Sunday, 14 March 2010
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Question of the Day: I Was Dumped Because...
I recently broke up with my SO of 6 months. I finally found out the reason why, of course he couldn't tell me in person. He told his friend that I was "too nice" for him -- I guess niceness does have a downfall.
What are some reasons that you've been dumped?
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i don't get dumped, i do the dumping.
my ex-gf crawled back to her ex-bf only to come back to me. haha
You said you broke up with him, so you should know why. Or did he break up with you? "Too nice" isn't a reason women get dumped...men, yes. It must be an oversimplification. unless it means "so nice to others that u dont take care of yourself." On a man, it could be spineless though....and he could get dumped.
we did not agree on how to handle him going to college. and the first relationship... there were many reasons and no reasons. but i just don't think he was ready.
never been dumped...dumped pretty much ever bf I have had for cheating on me though. eh.
I haven't been dumped in a while... I think last time, it was something lame. Some guy I dated in high school... I didn't go out enough or something. He was a big party guy.
Otherwise, I am usually the dumper.
Oh hahah, I got dumped because my boyfriend thought I was shoplifting at the place where he worked (I never have ever shoplifted anything in my entire life) and apperently he had "convincing evidence" that I did shoplift and he broke up with me. Three months later he apoligized to me and said that he messed up and he was sorry. What a failure.
People can be annoyingly nice. Or this could be code for not being exciting in the bedroom. Speaking of which, I think the main reason I'm dumped is the fact I can only last five minutes in missionary. Lack of upper body strength.
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I got dumped once because he was too stressed with school.
Guess talking to me about his problems was out of the question. -_-
Oh well, I hope he's ok and junk but...
i dunno...by logic..every body wants somethign nice. Philosophers think that everyone wants to do good things for themselves. So why would they dump u bcuz u are too nice? That sounds like a bs excuse to hide the real reason. I believe it is usually, they found something that they think will be bettr for them or they see as good that they want instead. Just like u would never reject a promotion cuz it is too good for u. You woulldn't reject a raise cuz it is better for u.
I've only been dumped once, it was a year and a half long relationship in high school. He kissed me in the senior picture, and an hour later called me up because he 'couldn't do it anymore' [dating me]...turns out his twin brother told him months ago that we're not a good match...
O_o
Usually they cheat on me, or are just not very nice people, so I end up dumping them.
But the first and only time I've ever been dumped - it was because he had recently started doing mephedrone and it changed him. He became depressed and angry all the time, so he broke up with me because he thought it was unfair on me. Fair enough, I suppose. He was my favourite of everyone so far though. (:
He said that God told him I wasn't the one for him.
he told me that he was on a downward spiral and he didn't want to take me with him.
Um, well I wasn't dumped for any certain reason I don't think. I was ignored out of nowhere, then when I didn't 'fix' things because..I was ignored..?, I was dumped. I'm honestly not even sure why. My ex was odd.
I was dumped once because he said I was just too young and it made him feel bad. I was 16 at the time and he was 20. Now that I'm almost 20 I see where he was coming from.
I don't get dumped because I get rejected from the very beginning.
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Not going to lie..being too nice is super annoying. Over niceness can get a) annoying or b) really creepy
Once it was because he thought we wouldn't get married (and this was after 2 weeks in the relationship....)
The other time was because he thought I was too preoccupied with my appearance. I had never been on a diet, asked him if my clothes were unflattering, said I wanted cosmetic surgery, fixed my hair or put makeup on in front of him. Nothing to suggest I was insecure about my looks. His reason? I had to get a tumor removed from my face and was concerned that the procedure would leave a large scar. (Which seemed like a likely possibility) and earlier I had said that I hoped I made it as a musician before I started looking too old. (which is actually a valid concern for a woman trying to make it as a performer). So obviously that must mean I was overly vain. I felt incredibly hurt by that.
@Cuisine - Agreed. "too nice" usually translates to spinelessness. Be more independent in your next relationship, it's probably better for you in the long run anyway.
I usually end up doing the dumping.
Uh? 'Too nice'
Yeah fucking right.
...Eh, i've been dumped because the relationship wasn't going anywhere. Both parties were devastated and better off.
@EccentricSiren@xanga - You're better off without him. You weren't being unreasonable or 'vain' what a dick, honestly.
im not really sure why i was dumped in the past. Im always confused when it happens. When I do the dumping, yea I know. My exes were just kind of cryptic.
well one i can remember, he was just tooo busy. I didnt understand that. turns out he really was. And now he wants to be with me again. apparently never really stopped, he just literally didnt have the time.