deeply and I look him in the eyes and I'm like, "I love you." He moans for me to say it again, and of course I do. After a few more kisses I just shut down. I can't believe I said it out loud to him, and like a major DORK I start to tear up and cry. I don't even know why I'm crying but I am.
He tells me that he had seen my post about me "thinking" that I was in love with him, but he wanted to know if I was sure. That made me cry even more as I tried to express to him how serious I really am. I do love him, and after getting sick this past Sunday and having him taking care of me all day and night, that made me love him even more.
My only concern is that he might be freaked out about my emotions towards him, he says he isn't. I'm not rushing him to return those words. I know that he likes to take things slow, and that it might be 4 years down the road before I hear him say it, but at least he knows what I'm feeling.
Have you ever said "I love you" first in the relationship, or do you wait for your partner to say it?
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Heh. I totally said it on the first date once. Ah, I was young and foolish. But I was with the guy for four years, and it only ended because I ended it. Again with the young and foolish...
Why dreaded? Love is a GREAT word!
What is truly dreadful is the sheer dread one feels when the phrase "Lword" is written or mentioned!
dont dread it. its a great word
There's no timeline that people can follow to tell them if they're in love or not. It's not like 2 months later, something tells you, you can say you're in love. You can't help how you feel..
I, however, wouldn't tell a guy that i "love" him no sooner than 4 months. different strokes for different folks.
Saying "i love you" is a great thing when you mean it... no matter when you say it
I've never told anyone that before....
Hmm...I would say that I probably say it first, but usually it's timed pretty close together. I think I'm pretty good at being able to tell if my sentiments are returned or not.
aw that's sweet.
i've said it but only because i really meant it and i usually wait forever to say it because i'm never sure but when it does come out, i love saying it over and over again.
@ELIZerson@xanga - Ditto.
I made sure to save those words for the one I truly love.
After two relationships gone bad, I found the one to say it too.
I was extremely nervous because I thought he would be
the one to avoid the "L" word.
Instead, he said it first one the same day I was going to say it.
I replied with the same three words with a huge smile of relief
and undeniable satisfaction.
We have been together ever since, three years going on to four.
They always say it first and whatt and its weird. haha
hmm my last girlfriend was waiting for me to say it first... and she was really pissed at me. i was always wondering why she didnt say it to me first.
it takes a lot for me to say it. so far I haven't said it to anyone so I don't know the right time. they say that you'll just know when the feeling is there.
i don't use "love"to an SO until I am ready
I said it first. He hasn't said it back yet and it's been a couple months, but he likes hearing me say it and knowing I mean it.
i never say it first
I would never say it first, and I never have.
My boyfriend said it to me on our second date, which is what made us an official couple. We were kissing in the pouring rain, and I had the words "I love you," running through my head, but I wasn't going to say them because I thought that it was too soon and that he would run away if I told him. However he then said it to me as he was walking me to my Mums' car. We were together for two and a half years, and I'm still in love with him. I can't ever imagine not being, or loving someone else. Such a lonely life I have to look forward to, haha! Or.. maybe someone will sweep me off my feet and show me what love really is.
He said it first, but I wasn't read to say it until a few months later. I don't think the L-word is something to dread though. Quite the opposite.
my boyfriend was pushing me around in a shopping cart and we were laughing and feeling all romantic and whatnot. all of a sudden he stops the cart and pulls out a blue crayon from his pocket. he took the crayon and on my hand he wrote 'i love you' with a heart next to it. i kissed him and said i love you too. the thing that made it really romantic though, is that we never ever say that we love someone unless we truly feel like its the right word for how we feel, so i knew that he meant what he said, or wrote :) two and a half years later, we're still happily together and the best of friends.
i told my girlfriend i loved her beneath the fireworks on july 4th, 2007. 3 years later and we're still happily boyfriend and girlfriend and planning to marry in 2 more years once college is over :)
I ALWAYS say it first. always.
Never again.
I don't know whether mine counts because I didn't say those three words exactly. I told him during a makeout session (what's up with makeout sessions and the "L" word?) that I thought I was falling in love with him, and he told me that he was definitely falling in love with me..and then later on when we were talking on the phone he said those three words. Those events were so powerful that I remember it even now, and that was almost 3.5 years ago?