Tuesday, 16 March 2010
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Should Watching Movies be a Last Resort?
Maybe I'm a snob, but I feel like a movie should be a last resort for a date.
Unless you're going to go somewhere and talk about the movie, (how you interpret differently, what you learned from it, what you'd do it that character's situation, etc. and deeper than the "what did you like about it?"), you just spent at least 1.5 hours not getting to know this amazing person next to you.
My girlfriend and I have been together almost four months. Tonight was the first night we had ever watched a movie solo. We've watched maybe three or four movies with other friends and couples, but more as a group hang-out type of thing rather than a date for just her and I.
We settled on a movie because I'm getting over a cold and am still tiring out really easily, so I wasn't up for a game or going on a walk or anything after we made dinner together. We both like chick flicks, so we settled on "The Lake House." After the movie, we talked about how we'd act in the opportunity to affect the past or future. So even in watching a movie, we learned something about each other.
What about you? Do you feel like every date (even casual noncommittal dating) should teach you something about the other person, or is a date just time to hang out and have fun, even if you're not learning significantly more about the other person?
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Movies are for enjoyment; documentaries are for discussing. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
There's nothing wrong with a couple movie dates every-now-and-then. But 3 or 4 movies, in a row? No, I'd fall asleep
my ex and I used to sneak into moves and just hang out all day. ahaha
why not. i end making out or just talking during the movies.
Movie watching should be mandatory for all dating couples. Not the only activity but it's certainly important. You can learn a lot about someone by their whole style of selecting and watching a movie. Most likely you will find both things you like and things you dislike in their styles but it's good to know. So really you aren't wasting time if you are paying attention. It's good to discuss the movie afterwards too. Like you suggested it can also let you see inside a person.
What the hell is wrong with movies? I understand for the first month of dating but I love watching movies with my boyfriend at his house. We both don't really care if we talk during them and make comments, we laugh at them, watch them with friends, and even watch them with his parents sometimes. It's not all we do obviously, but we watch a few a month.
Movies as every date would get boring. However, my husband and I tend to have the BEST sex after watching movies in bed together late at night.
For getting to know each other in the first place, though, movies can be pretty ineffective if there isn't a lot of conversation going on afterward.
i rarely watch movies with my boyfriend but its certainly not something i avoid doing.
yeah the first date, shouldnt be a movie, and you shouldnt go ALL the time.but really now? you need to learn something about one another every time you see one another? i feel like thats a bit much. why cant you just enjoy time together once youve been dating for a while.I like movie dates. Of course, that wouldn't be good for EVERY date. But that's the same with anything... there aren't many activities I'd be content with doing for several dates in a row.
My boy and I talk all the time, and much of the time it's just plain wonderful to snuggle up and watch a movie. After a long, busy day, that's all I want, much of the time.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - good deal.
i love watching movies with a date! its a great opportunity to cuddle and kiss too!
get out the house. I hate staying in but id watch a movie only if i feel completely lazy and it was a lazy day where everything closes early, but i always need to get out the house, i mean i can find free fun outside the house.
I HATE watching movies the first couple times I go out on a date with a guy, I don't see the point, because you don't talk to the person, you just stare at a screen.
nothing wrong with having movie-dates once in a while
If the only time you get to see your bf/gf is during a "date," then I guess just going to the movies wouldn't be great. People can get to know each other when they are just hanging out, it doesn't always have to be during a date.
I don't know, we usually end up talking about the movie afterwards, or at least build some sort of memory while we watch it. (For example... we watched Hot Shots the other day.. I thought the military men cabaret dancing in the background was really funny, so I tried to mimic it. He's still laughing at me.) I think movies are just as legitimate as any other activity you might do together. I mean, it's not like you're discussing anything profoundly important over a game of Scrabble or anything.
it's easy to say that four months into a relationship, but after three years together, just spending time together watching a movie in comfortable clothes can be right next to heaven.
I watch a lot of movies with my boyfriend. Like...3 (at least) a week. I really like our movie days...but then again, I'm a touch dull when it comes to dates :/ Both of us love movies. Might as well love them together ^^
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - i can't agree
I think riffing on movies is an excellent choice. Theaters as a date, not so much.
A date is about having a good time with who you are with, regardless of whether, for you, it would be better to have an intellectually stimulating experience or just to have fun for fun's sake. There isn't much point in obsessing over whether or not the date was "proper" enough; only whether or not you enjoyed it.
Call me strange, but there are memories to be made using movies. Hell, my first boyfriend hooked me with a line from Casablanca. We had a lot of inside jokes that were based on our talking during movies. And the makeouts weren't half bad either.
Good god you watched the Lake House? That movie totally blew. No wonder movies are a last resort for you--try selecting better movies...?
As a first date, movies are horrible. With someone you've been dating, they're great.
i love to watch movies so i don't mind it at all. my bf is the same also.
In the Dating Phase, I do think movies should be avoided,
simply because talking should take up most of your time
getting to know each other is usually the purpose of dating.
You should go on as many dates as possible before
starting to watch movies with them.
When you actually start a relationship, like actual boyfriend girlfriend,
then watching a movie is great way to spend time with each other.
I agree. Movies are last resort when getting to know a person.
But when you're already in love and in a relationship,
then watching a movie is great for spending time with each other.