Monday, 15 March 2010
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Like a Hole in the Heart
I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. We met in high school, started dating, and graduated. She left to pursue her degree in Hong Kong, while I returned to my home town to serve a mandatory military service. Since then we've been visiting each other on an average of about 6 months between visits. As of now, we're counting 2+ years, and proud to say, still going strong.
Quite recently, my girlfriend had her 21st birthday. For such a significant date, I took leave from the army, without her knowledge, and flew 3.5 hours to appear at her doorstep. She thought it was the perfect present, of course! And I spent the next three days and three nights doing the simple stuff that couples all over the world might take for granted. Stuff like watching a movie together. Window shopping. Spring cleaning. Looking through books at a local coffee store. Sipping hot chocolate in McDonald's at half past midnight. Holding hands, swinging them down the street like four year olds. The kinda stuff that puts a smile on a girl's face, and a warm feeling in a boy's heart.
And all of a sudden, I'm already standing at the airport. I didn't want another goodbye to be so wet and sad, but I guess neither one of us could help it. You know, how it's like in movies, when they talked about being apart for so long that they feel a hole in their heart. Funny, I thought they were exaggerating.
But we're both willing to wait. Waiting to seize the chance to finally live in the same country as each other, at the very least. And that's all that matters...after all, hope has always been mankind's greatest strength.
Anyone else felt like they could wait a hundred more years just to see that special one?
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Awww.... great post, she's a lucky girl.
There are some things worth waiting for, love is one of them, even when it's hard to do.
guh. my boyfriend and I lived 300 miles apart, and saw each other typically once a month- usually every 3 or 4 weeks for 2 days at a time. and I thought THAT was killer...
it does teach you to never take them for granted, and when you're finally together for good... ah. it is so nice.
this is so incredibly sweet. i'm going away to college in the fall, and that means i also will be in a long distance relationship. i hope things turn out okay =]
I used to feel the exact same when I was in a long distance relationship...and it wasn't even all that long...he never seemed to understand why I would cry every single time, but that was really because it felt like there was a hole in my heart and I was crying out of pain.
I'm glad you guys are still growing strong; good luck to the both of you. Loving someone and being loved are such great feelings...
my bf and i are 15+ flight away from each other for a few months, although i would say i will wait, obviously he wouldn't anymore
@greenglow28@xanga - I'm in that situation now.
Due to the fact that my boyfriend doesn't have his licence and I don't have a vehicle, since I am in college and can't afford that. We tend to get to see each other once a month, MAYBE twice, if we're lucky. Sometimes it can be very difficult. Especially on nights when you're feeling extra lonely, and jsut want to cuddle up, but know you cant.I can't imagine being that far away from my boyfriend.I am someone, due to some things that have gone on throughout my life, that has 'separation issues' per say. So, it's very difficult for me to be away from people for long periods at a time.
I personally would be willing to wait as long as I'd have to to see my boyfriend next, I just would hate every minute of it!
I think that you two have a very strong relationship! That would be such a difficult thing for me! Good luck, and I hope it only gets stronger from here!
@Inaheartbeatx@xanga - mah, yeah. he could get rides home with his roommate on occasion, who went to high school with us, or he would pay $80 for a bus ticket to come see me (he didn't have his own car.) I was still in HS so my parents never would've let me visit him. they let me go ONCE, and only because my university is now 1/2 an hour away from his and I convinced them to let me suprise him for his birthday/ go to my university's open house that same weekend, hah. really I just wanted to see him...
thank god we only live 1/2 an hour apart now, and next year we'll be at the same university.
it gets better if you fulfill plans to be closer to one another. I feel like we only made it through last year because we had that reassurance that we'd be together in just a few short months. I don't know how long I could've stuck with it otherwise but I'm glad that was never even a question.
to the author, same thing- it is so hard to stay long distance if you have no plans of eventually being closer. for me, it just hurt too much, and our situation was nowhere NEAR yours...
This is ridiculously sweet.
I sort of understand the pain, mine is simply not that extreme.And yeah... I love him, and he loves me, so.. it's worth it.This warms my heart. It gives me hope, thank you. My boyfriend is in the air force, he lives in Washington state, I reside in Pennsylvania. We are not in different countries, but we are a flight away. I must say, that I have never felt the same feelings for any other person, that I feel for him. I would wait a hundred years plus. I am actually taking my first plane ride to see him, I have 18 more days to wait. <3 I'm real nervous, but the outcome will most definitely be worth it.
Thank you for the post!
grats for making it so far
I just got back yesterday from meeting and visiting my girlfriend in Canada for the first time. We've been together for about 3 months before we met face to face (we met on here, actually). But with the phone calls, web chats and everything, I've felt like I've been with her longer. When we were at the airport the final day before I departed, it wasn't just a hole in my heart. I felt like my heart was ripping itself apart. Holding each other and crying for a half hour, going through the hardest part of a long distance relationship. I long for the day when we can finally live in the same city, let alone country, together, just like you guys.
That's one thing that's great about long distance relationships.. you don't take love for granted.
I'm also in a long distance relationship. It really helps to have support from my friends and my parents. My boyfriend and I talk everyday on the phone, and I'm going to fly to go see him in May, and he's coming to see me in August. I admit, it's hard not being able to see him very often, and it nearly kills me when I hear my friends talk about the dates they go on with their boyfriends, when I wish I could see him even for five minutes. I agree with the statement that in a long distance relationship, you don't take love for granted.
@BlehhItsTu@xanga - It's true.
And for a lot of couples, it makes the connection that much stronger when you have to find ways to communicate over the distance. Every little thing means that much more and when you've tasted the bitter, the outcome is sweetest and the best.
I'm in a long-distance relationship and I couldn't imagine being that far away. My boyfriend and I live a state apart and barely get to see each other. We're lucky if we get to see each other once a month. We try to, don't get me wrong. But he works and goes to school full time (for both) and I have a crazy work schedule. So, we barely ever get to see each other. But we're constantly talking to each other on the phone, through texting, IMing -- Anyway possible. I have a friend who lives five minutes away from her boyfriend and I get insanely jealous when she says she misses him and she just got done spending all day with him. She has no idea what it feels like to have to go through each day wondering when you'll get to see the other person again. But, let me tell you -- When we're together, it's impossible to separate us for more than two seconds. We're constantly by each others side. I may hate the fact that I don't get to see him that often - But I never take him for granted.
On a side note, I don't think I could handle being that afar apart from the person that I loved for that long. It'd drive me nuts. Although, I do think going to see her how you did was cute and highly romantic. (= Love is the one thing that people can wait for no matter what. Good luck to you!
Definitely. I have eyes for only one person.
She's a lucky girl. I've never had to deal with that kind of distance, but the best to both of you.
Lol, this sounds just like my relationship.
I understand perfectly!
It seems lots of couples at my school take MANY, MANY things for granted. Like the simple pleasure of seeing each other.
I'm in a short-distance relationship, but our visits average anywhere from one day to three months. We both can't drive yet (one more year! *squee*) but ... it's all the same.
Truly, I believe a long distance relationship is a good way to learn how to appreciate the simple things in life.
And yes, time DOES pass too quickly when you're with them. But thank you for this post. It... it clears my mind of the doubts hurdling through them. Thank you. Thank you. I hope our relationship can be like yours!
that was the sweetest story <3
Awww...that's so sweet and somewhat romantic.
i understand the situation.
That made me cry. :/
I had a similar experience once.. I had to take an 10 hr trip to see my gf in australia for her bday. Like you, i did all the small things with her and i really appreciate all the moment we had together. In a blink of an eye,10 days past. Just before i left the airport,she hug me n cried at her place. Looking at her,i couldnt help but feel that i should have stayed there with her for a while longer.
I have to admit, I dint feel anything by then since my main concern was to stop her from crying more. When we reached airport, i dont know what happened but i felt a sudden wave of emotion overcoming me. Tears start flowing uncontrollably as she walked me to the departure hall. We hugged n cried , promised each other bunch of stuff. I think it was one of the hardest thing i had to do leaving her like that.
Months past after that..and eventually we started to drift apart. To cut the story short, in the end she just broke it off with me. That left me with a huge hole in my heart... just like the day at the airport. I'll pray that u have a better ending than the one i have. Cos u certainly deserve it.
i met my boyfriend over the summer, knowing that we both belong in two differnet country, dated for about a month when it was time for him to leave, time seems so fast with him by my side, hes 2000 miles away from me, and no, we didnt get to see each toher at all, for one whole year. when he left, i didnt allow myself to turn around and look at him for once more, because i know, the moment i look, i would be completely broken, it was so hard...
thinking we would be together once again since he said he would be back for college, we are facing another challenge, he would be back to the US, but hes also going to be at least 4 hours away from me, im not afraid, if we can overcome a distance of 2000 miles, we can certainly overcome a 4 hour ride..