Tuesday, 16 March 2010
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Smut in Relationships
Porn in relationships is common I'm sure. There's that not so well "hidden" file on the computer or the stash of magazines in the bathroom. Whichever. We all know its there. And for the most part I think women accept it, that there man has porn. However it's one thing to have it but another to be caught watching it and most likely jerking to it while the woman is in the other room. That, gentlemen, is not at all appropriate. If the lady's home you should have to stoop to that level. Ask her for some fun! Don't make a fool of yourself from getting caught in the act. And just so you know, its not at all flatter to a woman to see you jerking while she's home. I know it makes me jealous in a way and a wee bit a lot insecure like I can't pleasure you right so you have to watch porn to get that super special feeling.
Just keep that in mind gents.Have you ever caught your man (or woman) watching porn while you were home?
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That grammar made me criiinnnggee!! >.<
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Yikes! It made me cringe too!
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - agreed.
and yeah i caught my bf jerking off once...he thought i was asleep. i told him to wake me up next time :) and he hasn't done it since.
as far as having porn around, he doesn't, i do. i've bought all the playboys we have in the house and i'm the one who has downloaded porn. though my guy did say something today about buying a new playboy. i don't mind. it's healthy and human to look, and i for one enjoy the female form--it's by far one of my favorite things to draw.
it doesn't really bother me, though i've never really had a problem with. i guess i'd feel more insecure if he was jacking off to people he/we knew...THAT would be a problem...but i understand we all need our alone time, and i have a few toys of my own to play with when i'm feeling frisky and my guy isn't available. he knows and understands this, and the least i can do is give him the same respect.
Watching porn has nothing to do with having a girlfriend. How many times do you ladies need to fucking hear it? If a guy is wanking it at home, while you're home, he's probably doing it because you're busy or mad. It's usually one of the two. Or maybe it's late and you're ready for bed and he doesn't want to go to bed with a woody... mostly because it's only slightly more possible than beating the shit out the entire Hell's Angels.
Guys are going to watch porn. Deal with it ladies. Unless you're willing to fuck when and wherever he wants you, expect him to jerk. Some of you may be going "Well OF COURSE I'll do that." Guess what, I bet the truth is, less than 20% of you would or could really satisfy MOST men 100% of the time they need it. The truth is, most men don't need to be satisfied 100% of the time. But say jerking gets him from 70% to 80%, shit that just might be worth the risk of taking a little extra time in the bathroom.
And if you're already insecure enough to be scared of porn stealing your man, don't read this next line:
He can get himself off WAY faster than you ever could. Yeah, that's right. Maybe he just wants to cum, get over the horndog feeling, and get back to his day. Maybe he doesn't have the time for a 20 minute blowjob. I've done it and I bet a lot of other guys have too.
Grow up ladies. Porn exists and we're going to watch it.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Lmao.. :')
It's exactly the same, and exactly as you describe it, the other way around (: which is why I couldn't care less about porn! :D
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Thread over.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Or to get rid of the insecurity, there is always filling up the USB stick with the home movie porn. if you are bold to make it, that is. Cheap digital cameras, to estimate, are only around 70 to 80 dollars.
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - YES.
also, watching porn is neither "bad" nor a male-exclusive activity.
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Same here.
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Lol, why do men think it's just them who watch porn? The truth is, men are useless at satisfying women too! Haha..
porn is disgusting. end of story.
I don't care if my boyfriend jerks off when I'm home. If he consistently does it without ever asking me to help out and we haven't had sex in months, then it's a problem. It also bothers me if he closes the door and hides it, like he's ashamed of masturbating. (He comes from a very conservative Catholic family, so it was drilled into his brain that masturbation and porn are bad things. I've had to convince him otherwise over the past 4 years. They're fine in moderation.)
I'm all for him getting out his sexual tension on his own if I'm too tired or whatever to help. He does it for stress relief, too. As long as he isn't addicted or cybering, I don't care.
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Same here. I could barely pay attention to the point of the post. xD
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I don't give a hoot about what he jerks off to, at the end of the day, he only has sex with me, and that's what matters. And I like porn, so if I caught him, I'd tell him to move over and make it louder.
hahaha. why watch it when you can make love?
I don't care if my boyfriend jerks off. Whatever, everyone does it.
But once I went to my ex's dorm to meet him for dinner. He was in his room and the door was shut, so his roommate let me in. I knocked and told him I was there. He told me he'd be out in a few minutes. Ten minutes later he resurfaces, and I figure out later he was jerking off. What a freaking asshole. I was pissed that he literally made me wait so he could do the nasty.. without me.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Quite possibly the greatest (and most truthful) comment in the history of Datingish, sir.
it can get awkward at times, but truthfully i really don't give a shit, and i'd much rather him do that then pester me for an hour if i just wanna go to sleep or am just really not in the mood. i know i can satisfy him, so why bother trying to prove it just to feel better about myself? i'm too lazy for that shit.
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - I concur.
Perhaps Datingish is running out of posts...
@sumtymesiwonder@xanga - Lol. Your last few sentences reminded me of an indy movie my gf showed me called "In Search of a Midnight Kiss". The main character gets caught by his best friend and his best friend's girl friend doing the Han Solo to his best friends girlfriend's pic.
I just had to share that for some reason. Good movie though.
P.S. That's cool that you like the female form.
I've walked in on my boyfriend jerking off, it was awkward at first but then I just gave him a BJ hahaha...
I always touch myself in the other room or when he's playing video games bc it's just easier. I don't watch porn with him though, I feel like it's a private thing.. Maybe someday.
Actually, such kind of men may not wanna insult the women.
They just wanna try something different and new.
That's what most men are(= v =)
Haha. Let me summarize my relationship. Backstory: he had been reading a blog called DnD With Pornstars (it's about DnD though, not porn at all.)
"So which pornstars are they? Are they legit? Because anyone with a camera can call themselves a pornstar.""I think they're legit.""Any names?""Do you expect me to know? Really? I don't watch porn. I don't need too."
This is very true. Even though we live with eachother, between full time jobs and sleeping we just don't have enough time to focus sexually on eachother, much less on a computer or TV screen. I think we'd both be insulted if we turned the other cheek for smut. It's hilarious and disgusting anyway.
So unlike most girls, I do have sex with him at every given chance.And he doesn't watch porn.
we just take pics/vids of ourselves or our doing our mutual naked activities to enjoy during times apart :P lol ... i highly doubt he'd get himself off while i was right there.
@Cure_Pain@xanga - exactly.
@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Agreed. =/
I would rather not catch my guy watching porn. Simply because that would be awkward for me. I don't want to see porn thanks. Otherwise I don't actually care.
BUT, I do have a friend who actually watches porn with her guy. XD She says that she likes to get 'inspired' by it with him. She's very easygoing though.
So I think it depends really.