Monday, 15 March 2010
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Datingish Advice: Twisting Your Words
What do you do when you say something to your SO is twisted and then they get upset at you? It's similar to the "black and white" theory that if you say you won't do something or you are not something, that they automatically assume you are the far opposite end of the spectrum.
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Sometimes you can't say anything and just need for the storm to blow over. Let them calm down and then try explaining, remembering to not play the he-said/she-said or blame game.
haha twisting stories isnt good. ends up in misery
I might just be really tired, but that's a confusing first sentence.
It depends on personality too. I know some people who are hell bent on being right or having the last word, they'll keep fighting even though they know they're wrong. I just avoid that.
Sometimes it may be a case of "I know what I mean but you take it as something else". I try to explain it as best I can to clarify it.
Some people just love to talk and love to be right and won't hear anything otherwise. It will take some huge solid proof to show them that they were wrong in what they say. And by then, the damage is already done.
Only one thing to do - tell them straight. Tell them to stop being immature. And insecure. If they keep doing it, leave them.
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uhm, you try to re-explain yourself.
@PMFoutofwater - Pretty much the best strategy. Used it every time a gf got pissed at something innocent I said that they took the wrong way. Maybe didn't always make them happy in the short run, but they came around and pulled their heads out of their asses.
I don't know, I'm still figuring out that myself. Usually we let each other cool down and then try to express what how we feel and what we were trying to say in the first place.
my family does this. I just do my best to correct them and let fellow family members know what i ACTUALLY said. After that, there's not much else I can do, so i just try to avoid even having conversations with those kind of people--yes, even my family. it's a shitty situation all around but twisting words around only leads to drama and i don't have the time, patience or tolerance for it.