Tuesday, 16 March 2010
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Why Can't I Bring My Girlfriend to Prom?
A northern Mississippi school district will not be hosting a high school prom this spring after a lesbian student sought to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.
School policy requires that senior prom dates be of the opposite sex. The ACLU of Mississippi had given the district until Wednesday to change that policy, arguing that banning same-sex prom dates violated constitutional rights. Instead, the school board met and issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the event, "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events."
Do you think this is right? What is your opinion?
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That is sooooo not right what the hell? Lots of girls go with their girl friends in a non sexual way so what's the difference with going with a girl even if she is your significant other.Same sex couple or not, you should be able to go where you want and have fun without being discriminated against.
See and this is why if I was still in high school and dating a girl, I would just go the route of planning as going as "friends" and just be all over her on the dance floor. Even if they kicked us out once we were there, at least I and everyone else would still be getting the prom experience.
I know it kind of defeats the purpose, seeing as the girl would technically be my SO and not just a friend, but I'd rather do it on the sly and still have prom, rather than being denied the experience altogether because I was part of a "non-traditional" couple.
this makes me so angry at the ignorance that exists throughout the generations before us--let us hope we are not the same.
It's wrong because everyone has the right to attend their prom no matter what!
Why can't she go with her girlfriend? Maybe it has something to do with the words "Northern" and "Mississippi. I mean c'mon, sure this kind of nonsense probably happens in a lot of states that are more liberal, but Mississippi hasn't voted for a democratic president since 1976. Hell, the confederate flag is IN THEIR STATE FLAG! What else did you expect from a bunch of hill billies? That and in case that wasn't enough, the county this happened in is neighbors with another which got in trouble for preaching in a public school. Know who you're dealing with.
I'm for complete equality on all fronts, but this girl was du-umb. Why the fuck would she be so stupid as to announce it? You know you live in Redneckville, USA. What the hell did she expect to happen? Taking a stand and making a difference is great, but don't act all hurt and naive like you didn't think it was going to happen.
@thinkpinkpanther@xanga - Before us? It's happening right now. By our generation. Don't fool yourself into thinking it's just the white-haired Bible thumpers that are out there protesting this stuff. I know kids on my campus who are somewhat racist/homophobic/sexist/whatever.
It's only "wrong" because of the word "lesbian". If they were just going together as friends because they didnt have dates, this wouldnt be an issue. I hate how closed minded people are. I have friends who are conservative & they agree this is bullshit. They're not bothering anyone by going to prom with the person they love, so why cant they have the same right. Now they're pissing off HUNDREDS of students by canceling the prom.
Everyone should go somewhere else & host an awesome party & tell those stuffy school officials where to shove their nasty opinions.
Meh, I never attended prom anyway, so I honestly can't say I care. Which makes me wonder why I'm even posting...
@mcmeister89@mancouch - I agree. Mississippi is about as Southern as you can get, so why would you expect anything else?
Wow. I wonder if it would have been alright if both girls would have worn dresses. I don't understand how people think that they have a right to tell others what their sexual preference can be, and who they can and cannot date. Makes me rather angry, because in our day and age there is so much more to worry about then such a simple unhurtful thing like going to prom with the person you like/love.
they cancelled PROM?!?! that's bullshit. wow. it's not like the girl is bringing in some adult creeper pedophile man. i bet they'd allow that shit. but they won't allow this .... *sigh* i love america :P
What's so educational about a prom in the first place that it makes sense to cancel it for "distractions"?
While I don't think it's right to ban her because she's a lesbian.... um, there IS a dress code. Maybe this is just leftover bitterness from my high school days, but we didn't even get a prom where we could dance. We had a banquet instead. We weren't allowed to wear dresses that were sleeveless or had spaghetti straps. The dress had to be at least tea length (and trust me, when I was 16, I did not know what that phrase meant - I had to look it up). If they're operating under similar guidelines, I can understand them saying no. I don't understand why they would cancel the whole freaking prom, though. That is what screams to me that they were being bigoted against her because she is a lesbian and wanted to bring her girlfriend as her date. It's sad that this happened, but um... it's Mississippi. Sadly, the thinking in that area hasn't changed much. :(
Even if i'm not that type, people are people.. i'm so sick of the bible-thumping homophobes saying that you can't be with someone of the same gender. Isn't it kind of completely ridiculous that they're essentially telling you that you can't be with someone you can't fuck?
Our world's on the brink of overpopulation anyway, i don't see how it should be an issue.
@RazorBladeParade@xanga - Exactly, what in the world does that mean!
Honestly this is 2010 and people just need to deal with the fact that like a lot of other things nowadays, society is changing. Anything that is thought to be out of the ordinary is just disregarded and this country needs to learn that this is no longer an accepted matrix for accepting or rejecting things. Why do we really care so much whether there are gays or lesbians in our society, we live in a democracy, which means you do things how you want to because of your own molars and feelings. So what if a guy likes a guy or a girl is in love with another girl. We can only do what's right for us, not for others and people just need to understand this.
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - Exactly!
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - I think it more than just about the prom; going to the prom and not having to lie about their sexual orientations.
People aren't openminded about it because it isn't "normal" to be gay or lesbian; people fear what they don't know. I'm not gay but I've been singled out before because of my race since I grew up being one of the few Asians in my previous community during my childhood -- so I can sympathise with their difficulty of being different.
It is hell for them since they have to go to school everyday where all the other students treat or look at them differently.
Although, it sounds like the event was cancelled due to wanting to avert possible conflicts and not so much that they are against gays/lesbians.
@xXDC_luyouXx - "Although, it sounds like the event was cancelled due to wanting to avert possible conflicts and not so much that they are against gays/lesbians."
That's probably it too but I think they're overreacting. If they were so concerned, just have extra security to keep ignorant people from getting rowdy. I dont know how everyone's prom works but mine had off duty cops patrolling in addition to school campus security.
It's not fair and not right at all. I disagree.. they should still have prom.
i can't believe they would actually cancel prom. now on top of being humiliated and discriminated against, these girls will undoubtedly be the target of even more hatred.. the other students will blame them for causing their prom to be canceled. it's a shame that people still live in such a backwards society. you don't have to agree with their lifestyle choices, but at least respect them. these girls deserve the experience of a high school prom just as much as their heterosexual peers.
@Morningstarrising@xanga - Technically, a tuxedo covers more than a dress does...
@forgottenrevelations@xanga - I'm aware of that. However, there is a separate dress code for the girls and for the guys - at least there was for my school.
Wow, that's an overreaction right there.
I think it's absolutely ridiculous, but it doesn't surprise me. For some reason people are still really discriminating against gay people. I don't understand why, because there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM, but it still happens. I mean, you can believe whatever you want to believe, but when the time comes where you are actually being really hateful, disrespectful and obviously discriminating, like the school not being supportive of the lesbian couple, then it's just unacceptable for me.
I agree with the person who said that the girl shouldn't have mentioned that she was going to bring her girlfriend. It's great to stand up for something and be proud of who you are, of course, but unfortunately the consequences can be ridiculous. She should have just gone with her girlfriend pretending that they were just friends, and then enjoyed prom together without anyone getting in the way. Not saying that it's better to pretend, but it's definitely better to do what you want to be doing and just not let others know what's really going on, that way you can have the experiences you want without any unnecessary conflict.
@Morningstarrising@xanga - Yeah, I recall something like that at my school as well. Still, the spirit of the dress code should be more important than the letter (or at least, that's what a teacher would claim if you tried to violate it along the other extreme...).
@IntheGoldenWest@xanga - But she wants actual rights (and prom photos), not just sneaking under the radar and sharing surreptitious looks all night.
I think there're some things you have to stand up for, and yes, prom is probably one of them.
this actually happened to me my senior year of highschool. i was told that i could not bring my girlfriend to prom (we both planned on wearing formal dresses, though). luckily, my english teacher fought it, and i won the right to bring her.
and then she broke up with me a week before prom, so i took my best friend...who incidentally, was a gay guy. : )
i think it's fine. students should be able to attend prom with whoever they want. gender shouldnt matter